There is offensive clothing that you wonder what the design team’s questionable inspiration was when they were creating a collection, and then there are garments that are so blatantly offensive that you wonder what the heck is going on at HQ and who are the horrible customers they are trying to appeal to. Buzzfeed reported that there was a t-shirt for sale with the slogan “It’s Not Rape, It’s A Snuggle With A Struggle” written across the chest, accompanied by two hands formed into the shape of a heart. Really. Read more on The Gloss…
Fresh off the heels of a fraternity at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee fielding accusations that they drugged female guests with roofies, someone at Forbes.com actually decided to publish a blog post arguing “Drunk Female Guests Are The Gravest Threat To Fraternities” (cached here). It’s the kind of journalism moment that the Seth and Amy “REALLY?!” GIF was made for.
The author is Bill Frezza, a Forbes contributor and the president of The Beta Foundation, the house corporation for the Chi Phi fraternity at MIT. With no exaggeration, Frezza more concerned with frats over people. The whole thing reads like a game of Sexist Victim Blaming No Accountability Bingo: his focus on “irresponsible women,” frets about “false accusations of rape,” and repeated jabs at feminists show he doesn’t care a whit about mens’ role in sexual violence against women — a subject he glosses over entirely except to accuse women of lying about it, even though we all understand that’s really what this whole thing is about. Keep reading »
I’m on the advice panel for I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault, a blog where adult victims of sexual assault share their stories in the hope of helping younger girls. I do believe people, automatically, when they tell me they’ve been raped. Why wouldn’t I? When I give advice, I try to focus on what the victims can do to validate themselves, to get some stability back in their lives, to show their bodies respect, to get some perspective on the psychological effects of trauma — just like everyone else on the panel does. We don’t jump to “BURN YOUR RAPIST TO THE GROUND! DESTROY HIM!” The fate of the accused is not the point of the blog; it’s the fate of the victim that matters to us. Keep reading »
Online dating can be a wonderful thing, and plenty of couples — including our own Jessica and her husband — have met and found love through sites like OK Cupid, Tinder and Match. But it can also be a complete and utter shitshow, especially for women. While there are plenty of cool single dudes to meet online, there are also loads of entitled, misogynistic assholes littering your inbox and refusing to be ignored. Our friends over at Whisper asked their female users to submit the worst messages they’ve received from men they refused to chat with and the results were sadly and unsurprisingly vile. Let’s hope these dudes spend the rest of their lives alone. Keep reading »