Posts tagged "relationship issues"

Dater X: The First Big Fight

It was bound to happen.

Dater X 3.0 / September 1, 2015

Make It Stop: “Should I Dump My Boyfriend Before Or After His Friend’s Wedding?”

Is there ever a right time to stomp on someone’s heart?

Anna Goldfarb / May 15, 2015

True Story: He Cheated, I Stayed

I knew exactly what I’d do if I found out my partner had cheated. At least, I thought I did. The truth of the matter is, no one knows how they will react in that situation until they are faced with the agonizing truth. Your mind will be flooded with questions like “Why did thi…

Savannah Hemmings / April 28, 2015

Make It Stop: “My Boyfriend Downright Refuses To Ever Dance With Me!”

She’s a professionally trained dancer who loves to cut a rug, but her boyfriend is content to plant his butt in a chair and never move his feet. Is there anything that can be done?

Anna Goldfarb / March 13, 2015

Make It Stop: “My Boyfriend Keeps Sabotaging My Diet!”

I’m trying to lose weight, but my boyfriend, who I’ll call Joey, keeps sabotaging me. Like, if I want a side salad, he’ll talk me into ordering the French fries as a reward because I’ve been so good with my diet all week. Or he’ll stock his freezer full of…

Anna Goldfarb / February 6, 2015

Girl Talk: Unemployed And Unemployable

My life three years ago is sometimes incomprehensible to me. Retrospectively, it’s so absurd that it’s hard to believe that the things that happened happened, or that I tolerated some of the things that happened, or that I actively participated in some of the things that happened.
Enough mystery. When Jessica’s article about the

Rebecca Vipond Brink / August 22, 2014

Life After Dating: The Case For Living Separately

My boyfriend Max and I don’t live together, but since it takes about two minutes to walk from my place to his, I sometimes feel like we do. When I first started thinking about moving to his neighborhood, the idea had been to move in with him (we’ve been together two years), but when a…

Claire Hannum / July 14, 2014

True Life: I Hate My Mother

My mother is vindictive, controlling and outright mean. If I could list the ways she passive aggressively told me I was fat, told me my boyfriend was too stupid, too nerdy, too poor, to high maintenance, whatever—if I could count the times she’s implied I was stupid, that my only success would come with marrying…

College Candy / November 10, 2013

5 Easy Ways To “Win” Any Fight (And Feel Better About Yourself)

When I was in middle school, I was picked to become a peer mediator. At the time, I was just stoked to get out of classes for two days for program-mandated training, but it ended up being some of the most useful stuff I learned in school. The theory behind peer mediation is that kid…

Julie Gerstein / May 10, 2013

Girl Talk: I Put Myself On Mute For A Guy — And I’ll Never Do It Again

I like to consider myself a strong and independent woman. I live alone; I take care of myself and never waiver in my beliefs. I’ve managed to convince myself that I’m fearless; I look confrontation in the eye and am without regret in my behavior – even when it isn’t the most flattering or well…

Amanda Chatel / November 9, 2012

Girl Talk: Why Checking Your Partner’s Email And Phone Is Not Smart

Recently, Jools Oliver, wife of chef Jamie Oliver, and writer Samantha Brick both proudly declared that they check their husbands’ emails and phones regularly, and credit their successful marriages in part to such snooping. Oliver said that even though she monitors her husband’s email, phone and Twitter account, “He says I’m a jealous girl, but…

Rachel Kramer Bussel / August 3, 2012

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Lies About His Porn Viewing”

I’ve been with my boyfriend — my first boyfriend — for almost two years now. I am away from home at school, only an hour and half drive away, and we see each other every weekend. He stays with me when he comes to visit. Recently the past couple of times he has come to…

Wendy Atterberry / August 18, 2011

Girl Talk: I’m Divorced, Get Over It

This month marks the six-year anniversary of my divorce. A lot has changed since then. I’ve lived on my own (no parents, roommates, boyfriend, or husband). I dated again for the first time in a long time (how long? there was no internet the last time I dated). I changed jobs, got another degree, changed…

Angela Tung / August 16, 2011

Girl Talk: On Being A Slob

My name is Winona and I am a slob.

Growing up, my mom affectionately referred to my bedroom as “the pig sty,” and rightfully so: the clothing, books, art supplies and cereal bowls that covered the floor would often reach knee-height before I felt the urge to tidy up a bit. At some…

Winona Dimeo-Ediger / August 12, 2011

Dear Wendy: “We Don’t Have Sex Anymore”

My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year. We used to have sex several times a day, but over the past six months it has decreased significantly. We are in an intense graduate program, so last semester both of us were quite swamped with work and lost our libidos. After the stress of…

Wendy Atterberry / June 29, 2011

Girl Talk: How “Intervention” Helped Me To Forgive

I was really young and naïve when I met Christian* at a nightclub. By “young,” I mean 18 and by “naïve,” I mean an inexperienced dater who thought men would only like me for my intelligence.

“Isn’t she beautiful?” Christian asked some other club goers in line. I looked behind me to see…

Ami Angelowicz / January 21, 2010

Girl Talk: Why Do I Always Try To Change Men?

I’ve been in therapy for, oh, almost four years, I think. I go once a week, for 45 minutes. I spend a lot of time talking about myself, obviously — issues I have from the past that I need to work on because they’re affecting me in the present (and potentially the future), as well…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / January 6, 2010

Girl Talk: Can A Relationship Become Too Comfortable Too Fast?

Recently, my boyfriend expressed some fear that we had moved too fast. While it’s only been four months, it feels like way more. Not quite a lifetime, but certainly a few years. We had clicked almost instantly, and while I was less than a year out of a nearly five-year relationship and he was, um,…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / December 28, 2009

Confessions Of A Former Ball Buster

I am what you might call a “ball buster.” My ex-fiance’s dad always used to laugh when I would tease his son, taking him down a notch or two when he was being cocky or arrogant. He would say, “Man, you really know how to take his knees out!” His wife was similar in her…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / November 6, 2009

Breakup Lesson #472: Trust Your Gut

When did I become the star of the Lifetime movie, “In Love With A Stranger”? (This movie does not exist yet, but it should.) Was this the way “General Hospital”‘s Elizabeth Webber felt when she found out her husband, Ric Lansing, had kidnapped Carly Corinthos and was keeping her locked up in a secret room…

Amelia McDonell-Parry / July 2, 2009