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Study: 1 In 10 Teens Has Committed Sexual Violence

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  • Almost 10 percent American young adults between ages 14 and 21 admitted to committing sexual violence at least once, according to a new study published in the journal JAMA Pediatrics. We’ve still got a long way to go, everyone. [Los Angeles Times]
  • Melona Clark, a student at Hampton University in Virginia, carries a letter from her mosque and her chaplain giving her permission to wear her hijab, a Muslim headcovering veil, on campus. [Huffington Post]
  • The owners of Gorz Haus Gallery in Des Moines, Iowa, have filed a lawsuit against the Iowa Civil Rights Commission, claiming their religious beliefs are being persecuted after they refused to host a wedding for a same-sex couple. That couple sued the owners under violation of the Iowa Civil Rights Act. [Think Progress]
  • Is American Apparel’s “Period Power” T-shirt a “useful controversy”? [The Week] Keep reading »

Chris Brown Is A Douche, But What Happend To Him Was Still Rape

Chris Brown raped at age 8 by woman
  • Last week, Chris Brown told the UK’s Guardian he “had sex” at age eight with an older girl who was 14 or 15. Here’s Mychal Denzel Smith saying everything that needs to be said about how what happened to Brown was sexual abuse, not just “losing his virginity really young.” No matter how odious Chris Brown might be, it’s disturbing that he was a victim of sexual trauma — and that it’s not a bigger deal in the media because a female victimized him. [Feministing]
  • How Catholic bishops pushed for a shutdown — and even a default — over birth control. [RH Reality Check]
  • Facebook says a page about murdering a feminist isn’t harassment. [SkepChick] Keep reading »

Dude Bro Sends Entire Frat A Guide To “Luring Your Rape Bait”

Dude Bro Sends Entire Frat A Guide To "Luring Your Rape Bait"

Strap in, ladies, this one’s going to be a terribly douche-y ride. According to Total Frat Move, Matthew Peterson, a Phi Kappa Tau brother at Georgia Tech, sent his entire fraternity a manifesto of sorts — entitled “Luring Your Rape Bait” — on “how to mack and succeed at parties.” I would suggest him as the ideal boyfriend for our dear darling Rebecca Martinson — never forget — given how invested both of them are in seeing their fellow Greeks get laid, but Rebecca is a more talented writer and certainly deserves better, given the amount of rape jokes throughout the whole horrible thing. Take it away, Matthew!

“Alright chods, some of you could use some help on how to mack and succeed at parties. Mostly pledges do, but some bros could use a review. For anytime throughout the party… If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! Keep reading »

Madonna Comes Out As A Rape Survivor In Harper’s Bazaar

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“New York wasn’t everything I thought it would be. It did not welcome me with open arms. The first year, I was held up at gunpoint. Raped on the roof of a building I was dragged up to with a knife in my back, had my apartment broken into three times. I don’t know why; I had nothing of value after they took my radio the first time… [I] wasn’t anything I prepared for, trying to be a professional dancer, paying my rent by posing nude for art classes, staring at people staring at me naked. Daring them to think of me as anything but a form they were trying to capture with their pencils and charcoal…I was defiant. Hell-bent on surviving. On making it. But it was hard and it was lonely, and I had to dare myself every day to keep going.”

– Madonna comes out as a rape survivor in an essay she penned for the November issue of Harper’s Bazaar. In all fairness, she talked about her rape once before in an interview in 1995. “I have been raped and it is not an experience I would ever glamorize. Although it was devastating at the time, I know that it made me a much stronger person in retrospect. It forced me to be a survivor,” the singer revealed. I’m glad that Madge has chosen to talk about it once again in such a public forum. [ONTD]

Melissa Gorga Is Not Happy People Say Her Book Advocates Marital Rape

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“That is so awful. That word is like so disgusting to me. That’s horrible. It’s just about the playfulness, about teasing, it’s about ‘hmmm, no, I don’t want it tonight’ but he’s going to take it. It’s about being aggressive and trying new things in the bedroom. It’s not about, ‘hey, I have a headache, honey, and I’m not in the mood tonight,’ and your husband’s going to take it from you. I mean, come on. … My book is about mutual respect with your partner, for one another. It’s about honesty, it’s about loyalty, it’s about making your partner first in your life. Where that word comes into play, to me, is awful and disgusting.”

– Melissa Gorga, star of “The Real Housewives Of New Jersey” and author of the new marriage advice book Love Italian Style, is not loving that a passage in her book from husband Joe Gorga has been described by critics — including yours truly — as advocating marital rape. Alas, Melissa may not like that that’s how people are interpreting her husband’s advice (“If your wife says ‘no,’ turn her around, and rip her clothes off”), but the fact of the matter is what Joe described — and what Melissa reinforces in this very quote – is the very definition of rape. When a woman says “no” to having sex and a man “takes” it — it being, you know, HER BODY —  anyway, that is rape. Even when it’s a husband and wife. If Joe is actually advocating for consensual dom/sub play, he worded it very badly and an editor certainly should have raised a red flag. But my hunch is that Melissa and Joe have seriously fucked up issues that they should not be selling to the masses as secrets to a happy marriage. [Dlisted]

Samantha Geimer On Roman Polanski: “Some Old Guy Molested Me … That Is Really Not An Uncommon Thing”

“For me, some old guy molested me. In the experience of life, you understand that this is really not an uncommon thing and lots of more awful things happen to people. Other people get through it. But the trauma of the police, the publicity, the media, to have everyone say I was lying and to have my whole family involved, I felt a little responsible. We couldn’t leave the house, my phone wouldn’t stop ringing. That 10 minutes of my life with him, I didn’t get to look back on it that much because I had worse things to deal with every day.”

That’s Samantha Gailey Geimer on BitchMagazine.com discussing her new book, The Girl: A Life In The Shadow Of Roman Polanski.  The memoir, which was just published, described the incident when she was 13 during which the world-famous director gave her alcohol and quaaludes and then raped her vaginally, anally and orally. In this interview, Geimer explains how the actual rape itself was relatively small compared to the repeated harassment of her and her family by the media — she was accused of being a liar; her mother was accused of trying to shake down Polanski for money — and the pressure of performing the role of the traumatized victim to the media. Keep reading »

Teacher Who Raped 14-Year-Old Student Is Free After 30 Days In Jail

Stacey Dean Rambold

Good news, Montana parents! I know you were worried that Stacey Dean Rambold was stuck behind bars instead of in the classroom at Billings High School, where he liked to teach/repeatedly rape his 14-year-old  female student. But after serving only 30 days in prison, the 54-year-old is free to prey on your other 9th grade daughters who seem “older” than their “chronological age” and “as much in control of the situation,” as his sentencing judge put it. But hopefully your daughters won’t commit suicide as the rape case makes its way through the courts, like Rambold’s victim did.   [NPR] [CBS News]

Melissa Gorga’s Guide To “Love Italian Style” Includes Marital Rape

Melissa Gorga's Guide To "Love Italian Style" Includes Marital Rape

If I wanted advice on how to have a successful marriage, I would not personally turn to “Real Housewife of New Jersey” Melissa Gorga, who is married to Teresa Giudice’s brother Joe. But apparently others would, as Melissa is the author of a new relationship advice book called Love Italian Style. Jezebel got their hands on a copy and report that it’s essentially a guide to submitting to your husband’s every whim, including sexually, to keep him happy, regardless of your own needs and desires. If you’ve watched “The Real Housewives of New Jersey,” you’re familiar with Joe Gorga’s sex drive, which seems to be a talking point on nearly every episode. Melissa’s book reveals how she keeps her husband sexually satisfied and advises other women to follow her lead. The jist? ”Husbands want their wives to submit; wives want our husbands to dominate.” Oh, do continue with the generalizations, Melissa! Keep reading »

Pepsi Might Want To Choose A New Font

Pepsi Might Want To Pick A New Font

For the second year in a row, Pepsi is collaborating with clothing company A Bathing Ape on a line of rebranded graphic soft drink cans — but they may want to go back and pick a new font for the ads. This one — posted to Twitter — sure made me do a double take… [Twitter]

An Online Dating Site Used Pictures Of Rehtaeh Parsons, The Gang Rape Victim Who Hung Herself, To Advertise On Facebook

An Online Dating Site Used Pictures Of Rehtaeh Parsons, The Gang Rape Victim Who Hung Herself, To Advertise On Facebook

You might remember the story of Rehtaeh Parsons, the 17-year-old girl from Nova Scotia, Canada who hung herself after she was allegedly raped at a party and had a photograph of the incident passed around to her classmates. Her story was unspeakable and horrendous. Now, imagine that you’re one of her friends or loved ones and you’re scrolling through Facebook and you see her face on a popup for an online dating site. That’s exactly what happened to Rehtaeh’s mother, Leah Parsons — she found a picture of her deceased daughter advertising how to “Find Love In Canada!” for dating company called ionechat.com. You can read more of her mother’s thoughts about this tragedy in a piece she penned for XOJane. Keep reading »

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