Hate to say it, but some romantic gestures are gross and cheesy and not at all what we want when a guy is trying to make a statement. That said, there are some really, really sweet, kind, funny things a man can do to melt our cold hearts. Here are the ten things we’d seriously rather you not do to woo us, plus ten gestures that really will turn us to mush.
Things That Are Intended To Be Romantic But Provoke Gag Reflex
1. Having your date get down on his knees at a movie theater and serenade you to New Edition’s “Mr. Telephone Man”.
2. Having your date order for you (um maybe I wanted the chicken?)
3. Rolling in money “Indecent Proposal” style. Money is one of the dirtiest and most germ-infested things on the planet.
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As a follow-up to last week’s list of 25 things a man should never say to a woman, after the jump are 25 things a woman should never say to a man.
1. But it didn’t mean anything, I promise
2. Is she prettier than I am?
3. It’s okay, it happens to everyone
4. It’s just a game
5. Let’s talk about it Keep reading »
“I am an Aquarius woman who has been with a Pisces man for four blissful months. Around the end of the fourth month, I was confronted by his other girlfriend whom I didn’t know existed. After hearing everything that went on and being so filled with fury, we both plotted and schemed to bring him down. But then, this man assured me that he had “emotionally” ended things with his girlfriend, that he never had sexual relations with her after meeting me and was planning to end it. We both agreed to bury the incident and try working on the relationship again.
The problem is, I continue to doubt and accuse him of lying to me when he is out with ‘friends’ and he can’t get over the things his other girlfriend told him about. She told him everything I said in anger and the things we plotted. Since then, he has not loved me the same and continually brings up the past every time we argue. I really love this man and want to work things out, but I wonder if things will ever be the same again. I feel as if my emotional walls are building back up and I am growing tired of my suspicion and his keeping a record of every wrong move. My birth date is 2/2/79, 9am, Korea. Please help.” – Ready to Give Up Keep reading »
Maybe it’s because we’re forced to deal with our families more than usual during the holidays, but these can be trying times for women without rings on their wedding fingers. Aunt Esther’s annual grab at your left hand and subsequent clucking over your naked ring finger is annoying, but you write it off because she’s senile and will die soon. When your cousin Myrna gasses on about her impending nuptials over eggnog, you actually feel a little sorry for her because you see the way her betrothed keeps eyeing her sister. But when your baby sister flashes the rock that her professor-turned-paramour put under the tree, you succumb to a little condition called “The Ring Tizzy.” Keep reading »
While we may be in disagreement over whether a woman should wait for a man to say “I love you” first, I think we can all agree that no woman ever wants to hear her many say any of these things:
1. Another woman’s name during sex
2. “You sound just like your mother.”
3. “You sound just like my ex-girlfriend.”
4. “Not tonight, honey. I have a headache.”
5. “Actually, I’m married.” Keep reading »
Miracle of miracles, the current economic crisis doesn’t look like it’s going to saddle you with major financial setbacks. Your significant other, however, hasn’t been so lucky. Whether your partner’s been laid off, forced to take a pay cut, or seen a formerly robust stock portfolio become awfully puny, it’s become quite clear that his or her financial future is looking grim. Though it makes you feel a little guilty, you’re beginning to re-evaluate whether, going forward, his or her financial situation will be able to provide or assist you with living the kind of lifestyle you’d like – or at least to which you’ve become accustomed. Are you being cold and superficial or wise and practical? We consulted Debra Mandel, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Dump that Chump! for advice on how you should best approach the situation.
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My dilemma involves a man whom I’m extremely attracted to, but very ambivalent about romantically. We’re known each other for over a year and things either seem to move at a snail’s pace or just come to a screeching halt entirely. The last time we were in the same vicinity was sometime in October. He called me at 3am under the guise of being too drunk to drive. Being the kind soul that I am, I picked him up and let him crash at my place. I felt nervous and awkward, but my altruistic side won out. He apologized for his antics, swore up and down that he didn’t blame me for hating him, etc. Naturally, this fueled my frustration and I may have ripped into him a little about his actions towards me. We fooled around, but no intercourse occurred. This is the second time he’s stoked my fire just enough, but not enough to go all the way. I feel cautious because it feels like he is hiding something, but I can’t put my finger on what. I want to believe that he cares, but his broken words leave me doubting. It feels like I should walk away, but very time I seem to get to that point is when he happens to show up again. I don’t know whether this is one to walk away from or try to make a go at it. I don’t know if my head or my heart or both are right in this situation. My DOB is March 10, 1984 (birth time 5:30 pm Nassau, Bahamas) and his DOB is 12/4/1980. — When To Walk Away? Keep reading »
Though the stigma is lessening, men are still far more likely than women to let their depression go untreated. Blame it on Rambo, Brando, or the lure of the martini, but many guys still aren’t getting the help they need. As the traditionally stressful, dark days of winter set in, here are some signs that the guy you love might be suffering from more than a loss in fantasy football … Keep reading »
Girlfriend break-ups can be just as traumatizing as regular old break-ups with boys. The process is even similar: the anger, sadness, mourning, and finally, acceptance. While you may not have left precious clothes, expensive facial lotion, or significant jewelry at her house, you do feel like a real part of your soul missing as there’s really nothing like a good girlfriend. What exactly happens when we decide (or our friend decides) we’re just not a good fit anymore? Keep reading »
It’s always tricky when the holidays arrive and you’re in a relatively new relationship. What do you get your boy or girlfriend after just a month? Or what about that odd three-month mark? You don’t want to go overboard, but you don’t want to under-buy and look like the thoughtless cheapo. Well, we’re here to help – we’ve compiled a list of holiday gift ideas for guys and girls at each of the pivotal relationship points.
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