Every second of every day, some couple somewhere is fighting about something either completely ridiculous, semi ridiculous or actually kind of legitimate, and someone’s always going to walk away the victor of the argument. It has been said that you can tell a lot about a person’s character by the way they fight whether they’re a screamer, a crier, stubborn or submissive. Aw, the wonderful world of arguing. Keep reading »
“Aaron misses you and can’t live without you,” was Dr. W’s first line at our first session.
I turned to my handsome, curly haired off-and-on beau of six years, sitting beside me on the couch of Dr. W’s office. I’d left Aaron because he couldn’t commit. Yet after three months apart, he coerced me to a couples session with his new therapist, Dr. W, “just for closure.”
“He’s so happy you could make it here today,” Dr. W added.
“And who are you, Cyrano de Bergerac?” I asked. Read more … Keep reading »
In this interview on PJTV, Dr. Helen Smith interviews Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis, coauthors of Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex: How Changing Your Everyday Habits Will Make You Hot for Each Other All Over Again.
Prior to watching the video, I thought, Eh, another couple of broads with a relationship book, but what they’re saying is actually really interesting — and, I think, spot-on. Keep reading »
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who is of a different nationality than you? If so, then you likely know the difficulties you two will/have come up against. To spell it out plainly: It’s no easy feat to bring your international lover (legally) to the United States. And it’s none too simple for Americans to settle abroad either. For many couples in this situation, there are two options—break up or get married. But what if you’re not ready to do either? (Or worse, what if you’re a gay couple who wants to move to a state where gay marriage isn’t recognized?) On top of that, there’s also the cultural question. Can your lover adapt to the language and lifestyle of your home? Or are you ready to become an expat yourself?
If you’ve had experience with this type of relationship, we want to hear from you! How did you make it work? (Or didn’t it?) What technical steps did you have to go through? Was it worth it? Keep reading »
So what’s a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that’s keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship.
The following are some common bad love habits: Keep reading »
Our own “Mind of Man” columnist has argued that couples moving in together is the kiss of death for a relationship. I think he’s crazy — always, always, always move in together before you commit to marriage, trust me! — but there are other real kiss of death moments for couples. Check out “15 Signs You’re Headed For Bed Death,” after the jump. Just don’t be mad at us if you decide to dump your boyfriend as a result. Keep reading »
A recent article from Men’s Health lays out 16 ways a guy can save his relationship with his lady, most of which are remarkably idiotic. While I agree that talking to your girlfriend rather than you best buddy about your relationship (#8) is probably a good idea, I’m worried that the other 15 suggestions are just leading men down long, lonely roads of cold shoulders and sexless nights. After the jump, a few of the so-called relationship-savers that sound especially destructive. Keep reading »
After liveblogging four hours of “The Bachelor” over the last two days, it’s no wonder I cannot get Poo-Poo Bach (as he was renamed last night), Sloppy Seconds (aka Molly), and Melissa out of my mind. As a result, it inspired this week’s Thoughts From Guys On Our IM topic, specifically breakups, and how much effort a couple should put in to saving a relationship before calling it quits. As I wrote about yesterday, “The Bachelor” hit a little close to home for me (not in a crying way, just in a “oh, I can relate to that” way), as I felt like in my breakup, I was given the option of trying to save what my fiance and I had. But how do guys feel about how much time and effort they should put into trying to make things work? Or are they more likely to throw in the towel as soon as the going gets rough? Between yesterday and today, I IM’d them to find out. Keep reading »
Over at Tracie Egan’s blog One D At A Time, she writes about a recent fight she had with her fiance, in which she was left so enraged (and convinced that they were through) that she put his electric guitar in her bathtub and proceeded to pee on it over the course of a day. Oh, and she had her period too, “so it was extra destructive and stinky. The guitar, of course, is ruined.”
This anecdote is buried within a larger post about the Rihanna/Chris Brown scandal and she tells it as a way of conveying what it’s like to be both the offender and the offendee. And while the context of the post is sad — the image of Rihanna post-beating is at the bottom — this particular nugget made me almost wet myself. Haven’t we all done something out of control to the one we love/like in a crazy rage? I have. Years ago, when I was drunk and out on the town, the guy I loved (loved, like, madly) told me he had a new girlfriend — in a rage (he had waited to tell me this information until after I had taken an eight hour bus ride down to visit him in D.C.) I kind of, sort of, maybe shoved him into oncoming traffic. He didn’t get hurt at all, thank god, and somehow has forgiven me. We’re even friends! What’s the nuttiest thing you’ve ever done when you’ve been pissed at a significant other? Keep reading »