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Girl Talk: I’ve Started Disclosing My Rape On The First Date

CNN on Steubenville
They're mourning the lives of the rapists. Read More »
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

Nearly four years ago, while I was on a third date with a man, I was raped. For a long time, I wouldn’t have been able to write that sentence. I would have equivocated. I would have quickly followed it up with minimizers like, “I was drunk.” Or, “I’m OK. It wasn’t violent.”

These statements are all true. I was drunk. The rape was not violent in that I wasn’t physically injured. I am OK. At this moment in time, I am comfortable saying that these factors still don’t make what happened my fault. I said no to him repeatedly. That, I am sure of.

In light of the Steubenville rape case, I feel the need bubbling up to reflect upon my rape again, as it often does when there is a prominent rape case in the news. While CNN is busy mourning the lives of the young, convicted rapists, I’m thinking about 16-year-old Jane Doe, and how this will change the course of her life. I refuse to mourn her life, because that implies that she will let being raped define her for the rest of her life. I pray that’s not the case. But I know that being raped will affect her in so many unexpected ways, as it has me. Keep reading »

13-Year-Old Girl Bullied Online After Alleged Rape By Two Torrington, CT, Football Players

2 Teen Girls Charged
They were charged with threatening the Steubenville rape victim. Read More »
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Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »
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Two 18-year-old football players at Torrington High School in Torrington, Connecticut, allegedly raped a 13-year-old girl. The two young athletes have each been charged with the felony of second-degree sexual assault, along with two other charges.

It’s disturbing enough that Edgar Gonzales and Joan Toribio (who are being held in a correction facility and are out on a $50K bond, respectively) may have sexually assaulted a 13-year-old. What’s also disturbing are the vile, slut-shaming tweets about the young girl calling her a “ho” and a “snitch.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: I Am Not Your Wife, Sister Or Daughter — I Am A Person

Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »
I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
CNN on Steubenville
They're mourning the lives of the rapists. Read More »

I don’t have to tell you that Steubenville is all over the news.

I don’t have to tell you that the fact that Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond, the two teenagers convicted of raping a sixteen year old girl, were only sentenced to a combined three years in juvenile prison, is a fucking joke. Each will serve a year for the rape itself; Mays will serve an additional year for “illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material.”

I probably don’t even have to tell you that the media treatment of this trial has been a perfect, if utterly sickening, example of rape culture, with its focus on how difficult and painful this event has been for the rapists who raped a 16-year-old girl then bragged about it on social media.

And I almost certainly don’t have to tell you that the world is full of seemingly nice, normal people who want to go to bat for the convicted rapists. I’m quite sure that you already know about the victim-blaming that’s been happening since this case first came to light. You know about the fact that people have actually come out and said that the real lesson to be learned here is that we need to be more careful with social media (i.e. go ahead and rape but make sure you don’t get caught). You already know that people seem to think that being a sports star and having a good academic record should somehow make up for the fact that you are a rapist.

I don’t have to tell you any of that because it’s all par for the course.

What I do want to tell you is that you need to stop using the “wives, sisters, daughters” argument when you are talking to people defending the Steubenville rapists. Or any rapists. Or anyone who commits any kind of crime, violent or otherwise, against a woman. Keep reading »

Ma’lik Richmond’s Attorney Plans To Appeal Steubenville Decision Because “His Brain Isn’t Fully Developed”

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There are some good reasons why these should be abolished. Read More »
Verdict: Guilty!
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Trent Mays and Ma'lik Richmond have been found guilty of rape. Read More »
Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

Walter Madison, the lawyer for Ma’lik Richmond, one of the teens convicted of raping a 16-year-old girl in Steubenville, Ohio, says he plans to appeal Judge Tom Lipps decision, based on scientific evidence that his client’s brain wasn’t fully developed at the time of the crime. Fully developed enough to what? Know that digitally raping an unconscious girl is wrong?

Madison said on “Piers Morgan Live” that he takes particular issue with Lipps sentencing Richmond to at least one year in a rehabilitation center and the requirement to register as a sex offender, saying, “I don’t believe that a person at 75 years old should have to explain for something they did at 16 when scientific evidence would support your brain isn’t fully developed … when evidence in the case would suggest that you were under the influence.” Keep in mind, Lipps’ sentence also leaves room for Richmond to be removed from the sex offender registration list if he exhibits good behavior in detention. Keep reading »

Feministing’s Zerlina Maxwell Challenges Sean Hannity About Teaching Men Not To Rape

Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »
Soapbox: Abuse & Kink
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Jessica talks about abuse within the kink community. Read More »
Rape Sensitivity Training
Teaching members of the GOP that rape =bad. Read More »
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Zerlina Speaks Out!

Feministing blogger Zerlina Maxwell is a survivor of rape. Last week, Maxwell appeared with Sean Hannity on Fox News and what she said on the show generated some racist, misogynist comments and both rape threats and death threats. Her “controversial” comment? She said, “I think we should be telling men not to rape women and start the conversation there with prevention.”

That’s not OK to say, apparently: it poked the hornet’s nest of our society’s long held, deeply flawed ideas about rape as well as squeamish attitudes when it comes to discussing it.

Zerlina Maxwell, we at The Frisky stand with you.  Men should be taught not to rape. Here are three misconceptions about rape that she schooled Sean Hannity and his viewers on in the exchange: Keep reading »

Henry Rollins Speaks Out On Steubenville Rape, Actually Has Some Pretty Great Things To Say

2 Teen Girls Charged
They were charged with threatening the Steubenville rape victim. Read More »
CNN on Steubenville
They're mourning the lives of the rapists. Read More »
News Outlets Cross Line
Fox News, MSNBC and CNN all aired the name of the Steubenville rape victim. Read More »
Verdict: Guilty!
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Trent Mays and Ma'lik Richmond have been found guilty of rape. Read More »

“Many people are angry that more time was not given to the offenders. This seems to be the prevailing sentiment. I understand the anger but don’t know if adding a decade onto their sentences would be of any benefit. To me, the problem that needs to be addressed is where in the information chain were the two offenders made to understand that what they did was not wrong on every possible level? You can execute them both tomorrow but still, there is a problem that needs to be dealt with….It is obvious that the two offenders saw the victim as some one that could be treated as a thing. This is not about sex, it is about power and control. I guess that is what I am getting at. Sex was probably not the hardest thing for the two to get, so that wasn’t the objective. When you hear the jokes being made during the crime, it is the purest contempt….So, how do you fix that? I’m just shooting rubber bands at the night sky but here are a few ideas: Put women’s studies in high school the curriculum from war heroes to politicians, writers, speakers, activists, revolutionaries and let young people understand that women have been kicking ass in high threat conditions for ages and they are worthy of respect.”

––Former Black Flag singer and general punk dude Henry Rollins brings up a good point — a prison sentence isn’t going to alter the overall culture of misogyny and, as he so rightly puts it, contempt for women and girls. But changing the culture in which boys and girls grow up can have a positive impact. [Henry Rollins]

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