Today in Things That Make Me Want To Scream “CORRELATION DOES NOT EQUAL CAUSATION!” And Beat My Head Against The Wall:
Last year, a study out of Michigan State University found that the erotic BDSM trilogy Fifty Shades Of Grey “perpetuates” abusive relationships. Now, another study from the same professor at MSU claims young women who read the books are more likely to have an abusive partner and show signs of an eating disorder.
Women who read all three books in the trilogy (like me and Amelia), the study found, are more likely to binge drink and have multiple sex partners. Amy Bonomi, a professor of Human Development and Family Studies and lead author of the study, said that based on her study of over 650 young women ages 18 to 24, it’s possible the Fifty Shades books might “reaffirm” negative experiences and “aggravate trauma.” In other words, this lady r-e-a-l-l-y does not like these books.
Well, well, well. Where to start with this one? Keep reading »
When I started writing my memoir, Good Chinese Wife: A Love Affair With China Gone Wrong, I began networking with authors who wrote books set in Asia. I imagined developing solid friendships with a group of supportive authors. There’s a Chinese saying, huxiang bangzhu. It means “mutually helping one another.” That’s what I pictured.
Fast-forward six years. My memoir was being published and I arranged for review copies to be sent to authors I’ve gotten to know through social networking or in person. I knew I couldn’t expect rave reviews just because we have a connection or because I had given their books five stars on Amazon and Goodreads. But for the most part, I had been extremely pleased with the feedback.
Well, except for this one guy. Keep reading »
“You guys know about vampires? … You know, vampires have no reflections in a mirror? There’s this idea that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. And what I’ve always thought isn’t that monsters don’t have reflections in a mirror. It’s that if you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves. And growing up, I felt like a monster in some ways. I didn’t see myself reflected at all.” — Junot Díaz
As a kid, I never tried to sneak out of the house. It’s not that I was a stickler for the rules (sorry, Mom) — it’s just that all the wonders I could ever want to explore didn’t exist outside the confines of my home. They were waiting for me when I woke up each morning, tucked neatly into the hallway bookshelves whose ever-expanding ranks housed J.K. Rowling, Leo Tolstoy, Judy Blume, and Sarah Dessen. Keep reading »