“If I ever do get involved with somebody again, I will try as much as possible to shut my fucking mouth and stay fucking present. Love in action, man! Not love in fucking words.”
– Colin Farrell tells Details about what he’s learned from his tumultuous love life, which has included a four-month marriage, a sex tape with a Playboy model, and most recently, a 2010 split from actress Alicja Bachleda, mother of his 3-year-old son. Honestly, I think this is a pretty awesome piece of relationship advice, f-bombs and all, and as usual I love Farrell’s honesty and his legendarily poetic potty mouth. Fucking brilliant. [Us Weekly]
When I was single, the reason I couldn’t find a good man was my habit of “wishful hoping.” I am long past that now, but as a coach I find “wishful hoping” is probably one of the key factors that make finding your true love take so long.
“Wishful hoping” is very similar to being in a state of longing. You may understand it better if I share with you this definition of longing by Gay Hendricks:
“Longing is a persistent lingering feeling of wanting something you can’t quite get or something you’ve judged unattainable.” Read more …
Judd Apatow is the latest grown-ass man to answer teenaged girls’ dating questions for Rookie Mag, the online mag by style blogger Tavi Gevinson. While he’s not as easy on the eyes as fellow advice video-columnist Jon Hamm, he has the advantage of having two adolescent girls at home: Maude, 13, and Iris, 8. Judd wants you to know boys do gossip, you should never change yourself for anyone, and that you can’t breakup with someone without making them said. Your mom could probably tell you all the same stuff, but somehow its more palatable hearing it from the guy who made “Knocked Up.” [Vimeo]
After much trial and error, we’ve discovered that key to having a productive relationship with mom is knowing the proper way to respond to her — especially when she says things that get under your skin. And my God … she does that a lot. It’s much easier said than done though. When she calls to tell you that she started wearing thong underwear, it’s hard not to say “Ewww” and hang up. It’s instinctual. But it won’t get you anywhere. You need a game plan for these situations to keep your cool and keep mom happy. So, we’ve created a handy guide for responding to the most irritating/annoying/dumbfounding things your mother says. Keep reading »
My husband’s birthday was the day after Valentine’s Day, so celebrating is a double whammy. Buying him gifts for the two holidays was tough because I like buying him sentimental things for Valentine’s Day and useful things for his birthday. He is a practical man; he enjoys working in the yard and fixing things in the house. I encourage this part of him because he has a stressful job and working on things seems to relax him. I had been bugging him since the holidays about what he wanted for his birthday, so the week before his birthday when he came to me with a big grin on his face pointing to a magazine telling me, “This is what I want,” I paid attention. It was inside a Prime Living Magazine, for which I write, where he found his dream gift: a “man cave” you could build at home. Read more …
You’re in love. Of that there is no doubt. The two of you are like peas and carrots together. There’s nothing you don’t love about the other (well, okay, his habit of putting the toilet paper roll on THE WRONG WAY is kinda annoying, but you know). You spend all the time you can together. You may even talk marriage.
So, what are the signs you’re (finally) in a healthy relationship? I’ll tell you.
1) You can be your true selves together. No longer do you have to pretend to love Chinese food or weird obscure foreign films — you’re totally happy saying, “You know what? I’m not into this” while knowing this won’t affect a thing between you. Read more …