So, I know I’m a killjoy. I know that people like to say cute things to each other when they’re in love because those things sound good whether or not they make any sense. But I’ve heard a few too rational people saying gross, unthinking things about their SO’s lately, and it makes me fear for their sense.
My boyfriend is a big dope, and I instituted a rule a long time ago that if he was going to say anything brainlessly dramatic or sentimental to me, he had to say it in a dramatic whisper so I could laugh at it. I just don’t like saying or being told things that are not literally true for the sake of it sounding loving, when expressing love truthfully is so much harder but so much better. Here’s a list of some whisper-worthy, saccharine, and not-very accurate gushiness that just needs to stop happening in the way we talk about our partners. Keep reading »
Researchers have found evidence that watching rom-coms and sitcoms impact our views on love. TV seems to shape our view of reality in every other realm of life, so I’m not exactly shocked it’s also true for romance.
Why Dave Is Still Single, a study by University of Michigan researchers, asked participants how frequently they watch rom-coms, marriage-themed reality shows and sitcoms.They discovered that participants who watch a lot of rom-coms and romantic reality shows were more likely to believe in things like love at first sight and “The One” – you know, the stuff that keeps us forever alone because we’re stubbornly waiting for some ever-elusive meet cute with a Ken doll that will never arrive. These participants were more likely to agree with phrases like “My ‘true love’ will be nearly perfect” or the concept that they’d know immediately if their significant other was right for them. Keep reading »
We’re pretty intrigued by this photo series project called “Feminism is not a means to just justify self entitlement,” in which signs held by a man and a woman clarify what it can mean to be in a relationship while being a feminist. I know I’ve definitely had moments where I’ve gotten caught up in where feminism fit within traditional dating rituals; this series explains some points of confusion about gender roles and simply being a loving partner.
Do these pictures resonate with you or do you feel like they already go without saying? I find myself leaning in both ways — these are important points that some people don’t understand, but I would hope a reasonably thoughtful person doesn’t need the difference between chivalry and oppression to be spelled out. I’d love your thoughts. [Jezebel, Imgur]
Quick! It’s Valentine’s Day! If you are planning to run to CVS for a schmoopy card and a box of chocolates during your lunch hour, you are shit out of luck, my friends. That place is going to look like a tornado ripped through it. How about an e-card instead? How about a free e-card instead? You won’t look cheap, you’ll look thrifty. Here’s four different sites with diverse cards for all different types of relationships you have this Valentine’s Day. Send one to your mom! And your best friend! And me!
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I consider myself a romantic and love it when the person I’m crushing on, dating, or seriously involved with puts forth an effort to woo me. Seriously, nothing will make my panties drop faster than a guy giving me a bouquet of gorgeous peonies, my favorite flower. But that’s about as traditionally romantic as my wooing tastes go. It’s not that I’m high maintenance; it’s just that most traditional “romantic” gestures strike me as fake and over-the-top, or just plain irritate and embarrass me. Like, in all my years hate-watching “The Bachelor,” I don’t think I’ve ever thought, Oh man, I wish someone would take me on a fairytale date like this! And, in speaking to my friends, it turns out that I’m not alone. So fellas, if you’re thinking about how to woo your special lady this Valentine’s Day (or any day, really, as Valentine’s Day as a concept is about as fake romantic as they come), I suggest nixing these seven supposedly swoon-worthy gestures in favor of something more personal and creative.
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A study by Rice University and the University of North Texas has found that for lots of us, height does matter when it comes to choosing a partner.
Researchers set out to learn more about height preferences in the heterosexual dating world by conducting a study split into two parts. The first part compiled data from Yahoo! personal dating ads and consulted the opinions of 455 heterosexual men (with an average height of 5’8″ and average age of 36) and 470 heterosexual women (with an average height of 5’4″ and an average age of 35). Only 13.5 percent of guys said they prefer to date women who are shorter than they are. The women in the study, on the other hand, were a bit pickier: 48.9 percent of women would only date men who are taller than they are.
The study’s second part enlisted volunteers from a U.S. university to take an online survey with open-ended questions. The survey included 54 men (who averaged 5’9″ tall) and 131 women (with an average height of 5’4″). Researchers found that 37 percent of men would only date women who are shorter than them, and 55 percent of women would only date men who are taller than them – very similar to the study’s previous findings. Keep reading »