Ladies, it’s time we start embracing our vaginas and stop letting money hungry clinics, offering vaginal cosmetic surgery, dictate what makes a beautiful vajayjay. The Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recently warned that the trend of “designer vaginas” may be exploiting vulnerable women. Women in Australia, New Zealand, Britain and the U.S. have been trekking to these vagina spas to have vaginal rejuvenation, re-virgination, designer vaginoplasty and G-spot amplification. But the college said these procedures lack scientific backing and are dangerous and expensive—one procedure can cost as much as $9,500. The surgeries can also do more harm than good.

There’s a lecture and book signing on November 13 in Washington, D.C., featuring a few noted authors and journalists discussing how “hook-up” culture on campus has led to rising numbers of sexual assaults, date rapes, and sexually transmitted infections. Included on the panel is Washington Post scribe Laura Sessions Stapp who coined the term “gray rape” to describe sexual encounters that are not quite consensual but not totally denied either. Her theory was discussed in further detail in an article in September’s Cosmopolitan, which garnered loads of debate on sites like Jezebel and Feministing. Suffice it to say, we’re not sure we’d take the thoughts of someone who thinks having sex with someone while they’re passed out drunk is “gray” rape all that seriously.