Think of the best first date you ever went on.
Got it? Okay, what did you do immediately afterwards?
If you’re like some women I’ve been out with, you called up your best friend and gushed all about the date. You even posted a not-so-subtle status update on Facebook. Something along the lines of, “Just had an AMAZING night!”
Now, here’s my next—and more important—question:
Before you gushed to your best friend, before you flaunted your euphoria all over Facebook, did you ever stop to consider how your date might have felt about that “amazing” night?
One scenario I encounter frequently on dating advice sites is the woman who goes on a fabulous first date, only to find herself confused when she never hears from that guy again. So, she’s left to wonder … What happened?
“The date went so well. We had so much fun and clicked so amazingly. He was hot and charming and intelligent. I was hot and charming and intelligent. He couldn’t take his eyes off me the whole night So… why didn’t he call again?!” Keep reading »
Ladies! Hello! I know I’m three and half months early for Halloween, but that doesn’t matter. Why not grab the bull by the horns, and start talking scare tactics? Scare tactics for your boyfriend, that is. Now, as to why you’d want to scare your boyfriend, where even to begin? He misbehaved? He was rude? He scared you? You’re bored and need something to do? You have your reasons. I’ll warn you beforehand, what I’ve done here is a bit of research among friends, women I know, and have known, and who will, of course, remain anonymous. I’ve asked what things they’ve done to scare their boyfriends, both intentionally and not. The lessons I’ve learned have been compiled and included below for your own edification. Happy scaring the piss out of your man! Keep reading »
Dating like a grownup is the quickest path to finally enjoying mutually nurturing relationships with men who are full of respect, adoration and commitment.
If you’re going to date like a grownup, developing empathy for men is crucial. Just like all your relationships, when you have the ability to step outside yourself and get into someone else’s head and heart (even just a little), your connections instantly improve.
Single men carry around old baggage and wounds just like we do. They’ve accumulated their fair share of dating and relationship bumps and bruises; in fact, they’ve probably had more. Think about it: they’ve been the ones responsible for putting themselves out there first since they were teenagers. Ouch. Talk about rejection. Read more …
A study done at the University of Hertfordshire found that when it comes to love, it behooves you to (as Oprah instructs) “fake it until you make it.” Professor Richard Wiseman used a team of 100 speed daters as their guinea pigs. One hundred speed dates? That sounds exhausting! Anyhow, what he discovered was that people who acted all lovey-dovey — making googley eyes, pawing at one another, whispering sweet nothings — were more likely to want to see each other again (for more than their allotted three minutes) than the speed daters who played it cool. Keep reading »
Grabbing drinks is pretty par for the course when it comes to dating as a twenty-something. It’s less serious than dinner, more fun than coffee and it can actually tell you quite a bit about the guy you’re spending the evening with. Don’t believe me? Take a look at some of the drinks I’ve listed below. They run the gamut from common orders (see: imported beers, whiskey) to some more…colorful…alternatives (I’m looking at you Tangotini). Whether you want to admit it or not, the guy with the umbrella hanging out of his martini glass is probably more interested in the James Franco look-alike at the end of the bar than he is in you.
Gin and tonic. A classic drink for a classic dude. Anyone drinking a g+t is probably worth your while, or at least will be good for a few laughs (you know, if madras pants and popped collars aren’t your thing). Read more …
I support all forms of self-love, but Nadine, the”Anderson” guest who married herself, makes me feel uncomfortable. If you’re really owning that you’re responsible for your own happiness and committed to finding everything you need within yourself, there’s no need for a public ceremony to prove it. There are other less ostentatious ways to celebrate self-growth and self-acceptance. I think being truly comfortable with yourself means it not being such a big issue in your day-to-day existence. Nadine still seems raw about her past issues — she tears up while talking about them. Her self-marriage seems more like a band-aid on an open wound than a celebration. I’m sorry, but this reeks of attention-whoredom to me, as Anderson Cooper seems to insinuate. Keep reading »