Posts tagged "saying i love you"

Dater X: V-Day & The L-Word

Valentine’s Day is juuuuust around the bend, and in unusual circumstances for me, I can actually celebrate it this year with, GASP,  a man. I’ve always been a fan of Valentine’s Day, even at my most miserably single, because as a person who loves a lot (and always really, really hard), I bask in any…

Dater X 2.0 / February 11, 2015

Date-Ade Episode 2: On Accidents & Accidental “I Love Yous”

I think I’ve mentioned (numerous times) that canned dating advice drives me crazy. Love and relationships are not a one-size-fits-all pair of shoes. I admittedly don’t have all the answers, but I’ve found that I give the best advice when I share my own stories — as weird as they may be — and offer…

Ami Angelowicz / August 22, 2013

Dating Don’ts: 7 Times When “I Love You” Doesn’t Count

The phrase “I love you” — despite endless debates about who should say it first and how often it should be said — only holds as much significance as the person saying it assigns to the phrase. Yes, say it if you feel like it and not because you expect to hear it in return.

The Frisky / September 18, 2012

Dear Wendy: “Should I Ask Him Directly If He Loves Me?”

By boyfriend and I have been together two years. About six months ago, I finally said “I love you,” deciding that if I didn’t say it first he never would. I am still waiting for him to say it back and I’m rather conflicted about the whole thing. First, we are very happy despite some…

Wendy Atterberry / September 15, 2011

Girl Talk: Is “I Love You” Really That Important?

“I love you,” I told Jeremy, gazing deeply into his eyes. I was 13 and he had just given me a mix tape containing “Jeremy” by Pearl Jam and “November Rain” by GNR. To me, this meant we were in love.

“I love you too,” he said.

I expected a band of unicor…

Ami Angelowicz / May 11, 2011

Dear Wendy Updates: “Bated Breath” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Bated Breath” who wondered if she should wait for her long distance boyfriend of four months to say…

Wendy Atterberry / May 9, 2011

Mind Of Man: How We Say “I Love You” (Without Actually Saying, “I Love You”)

In honor of Valentine’s Day, we’re rerunning the very first Mind of Man which originally was published in February 2008. It’s an oldie, but SUCH a goodie.

OK ladies, check it out: We love you. We love watching your sleeping face glow on our 150-thread count pillowcases. We love that mischievous glint in your…

John DeVore / February 9, 2011

Dear Wendy: “How Long Does It Take The Average Person To Say ‘I Love You’?”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about seven months, and things are going amazingly. For the first time in my life, I feel emotionally healthy and secure with myself. I spent a year being single, working on loving myself and I’m no longer battling the constant fear that the man I’m with will abandon me…

Wendy Atterberry / January 19, 2011

Dear Wendy: “I’m Scared To Say ‘I Love You'”

My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a while now, and quite a few times in the past few months (especially recently) he’s told me that he loves me or is in love with me. Every time I’m with him my thoughts are screaming “I love you!” and I want to say…

Wendy Atterberry / January 11, 2011

Dear Wendy: “I Accidentally Said ‘I Love You’!”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss accidentally dropping…

Wendy Atterberry / December 23, 2010

Dear Wendy: Why Won’t He Say “I Love You”?

Wendy is off today. So in lieu of a brand-new Dear Wendy, we’re rerunning one of her early columns.

Wendy Atterberry / October 25, 2010

Girl Talk: Love And The Absence Of Love

I was lying in the bed of my current lover. I don’t know if I would call him a lover, maybe just an intimate friend. Or a spiritual hookup. I’ve stopped labeling these things since I turned 30. They are too nuanced and complicated to put a name to.

Ami Angelowicz / August 18, 2010

34 Ways To Say “I Love You” Without Actually Saying “I Love You”

Sure, Valentine’s Day has passed and the Hallmark cards and heart-shaped balloons are now in the half-off bin, but if you’re in a relationship, there’s no reason to slack off on showing you care the other 364 days of the year. Still, saying “I love you” doesn’t always come easy or convey the depth of…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / February 17, 2010

Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: How Often Do You Say “I Love You”?

I think there are two schools of thought when it comes to saying the words “I love you.”
Say it sparingly, saving it for those moments when you truly want to communicate the depth of your caring for another person.
Say it as often as you’d like, because if you feel it, no amount…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 27, 2010

I’m Always The First To Say “I Love You”

Our homeys at Asylum recently referenced a study revealing it takes the average guy seven months to say the three magic words: “Let’s eat acid.” Kidding, it’s “I love you,” of course, and the average woman takes eight months to say the same phrase. / December 6, 2009

Dear Wendy: Anniversary Let-Down And Dropping The L Bomb

My boyfriend Curtis and I have been going out for six months now. Just last Tuesday we celebrated our six month anniversary. So I asked a friend what I should get him. This is my first real relationship ever lasting 6 months. She said get him a card, so I found one that pretty much…

Wendy Atterberry / September 23, 2009

10 Inappropriate Times To Say “I Love You”

Saying “I love you” can be just as confusing as figuring out whether you’re in love or lust. Do you say it first? Do you wait for him to say it first? And when you’re ready, how exactly do you say it? See, I told you it’s confusing. Anyway, we’ve obviously got your back. Here…

Annika Harris / May 29, 2009

10 Ways Not To Say “I Love You”

On Monday night’s “Gossip Girl” season finale, Chuck told Blair he loves her. While the gesture was nice, the words missed the mark. He didn’t say, “I love you.” He said, “I love you, too.”

Adding the “too” is fine every once in a while, but it’s definitely not cool the first time…

Catherine Strawn / May 20, 2009

How To Get A Guy To Say “I Love You” First

It’s never easy — or emotionally healthy — to try to make a guy fall in love with you, but that’s not what this article is about. This is about the guy who already loves you, and how you can encourage him to finally say it already. I’ve expressed my feelings about women saying “I…

Wendy Atterberry / April 22, 2009