Being in a long-term relationship is all about sharing. You share your time, your living space, your most intimate secrets, your friends, your life. When you strike a nice balance in the sharing department, it feels easy and natural. When you share too much, your relationship can veer into codependent territory. When you share too… More »
Hey, guess what? I’m here with good news! Stop worrying about getting married.
I know this seems sudden. It’s only a normal Friday in May and you’re probably just living your own life. But let’s be honest with ourselves. We think about getting hitched all the time. We think about marriage with awe… More »
Nick and I were at a dinner party recently, and one of the couples there had the most annoying habit: whenever one of them was telling a story, the other would correct them constantly. And these weren’t major, necessary corrections like “no, silly, his death sentence was exonerated!”, they were trivial corrections about tiny, insignificant… More »
Your relationship is also always changing in perceptible and imperceptible ways. Even the most rock solid union is in a state of flux. Like nature, relationships have seasons and rhythms. During each “season” you build a stronger union or drift apart. Your thoughts, words, attitudes and behaviors dictate the direction in which change moves. Are you headed… More »
“I just assumed that when I met my soulmate and fell in love, all of these annoying day to day things would fall into place.”
I’m on the phone with a friend of mine, who’s a couple years into a relationship that is overflowing with romance. Their pairing has everything: the meet-cute; the… More »
We all have pet peeves. We all have rage triggers. For some people, it’s loud chewing. For others, it’s people who point when they talk. But sometimes, even though our hearts race and our fists clench, we know we’re wrong. Or if not wrong, we know we’re overreacting. And it just doesn’t matter. We can’t help… More »
How do you spot a liar if their pants are not on fire?
No one likes being lied to. Wouldn’t it be excellent to be able to just smell a lie as it comes out of someone’s lying mouth? Yes, if you’re kind of paranoid and think everyone is lying to you.
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Consciously uncouple? That’s what I wanted to do. I really, really, really did. Some would say that I had that opportunity and turned it down. The power dynamic in our relationship was so out of whack that if I had stepped into the room with a mediator, I would have caved on everything. I was… More »
Holly Allen would beg to differ with the idea that the happiest couples sleep less than an inch apart. She recently found herself going to bed in her own guest room when her husband was sick, and despite the fact that the room only has a twin bed, she had an incredible night’s sleep, she writes… More »
In a recent study conducted by Marshalls, 75 percent of the 1000 women surveyed admitted to having said “No” to various activities and invitations due to a lack of confidence. Are you shocked? I’m not. I’ve been there. Raise your hand if you’re among the 55 percent of women who’ve declined party invitations or the… More »
Today is Nick and my 10-year anniversary. TEN YEARS. A decade. One-twentieth of a lifetime if we both live to be 200, which we plan to. I’m not usually super sentimental about anniversaries, if only because I’m like a doofy sitcom husband when it comes to remembering exact dates, but I couldn’t help but get… More »
As a father of three children, it takes quite a bit of teeth-gritting for me to admit that parents can be the most eye-roll-inducing shitbags on the planet. We don’t mean to be. The problem is that we’ve lived life before kids and we’ve lived life with them, whereas our counterparts have only experienced the… More »
Dear Young Women On My Subway Car Yesterday,
I remember high school, a small world in which everyone feels like a character in an epic drama. A place where peers pass judgement and share hearsay as entertainment. Where few consider the appropriateness or repercussions of their conversations. Yesterday, the two of you stood… More »
Just to make sure we get off on the right foot here, I should probably point out that being a dick is bad. I’ve been around the Internet too long to know that some people will read that title, skim the points, and use it as justification for being a throbbing cock shaft. That being… More »
Moving in together is a big step. Does it make things better or worse? How soon is too soon? Does it lead to breakups — or worse, the D word? Well, a recent study shows that premarital cohabitation isn’t linked with divorce — at all. In fact, the research out of University of North Carolina, Greensboro shows… More »
Gillian Anderson aside, we all have imperfections that define us as much as our positive points. The biggest part of growing up is not only recognizing those flaws, but making an effort to fix them. It’s not an achievable goal, mind you (how many old, bitter assholes do you know?), but it’s the effort that… More »
You swear you’ve moved on from your ex, but then you find yourself stalking his Facebook page, drunk texting, and “coincidentally” ending up in his neighborhood — sound familiar? Accepting that you’re not over him is the first step to actually getting over him, so to help you ditch the denial stage, we’ve rounded up some clear… More »
If you’ve been searching for “the one” but haven’t had any luck, ask yourself this important question: Are love-blocking beliefs sabotaging your love life?
Are you carrying around fear-based beliefs from your childhood or early relationship experiences? Sometimes, these issues are so deeply embedded in us, we’re not even aware that these love… More »
Cliches. They drove your 10th English teacher crazy. But I would say they have lasted as long as they have for a reason— lots of them are true! Wisdom can actually be very simple. Below are some cliches that have stood the test of time and are actually great life advice in disguise. I feel… More »
In our recent Break Up With Your Ex survey, 51 percent of you said you can’t truly be friends with an ex. And there’s a good reason, why too. Thirty-eight percent said the biggest impediment is that they’re still in love and can’t let go. I can’t say I agree that creating a clean slate is right for everyone. Read… More »