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I Survived Being In A Terrifying Cult, And Barely Got Out With My Snacks

“They left me naked and bleeding in the woods during the Men’s Training Weekend.” More »


I Asked My Boyfriend To Sleep With Someone Else, And It Was Fantastic For Both Of Us

I found myself capable of deriving sexual pleasure from my boyfriends’ experience. I’ve since read this feeling is called “compersion.” Compersion is defined by the urban dictionary as the “feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship.” More »


After My Breakup, I Realized I Didn’t Miss My Ex — I Missed Who I’d Been When I Was with Her

The denial burned my heart and my throat and I stopped paying attention to myself and all that was happening on the level right below my heartbreak. I was falling apart. And it wasn’t just because of her. More »


What It’s Like To Be Obsessively Nostalgic — And How I Broke Free

I’ve started to realize that while looking back and remembering the things that matter to us is important, there’s a definite line between being sentimental and getting stuck.    More »


10 Toxic People You Absolutely Must Drop From Your Life In Your 20s

In an effort to keep you from being among the shut-ins (which for the record are one of my favorite categories of people) of the universe, there are some types of people who you could cut out right now. More »


This Russian Guy Is Suing His Ex For Money Spent During Their Relationship. Uh, Sorry Bro, That’s Not How This Works.

Who doesn’t want their money back after a breakup? More »


These ‘Commitment Rings’ Guarantee That Your Partner Won’t Watch The Next Episode Without You

If there are trust issues between you and your partner, there are only so many apps you can download before enrolling in couples’ therapy. Certain infidelities are totally unforgivable, of course. Cheating is a no go. But, watching Bloodline before your person is caught up? Don’t do it! Thank god for these rings that preventMore »


This Brilliant Chart Is A New And Much-Improved Way To Identify Your Sexual Orientation

An update to the old Kinsey scale of sexual identification, the Purple-Red Scale of Attraction factors in more than simply whether you like men or women (because there are a hell of a lot of possibilities in between). More »


Jenny Slate Is Dating Chris Evans After Her Divorce, Which Is Just Glorious On So Many Levels

Come on — the couple that created Marcel the Shell With Shoes On got divorced? I texted my friends when it happened. If they couldn’t make it, who could? Today, there is hope: Jenny Slate and Chris Evans, aka Captain America, are dating, according to Us Weekly. I, for one, believe again.More »


#MaybeHeDoesntHitYou Exposes Non-Violent Domestic Abuse, Which Is Every Bit As Real And Destructive

The word “abuse” often brings to mind the image of battered women with black eyes and bruised thighs; however, there are multiple types of abuse, some only leaving internal scars. More »


This Dating Website Helps You Meet Someone In Canada To Marry Your Trump-Fearing Ass Safely Over The Border

Way to not let this horrific opportunity slide by, Maple Match. I see you. Now please save me. Tell Sandra Oh my body is ready. More »


Tinder’s New Share Feature Lets You Set Up Your… Coworkers

Tinder is solidly medium at anticipating users’ needs. First, they introduced a feature to match users with a presidential candidate. Now, they’re introducing a “share button” so you can stop taking a screenshot every loser or surprise hottie’s profile — Tinder will now play nicely with apps from Slack to LinkedIn to iMessage. Once a recipient gets the message, says Business Insiderthey… More »


Finally, An App For Bad Boyfriends To Buy Their Way To Love!!

Imagine you are a very important man, working on very important man things. You know, like fixing that bike you bought in 2014, or running a startup out of  your basement or brewing craft beer created with the yeast from your pubic hair. You know, super important dude stuff. Stuff that precludes you from being… More »


French Courts Will Jail a Man for Sending His Ex the Gun Emoji

A 22-year-old French boy-man will learn a lesson about the power of text messages after being sentenced to jail time for sending his ex-girlfriend threatening texts, including the gun emoji. After a “bad breakup,” the man’s messages left his ex afraid to leave her home, says The Local.

His lawyer argued that an emoji… More »


Make It Stop: Should I Go To My Ex’s Wedding?

On one hand, I want to support him, but on the other hand, I’m not sure how it would make my boyfriend feel to be my date to my ex’s wedding. More »


Dater X: Meet The Parents

This week in Things I Worried About But Shouldn’t Have: The Bartender met my parents.

Generally speaking, I don’t tend to fret about boyfriends meeting Mama and Papa X. For one thing, my parents are delightful humans who go out of their way to be friendly to all of the rare specimens that… More »


Why The “Suitable Partner Shortage” Is A Reproductive Rights Issue For Black Women

When people ask me about whether or not I want to have children, the conversation is often very short and quite simple. For college-educated black women, the shortage of suitable black men is quickly becoming a reproductive rights issue, with many of these women opting out of motherhood all-together after finding their options in the… More »


Dater X: Moving Right Along

With things mostly calm here in my world, I thought this week might be a good one for a recap, and with it, some additional stories that haven’t always fit into my weekly columns since I started seeing The Bartender.

I noticed that there seem to be some misunderstandings about how much time… More »


Get Closer To Your SO With A 7-Day Intimacy Challenge!

Look, I get it — relationships get stale. You’ve been together for, like, 56 years, and it can feel as though you’ve both seen all there is to see. He’s walked in on you peeing. You’ve witnessed him shaving his manhood. He’s heard you singing Adele into your hairbrush. You found his secret stash of… More »


Make It Stop: I Want a Second Chance at Love!

How do I rekindle the flame?! More »


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