I’d had sex in cars, on floors, in the green grass. I’d had kinky sex, vanilla sex, drunk sex and stoned sex. I’d had sex with near strangers. I’d had sex with men I deeply loved. I’d had double-digit lovers in total. But I’d had never had sex in one of the most common configurations known to heterosexual copulators: the position known as “doggy style.”
It was the number one sexual position of my fantasies, which, admittedly, did not always include penetrative sex. But when they did, it was always from behind. Keep reading »
Sure, “True Blood” and “Mad Men” don’t have a whole lot in common—”True Blood” is a fast-paced vampire dystopia that manages to be as sexy as it is gory, while “Mad Men” is a hyper-real slow burn about advertising dudes in the 1960s. And yet, these two shows are starting to be linked in my mind because they now air back-to-back on Sunday nights. But maybe these shows have more in common than meets the eye? Last night, there was a sex scene in “Mad Men” that reminded me a whole lot of that freaky Bill Compton moment on “True Blood” a few weeks ago. I’ll explain what I mean after the jump, for folks who haven’t had a chance to watch yet. Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, my gentle and loving boyfriend of three months held me down and forced me to have sex with him against my will, and then told me I had asked for it. And technically, he was right.
Jacob and I had only been dating about a month and a half when I intimated that I had a rape fantasy. Over the years, I’d had my share of experience with role-playing and rough sex. I vividly recall a male friend of mine in college telling me that I had a distinct air of “sexual prey” about me, and me thinking that this was a huge compliment. Being dominated and playing the innocent who secretly wasn’t had been my currency and had guided the sexual dynamic I forged with partners for the last 10 years. But only for the last few months had I allowed myself to entertain what I considered to be the final frontier — a simulated rape. Keep reading »
I thought I’d had “rough sex” before; I’d been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I’m submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I’d had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I’d never wanted to be choked until I got together with the guy I’m dating now. Keep reading »
Rough sex. Sure, it’s not for the faint of heart, but it certainly has a large and enthusiastic following. But lately it’s been getting some bad press and from “The Girl Next Door” at Men’s Health mag. A reader wrote in to her because his girlfriend wants him to pull her ponytail during sex. The Girl Next Door sees this as being potentially sadistic. Hmm, everyone has a right to have the sex they like and be open about what they do want with a partner. Sure, some people like to get pretty freaky — like on The Tyra Show, for example — but a little hair-pulling doesn’t seem so nutty. Still, if a little rough sex is weird enough to freak a guy out about his girlfriend, then maybe they’re just not compatible. What do you guys think? [Men’s Health] Keep reading »