The Hofstra University freshman who lied about a gang rape and sent four innocent young men to jail won’t spend any time behind bars herself. Last week, a prosecutor opted not to file criminal charges against Danmel Ndonye, 18, in exchange for her undergoing one year of mental health treatment and performing 250 hours of community service. Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, my gentle and loving boyfriend of three months held me down and forced me to have sex with him against my will, and then told me I had asked for it. And technically, he was right.
Jacob and I had only been dating about a month and a half when I intimated that I had a rape fantasy. Over the years, I’d had my share of experience with role-playing and rough sex. I vividly recall a male friend of mine in college telling me that I had a distinct air of “sexual prey” about me, and me thinking that this was a huge compliment. Being dominated and playing the innocent who secretly wasn’t had been my currency and had guided the sexual dynamic I forged with partners for the last 10 years. But only for the last few months had I allowed myself to entertain what I considered to be the final frontier — a simulated rape. Keep reading »
Mackenzie Phillips, best known for her role on the ’70s and ’80s sitcom “One Day at a Time,” and for being the daughter of musician John Phillips from the legendary ’60s band the Mamas and the Papas, will appear on “Oprah” today to discuss all kinds of family secrets shared in her new tell-all, High on Arrival, out today. Sure to be the biggest jaw-dropping secret of all is the confession that she had a long-term sexual relationship with her father that eventually became consensual! The first time her father had sex with her, she says, was the night before her wedding to Rolling Stones entourage member, Jeff Sessler, when she was 19. Keep reading »
I just found out that my rapist is dead. Not only is he dead, but he ended up killing a lot of women. I always wondered if he would rape again, but I never thought he would graduate to murder.
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Most of us who’ve lived in a college dormitory before have had that sexual assault prevention lecture from campus security that’s basically, like, “Women! Cross your legs!” I guess society thinks it’s easier to just make women protect themselves, rather than changing men’s behavior, hence, advice like “cover your drinks so you don’t get roofied” and “don’t walk walk home alone at night.”
You could just stay in your dorm room all year, girls.
Yeah, “rape prevention” advice that makes women have to be on the ball with our behavior all the time is damn annoying. So I’m thrilled a blogger at No, Not You, who did a college RA training last month, wrote up 11 handy-dandy sexual assault prevention tips FOR MEN. Keep reading »
Earlier this week we were upset to hear an 18-year-old woman at Hofstra University on Long Island had allegedly been gang-raped by five men in a dorm bathroom. Each day, we read increasingly troubling newspaper reports describing how the student had gone back to a dorm room with one of the alleged rapists who took her phone at a frat party. There, she said, five men took her to a stall in the men’s bathroom, tied her up with rope and gang-raped her.
But guess what? Apparently, it’s not true. Today the District Attorney for Nassau County on Long Island reported that the accuser, whom she called “very troubled,” told police the sex was consensual. When the young woman was told the incident may have been caught on video tape, she admitted she’d lied. Keep reading »
Ew, this is every woman’s worst nightmare happening in real life: a creepy man dubbed “The Georgetown Cuddler” is going around D.C. college campuses, breaking into dorm rooms, and climbing on top of sleeping women. Last week, a female Georgetown student woke up at 4 a.m. to find a stranger in her home touching her inappropriately, just two days after another student woke up with a man believed to be the Cuddler lying next to her on the couch and covering her face. Apparently, this creep also likes to take a blanket from the victim’s bedroom, lay it on top of her, and then he lies on top of the blanket, too. Oh, and occasionally he tries to rape his victims “with varying success.” The Sexist blog, based in D.C., suggested more appropriate names for this creep could be “The Georgetown Entry-Gainer,” “The Georgetown Blanketlayer” or “The Georgetown Rapist.” Gross. Hopefully, some girl bonks this guy on the head with her vibe so police can catch the perv.
Alas, I know exactly how freaky this is, because the weirdo-in-my-bed thing actually happened to me once. Not with the Georgetown Cuddler, though. More, after the jump… Keep reading »
Finally, some good news to come out of this sad story: Phoenix police will pursue felony child abuse charges for the parents, Liberian refugees, who abandoned their eight-year-old daughter in July — after she was allegedly gang-raped by four boys — because they were ashamed.
The boys, ages 10 to 14, who are also Liberian refugees, allegedly lured the eight-year-old girl to a storage shed, by promising her chewing gum, where the alleged assault took place. When the parents learned their daughter had been raped, they apparently told police they did not want her to return home. She has been living in protective custody since the incident.
Ditching their kid is not the main reason police are pursuing abuse charges, however. According to the Associated Press, the young girl and her family have been referred to Child Protective Services in Phoenix five times since the girl was four years old. Altogether, past reports (including several times the young girl was found by neighbors or police to be wandering around the neighborhood by herself stealing or begging for food) could comprise felony child abuse. [Fox News]
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