When I was 18, I moved to Los Angeles to audition for roles. My boyfriend planned to come later. One night, a guy friend called. He said he needed a good night’s sleep for a meeting, as he’d been crashing on someone’s couch. I had known him for some time, so I said to come over and I set him up with a clean towel. We sat on the bed and talked for a while, then I fell asleep. When I woke up, he was inside me.
At first, I felt so disoriented and numb, I closed my eyes and pretended to be asleep. I wondered if I had done something to give him the wrong idea. I felt afraid of making him angry. Believe it or not, I didn’t want to offend him. I just wanted it to be over. My childhood had come back to haunt me again: Because of the physical abuse, I didn’t believe there were borders between other people’s bodies and my own. I didn’t believe I had a voice.
Actress AnnaLynne McCord — best known for her role on the “90210″ reboot — has written a very powerful essay for Cosmopolitan called “Why I’m Done Staying Quiet About My Sexual Assault” that I urge you to read, as it demonstrates how a woman’s feeling of ownership over her body can be chipped away piece by piece. Keep reading »
Montana’s Supreme Court has overturned a one-month prison sentence handed down to Stacey Dean Rambold, a former teacher who raped his 14-year-old student.
Rambold had been sentenced by Judge G. Todd Baugh to 15-years, but served just 31 days in jail this September because Baugh thought the victim “seemed older than her chronological age” and “as much in control of the situation” at the time of the rapes. Riiiiiight: Rambold was 49 years old and an authority figure at the 14-year-old girl’s school when she was assaulted. The victim eventually committed suicide before her case went to trial. The Montana Supreme Court overturned Baugh’s ruling and said a new judge must sentence Rambold. According to the AP, the state prosecutors who appealed the original sentence are fighting for a mandatory minimum of four years. [KRTV; AP]
Actors Daniel Craig, Benicio del Toro, Steve Carell, Seth Meyers and Dulé Hill appear in the White House’s new anti-sexual assault PSA, which Vice President Joe Biden unveiled yesterday at a press conference touting the new guidelines for college campuses to help curb sexual assaults. Biden gave a passionate speech at the event, not only reiterating that “no man has a right ever to raise his hand to a women period,” but also stressing that victims should not be “re-assaulted” by victim-blaming questions during campus investigations. “We almost always ask the wrong questions when it comes to sexual assault,” Biden said. “We continue to ask questions like ‘What were you wearing? What did you say? What did you?’” It’s always heartening to see men advocating and standing up for women, and I wish more would follow suit. Check out the minute-long PSA above. [ABC News]