While “Bachelorette” Andi Dorfman is busy posting pictures of her fiancé Josh Murray on her Instagram, her number two choice Nick Viall is preoccupied with something else. Getting dumped by Andi, yes, but also why she slept with him in the “fantasy suite” (AKA the place on the show where the couple can be together without the cameras around for an entire evening).
We all watched on the “After The Final Rose” episode as Chris Harrison explained that twice after getting dumped, Nick tried to contact Andi to talk in person. Both times, she refused to see him. The two finally saw each other for the first time on live TV and Nick got the opportunity — prodded by Harrison — to ask Andi what had been weighing on his mind. What he asked wasn’t necessarily what anyone expected a good-looking 30something dude to ask and it dominated headlines the next day: ”Why did you make love to me if you didn’t love me?”
Andi acted like a snot and huffed that his question was “below the belt.” However, as Nick wrote in a long essay on ex-”Bachelor” Sean Lowe’s blog for the religion website Patheos.com, it was very much a question on Nick’s mind all along. He was expecting to have gotten engaged to Andi in a few days hence. He was deeply in love and sex, clearly, meant a lot more to him than it did to her. Keep reading »
There’s a new reality show coming to Bravo this Thursday: “Extreme Guide to Parenting” will be an hour-long show that follows the lives of a variety of families, all living on the “extreme” edge of parenting. Several stereotypical parenting philosophies will be represented, from the helicoptering couple to the overly attached attachment parents, authoritative parents who push their kids to excel at everything, and even a mom who hypnotizes her husband and children. Keep reading »
Last week, I wrote about Caleb Reynolds’, a houseguest on “Big Brother 16,” and his unrequited romantic obsession with fellow player Amber Borzotra. While the television show has gone out of their way not to draw attention to Caleb’s out of whack fixation on Amber, those fans who subscribe to the 24/7 livefeeds are privy to how this is impacting his game, her game and the entire house. While Amber certainly has many, many supporters who see that she’s done everything she can to reject his clearly advances, there are others who have called Amber a tease. In response, Amber’s brother-in-law — one of the family members manning Amber’s Twitter feed and website while she’s in the “Big Brother” house — posted an articulate and smart response on Amber’s blog that defends Amber, but more importantly calls out a culture of victim-blaming that extends well beyond this reality TV show. With his permission, I’m republishing his piece below. Whether you’re a “Big Brother” fan or not, it’s well worth a read. — Amelia
Before I begin, just to be clear, this post isn’t about Caleb, the “Big Brother” game, or even about any concerns we may or may not have for Amber’s well-being. This is solely about the way the narrative is being portrayed by some observers: people who are not subject to the pressures/paranoia of the house and have the ability to know just about everything that is said and done before forming an opinion.
Specifically, there has been a worrying rise in “BB16″ live feed followers blaming Amber for somehow playing a part in encouraging Caleb’s unrequited feelings for her. Keep reading »