Last week, I wrote about Caleb Reynolds’, a houseguest on “Big Brother 16,” and his unrequited romantic obsession with fellow player Amber Borzotra. While the television show has gone out of their way not to draw attention to Caleb’s out of whack fixation on Amber, those fans who subscribe to the 24/7 livefeeds are privy to how this is impacting his game, her game and the entire house. While Amber certainly has many, many supporters who see that she’s done everything she can to reject his clearly advances, there are others who have called Amber a tease. In response, Amber’s brother-in-law — one of the family members manning Amber’s Twitter feed and website while she’s in the “Big Brother” house — posted an articulate and smart response on Amber’s blog that defends Amber, but more importantly calls out a culture of victim-blaming that extends well beyond this reality TV show. With his permission, I’m republishing his piece below. Whether you’re a “Big Brother” fan or not, it’s well worth a read. — Amelia
Before I begin, just to be clear, this post isn’t about Caleb, the “Big Brother” game, or even about any concerns we may or may not have for Amber’s well-being. This is solely about the way the narrative is being portrayed by some observers: people who are not subject to the pressures/paranoia of the house and have the ability to know just about everything that is said and done before forming an opinion.
Specifically, there has been a worrying rise in “BB16″ live feed followers blaming Amber for somehow playing a part in encouraging Caleb’s unrequited feelings for her. Keep reading »
Of all people in the world, my jock-y, mainstream, but also book-nerd boyfriend was the person who got me into watching “So You Think You Can Dance”. When I told him I hadn’t seen it, he scoff-laughed and said, “You’re gonna watch it,” then proceeded to wax poetic about the show and how he wishes he could animate. I thought I was just going to be humoring him, but after spending the entire first episode of season 10 going “DAAAAAMN” at the dancers’ auditions, I was hooked.
And it turned out he was right to be as enthusiastic as he is — there are a million reasons to love it. Here are some of the best. Keep reading »
I tried to resist, but I failed. For the second year in a row, I’ve decided to subscribe to the “Big Brother” livefeeds. The reality show’s 16th season kicked off last week, the livefeeds turned on last Friday, and the drama started almost immediately. The 16 houseguests have barely been living together for 10 days, but already a romance is a-brewin’. But unfortunately for those involved, it’s completely, totally, disturbingly one-sided. Keep reading »
Researchers have found evidence that watching rom-coms and sitcoms impact our views on love. TV seems to shape our view of reality in every other realm of life, so I’m not exactly shocked it’s also true for romance.
Why Dave Is Still Single, a study by University of Michigan researchers, asked participants how frequently they watch rom-coms, marriage-themed reality shows and sitcoms.They discovered that participants who watch a lot of rom-coms and romantic reality shows were more likely to believe in things like love at first sight and “The One” – you know, the stuff that keeps us forever alone because we’re stubbornly waiting for some ever-elusive meet cute with a Ken doll that will never arrive. These participants were more likely to agree with phrases like “My ‘true love’ will be nearly perfect” or the concept that they’d know immediately if their significant other was right for them. Keep reading »