Last Friday, the weather was so lovely that I decided to walk home from work. On my way, I stopped by a deli and bought a big bunch of beautiful peonies, my favorite flower. They’re only in season for six weeks and I basically hoard them during that time. So anyway, a few blocks from my apartment, a guy in his early-’20s sidled up next to me and asked, “Who bought you flowers?”
“I bought them for myself,” I replied. Oh lord, what’s this dude want?
“Awwww,” he said with pity in his voice. “That’s so sad. A guy should be buying you flowers. I would.”
This, friends, is classic negging. Buying yourself flowers is sad! Flowers are supposed to be bought for you! By a mannnn! I should be flattered that this guy, who just declared my flower-buying “sad,” would buy me flowers. Little old sad me. What-the-fuck-ever. I rolled my eyes, uttered an “mmkay,” and detoured down another street.
The truth is, while it’s of course nice to get a bouquet from a dude, flowers are actually on the short list of so-called “romantic gifts” that boyfriends sometimes give that I would actually rather buy for myself. Allow me to explain… Keep reading »
Now that Valentine’s Day has passed, it’s time to look forward, to shed past heartache and focus on finding someone special this year. Maybe you’ve tried online dating? But perhaps the sites you’re using are too general, and aren’t helping you meet the right people. What if you really want to shed your city living and move to a farm? There’s a site for that. Or what if you’re jonesing to meet a real life member of the geek squad? We can help you find one of those, too. Click through for our list of specialty dating sites that could bring you closer to finding your perfect match.
Call it the “Knocked Up” syndrome — when an attractive actress is romantically paired onscreen with a guy she’d never give a second thought to — but Hollywood has made quite a habit of casting unrealistic and unbelievable romantic pairs. Even before Seth Rogen made a baby with Katherine Heigl, stars like Woody Allen and Chevy Chase were casting themselves opposite knockout leading ladies. (Chase famously admitted that he wanted Beverly D’Angelo cast as his wife in the “National Lampoon”‘s series because she was so pretty.) And guys aren’t the only ones guilty of this (cough, Queen Latifah, cough).
Check out our list of wildly mismatched onscreen couples we just can’t believe.
Relationships are a little like glaciers; under various pressures, they’re always moving and changing, gathering all sorts of debris. But after some time, they move so slowly, it’s easy to forget they’re there, particularly when you live together. To use a more familiar metaphor, one day your relationship is a wild ride, all loops and corkscrews, and then, out of nowhere, it’s mellowed and straightened out.
Actually, it’s worse than that. It’s stagnating. Read more…
Want to give a Valentine’s Day card to your partner, lover, or BFF, but aren’t really into the Hallmark vibe? If irreverent and sarcastic expressions of love are more your speed, Etsy cardmakers have got you covered. Here are 10 of our favorite naughty, funny, nerdy, and totally random Valentine’s Day cards…
Confession? I love Valentine’s Day. I know it’s not cool to admit, but I’m a big soppy romantic at heart. Any day devoted to chocolates, flowers and other showy displays of l’amour is okay by me. (And even if I’ve been single on V-Day, my dad has always sent me a box of chocolate in the mail!) This year my dude has been warning me to keep my expectations low, which I guess means we’re taking a hot air balloon ride instead of a private jet to Mustique? I know I am alone in my Valentine’s Day love … so I chatted with some of the dudes on my IM to plumb the depths of their hatred. Keep reading »