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The Biggest Problem With The ‘Rape Is A Snuggle’ T-Shirt Is That It Was Ever Made

The Biggest Problem With The 'Rape Is A Snuggle' T-Shirt Is That It Was Ever Made

There is offensive clothing that you wonder what the design team’s questionable inspiration was when they were creating a collection, and then there are garments that are so blatantly offensive that you wonder what the heck is going on at HQ and who are the horrible customers they are trying to appeal to. Buzzfeed reported that there was a t-shirt for sale with the slogan “It’s Not Rape, It’s A Snuggle With A Struggle” written across the chest, accompanied by two hands formed into the shape of a heart. Really. Read more on The Gloss…

Forbes’ Frat Douche Bill Frezza Says “The Gravest Threat To Fraternities” Are “Drunk Female Guests”

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Fresh off the heels of a fraternity at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee fielding accusations that they drugged female guests with roofies, someone at Forbes.com actually decided to publish a blog post arguing “Drunk Female Guests Are The Gravest Threat To Fraternities” (cached here). It’s the kind of journalism moment that the Seth and Amy “REALLY?!” GIF was made for.

The author is Bill Frezza, a Forbes contributor and the president of The Beta Foundation, the house corporation for the Chi Phi fraternity at MIT. With no exaggeration, Frezza more concerned with frats over people. The whole thing reads like a game of Sexist Victim Blaming No Accountability Bingo: his focus on “irresponsible women,” frets about “false accusations of rape,” and repeated jabs at feminists show he doesn’t care a whit about mens’ role in sexual violence against women — a subject he glosses over entirely except to accuse women of lying about it, even though we all understand that’s really what this whole thing is about. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Your Kids Need To Know About Consent Long Before They Head To College

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On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

Talking about sexual assault is never an easy thing. But as a parent, it’s crucial to find ways to talk to your children about it. Lately, there’s been a lot of attention focused on campus rape and sexual assault, and with good reason. Many colleges have been called out (and even sued) for not taking the right steps in handling sexual assaults that take place on campus, which has sparked the Campus Accountability and Safety Act bipartisan bill that could improve the way colleges deal with sexual violence.

What’s a parent to do? It can be difficult to figure out where to start with all of this, especially in talking about it to our own children. Recently, there have been a few resources that parents may want to look into. In hopes of providing a jumping off point for folks to discuss sexual assault,the White House recently unveiled their It’s On Us campaign, using videos of celebrities taking the pledge to keep women and men safe from sexual assault. The idea sounds really great and revolutionary at first glance — celebs like Jon Hamm, Connie Britton, and Questlove all standing up against sexual assault. The heart of the campaign is in the right place. But the execution leaves a bit to be desired. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Rape Doesn’t Have To Meet The Legal Standard To Have Happened

I’m on the advice panel for I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault, a blog where adult victims of sexual assault share their stories in the hope of helping younger girls. I do believe people, automatically, when they tell me they’ve been raped. Why wouldn’t I? When I give advice, I try to focus on what the victims can do to validate themselves, to get some stability back in their lives, to show their bodies respect, to get some perspective on the psychological effects of trauma — just like everyone else on the panel does. We don’t jump to “BURN YOUR RAPIST TO THE GROUND! DESTROY HIM!” The fate of the accused is not the point of the blog; it’s the fate of the victim that matters to us. Keep reading »

The Lifetime Movie About The Steubenville Rape Case Is Very, Well, Lifetime

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  • If you have literally nothing else in the world to do tomorrow night, Lifetime will be airing “The Assault,” a new made-for-TV movie based on the Steubenville rape case. Although it would appear, to put it mildly, that some facts of the story are massively altered. The movie opens with the victim attempting suicide by lighting herself on fire, and she soon reveals that her mother has just died — neither of which are true of the real-life case. Apparently, a gruesome rape and subsequent cover-up and shunning of the victim isn’t dramatic enough in itself to Lifetime? [Slate]
  • “Scandal” creator Shonda Rhimes shuts down New York Times critic Alessandra Stanley who called her an “angry black woman” in an article. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »

15 Of The Worst Messages Women Have Received From Men They Ignored On Online Dating Sites

That I should be thankful a "rich white guy" wanted to talk to an "ugly Hispanic". I'm Asian.

Online dating can be a wonderful thing, and plenty of couples — including our own Jessica and her husband — have met and found love through sites like OK Cupid, Tinder and Match. But it can also be a complete and utter shitshow, especially for women. While there are plenty of cool single dudes to meet online, there are also loads of entitled, misogynistic assholes littering your inbox and refusing to be ignored. Our friends over at Whisper asked their female users to submit the worst messages they’ve received from men they refused to chat with and the results were sadly and unsurprisingly vile. Let’s hope these dudes spend the rest of their lives alone. Keep reading »

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