There comes a time in every free-wheeling, fun-having relationship where a lady has to suck it up, buckle down and meet the people who spawned her beloved. Nine times out of ten, this happens around the holidays, and there is almost always a festive meal involved. The most wonderful time of the year? Yeah, right.
The first thing you need to do is get the skinny from your man. What are his parents like? Are they churchgoers? Recovering hippies? Military? You need to know what you’re up against. Though each set of parents is different (and once you throw in stepparents, you could be dealing with a couple sets), there are some universal things you should definitely not do if you want to make a good impression. Here are a few examples: Keep reading »
When you think about it, all the decadence and pleasure wrapped up in Christmas make it a rather sexy holiday. So many yuletide activities—eating chocolates, spending time in front of a roaring fire in your pajamas, gift-giving—naturally lead to romantic moments. At least they do in holiday movies like “When Harry Met Sally,” “Love, Actually” and “The Family Stone,” where falling in love is the true Christmas miracle. If you’re already in love, though, how do you rev up the Christmastime passion? We can think of at least 10 ways for you and your partner to put the x in your X-MAS this year. Keep reading »
When I was working as an English professor, my fiancée ran a medium-sized company and made 15 times as much money per year as I did—before her bonus. Like many men, I’m proud and competitive. I had already accepted that I wasn’t going to earn more in my lifetime than my father. Now I blanched when I wanted to take my darling to dinner: would we go to the kind of place she’s used to, which I couldn’t come close to affording, or would she be willing to slum it with me again? Keep reading »
At some point, most of us reach a point where we’ve been dumped and dumped someone. Generally, I think people tend to fall into one camp or the other. Personally, I tend to prefer to let the other person do the dumping — color me passive-aggressive! — but in a few cases I’ve done the dumping. There is only one thing to be said about getting dumped: It sucks. Doing the dumping, on the other hand, I’ve found, is a bit more of a grab bag. In a way, it’s better, because you’re the one calling the shots, and I think dumping someone tends to leave the dumper feeling less, well, victimized. On the other hand, if you’re going to end a relationship, you better be damn sure you’re sure about that. Being the dumper entails greater responsibility. So, are you more often a dumper or a dumpee? Do you think one is easier than the other? What do you think is the best way to dump someone and to get dumped — or is that like asking what’s the best way to fall on your head? Tell us, Frisky readers, in the comments. Keep reading »
The beginning of a relationship can be a tricky course to navigate. Guys (like me) aren’t so good at guessing what women think or want, and our stupidity can lead to otherwise easily avoidable arguments. Setting some basic rules with your new flame may help you get past the small stuff and start enjoying your lives together.
Here are ten guidelines to smooth the road with your new beau. Keep reading »
Since I work out in a boxing gym and am one of the only girls there, I always try to keep my head down, work hard and not engage too much with the guys, some of whom have serious boundary problems. So, a few weeks ago, when one of the trainers said, “So, what’s your boyfriend’s name?” I quickly responded, “I don’t have a boyfriend.” Unfortunately, this guy was persistent and asked, “Why not?”
After a few moments, filled with “well … um” and “uhh…,” I decided to tell him, even though it meant we were going to have to talk for a bit longer than I wanted to. “I’m gay,” I said. “I have a girlfriend.” Keep reading »
If men were from Venus and women were from Mars — or, heck, if men and women were from the same planet, everything might be different. Ah, relationships. So much that can go right. So much that can go wrong. If you’re looking to avoid stumbling into the most common relationship traps, it may behoove you to consider the biggest relationship mistakes you can make along the way. Love is great, but it’s knowing what you’re doing when you’re in it that makes a loving relationship last. Keep reading »
Believing that you’re better than others can be good when you’re modest about it and don’t get carried away. An abundance of self-confidence can help you stand firm against criticism and lead you to success. Yet, just like anything else, narcissism is only good in moderation.
People who are completely narcissistic and totally obsessed with themselves deal with something called narcissistic rage, anger they express whenever they feel threatened or criticized. Narcissists have very little empathy, feel entitled, and have a delusional self-image, which all lead to aggressive behaviors. Apparently, narcissists will unleash their anger and rage on the people in their lives who are closest to them, and oftentimes that’s a straight woman. Keep reading »
My boyfriend has lots of friends who are girls. Likewise, I have tons of friends who are guys. The problem is both of us are slightly jealous people, but neither one of us wants to give up our friends first. What should we do? Read more … Keep reading »
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep … Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you … The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘That’s her.’” — Unknown
Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. The trick is not making the same relationship mistakes over and over and over again. I’ve made my share of relationship mistakes along the way. Here are mine, so you don’t have to make them. Keep reading »