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The Soapbox: On Rape, Alcohol, Victim-Blaming & Feminist In-Fighting

I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Victim-Blaming PSA
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But the PA liquor board's ads DO raise an important issue. Read More »
Frisky Feminism!
Everything The Frisky has ever written about feminism! Read More »
Today's Lady News
All of Jessica's daily Today's Lady News columns in one place. Read More »

If you write for a living — especially opinion writing, and especially as a feminist — you set yourself up for criticism. You really have no control over how others respond to your work, other than choosing not to write it. By attaching your name to your views, you put yourself in the position to be agreed with, judged, lauded, mocked, quoted reverently, misinterpreted, called somebody others “must read”, called crazy or ugly or both. I’ve experienced all these things at some point in my career.

It sucks, though, when the worst of those experiences happen from within the feminist community. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Was Date Raped When I Was Drunk

Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »
Victim-Blaming PSA
date rape poster
But the PA liquor board's ads DO raise an important issue. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »

I was a virgin until a month before my 21st birthday. I was on my second date with a guy named Craig, a 20-something blond surfer type who got my number after I made him a chai tea to go at the coffee shop in his neighborhood where I worked. I was lying on his bed and the Best of Willie Nelson was playing on his CD player. He had a tapestry hanging on the ceiling and there was a poster for the critically un-acclaimed jam band, The String Cheese Incident, on the wall. I felt him enter me and it hurt like hell, but I was flying high on the notion that I had finally conquered two fears — the fear of having sex and the fear that I never would. Afterwards, I was a little embarrassed by the spotting of blood on his sheets — should I offer to wash them? — but I still couldn’t contain my excitement. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: UVM Frat Closed Indefinitely, Plus Controversy At The Good Men Project

  • The national body of the Sigma Phi Epsilon fraternity has decided to close their UVM chapter indefinitely following that “Who would you rape?” survey scandal. [Burlington Free Press]
  • Has the women’s rights movement screwed over poor women? [Jezebel]
  • Sigh. Sarah Palin continues to tease that she may still run for President, saying, “It’s not too late…” Shit or get off the pot, Palin! Make a decision! [Huffington Post]
  • Feministing has launched a new column about feminism and academia. Check it out and tell us what you think! [Feministing]
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What Does CDC’s New Data About Sexual Assault Reveal?

Date Rape PSA
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This date rape PSA has been accused of blaming the victim. Read More »
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
I Was Abused
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Judy McGuire was physically abused by a boyfriend. Read More »
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The Centers For Disease Control released its National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey yesterday and the findings throw a fork in many common perceptions surrounding sexual assault and its victims. Contrary to the stereotype that a rape victim is “some slut in a bar,” the demographics found to be at the highest risk for sexual assault were preteen boys and adolescent girls. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: UVM Frat Asks Whom Brothers Would Like To Rape

  • The fraternity Sigma Phi Epsilon at University of Vermont (UVM) has been busted for sending out a questionnaire amongst brothers which included the question, “If I could rape someone, who would it be?” It seems to be a joke — er, “joke” — considering how other questions on the survey included benign questions like the brothers’ names, birthdays, hobbies, and future goals. UVM students can sign a petition asking to disband the Sigma Phi Epsilon frat over this incident here. If we have any Frisky readers at UVM, I’d love to hear your take on the reaction on campus. [Safer Campus]
  • Fourteen years ago, identical twin boys named Wyatt and Jonas were born to two parents in Maine. Today, Wyatt lives as Nicole and the whole family has helped to support their transgender loved one through the Children’s Hospital Gender Management Services Clinic in Boston. “She really is a girl,’’ says mom Kelly, “a girl born with a birth defect. That’s how she looks at it.” Definitely read their fascinating story! [Boston Globe]
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Date Rape PSA By PA’s Liquor Control Board Accused Of Victim-Blaming

Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »
Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »
Rape Checklist
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A handy checklist of things that cause rape. Read More »
Date Rape Drug Test
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A date rape drug test may soon be available. Read More »
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Pennsylvania’s Liquor Control Board is under fire for a new PSA campaign called Control Tonight, which critics say puts the onus on women for “not getting raped” while drunk and is blaming the victim. The ad in question depicts a woman’s bare legs on what looks like a tiled bathroom floor with her panties pulled down to her ankles and the text reads:

02:19 a.m  SHE DIDN’T WANT TO DO IT, BUT SHE COULDN’T SAY NO.

When your friends drink, they can end up making bad decisions. Like going home with someone they don’t know very well.

Decisions like that leave them vulnerable to dangers like date rape. Help your friends stay in control and stay safe. Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Chicago-Area Campus Sex Assaults Rarely Prosecuted

Today's Lady News
  • Campus sexual assaults are rarely prosecuted as felonies at Chicago schools, according to a depressing piece in the Chicago Tribune. Many sexual assaults that police agree are rapes are prosecuted as misdemeanor battery charges, allegedly because they are easier to prosecute. [Chicago Tribune]
  • Texas Governor Rick Perry is decrying President Obama’s international promotion of gay butt sex. What, you didn’t know that the president promotes gay butt sex in other countries? WELL HE DOES. [Think Progress]
  • Blogger Sady Doyle on the new feminist genre the “lady loser comedy,” where ladies like Kristen Wiig in “Bridesmaids” and Charlize Theron in “Young Adult” are allowed to be not perfect. [In These Times]
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Morning Quickies: Vinny From “Jersey Shore” Raps About Rape

"Jersey Shore" Sexism
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Vinny swears that "Jersey Shore" isn't sexist. Read More »
Rape Insensitivity
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Rush Limbaugh said something insensitive about rape. Shocker! Read More »
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
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  • Vinny Guadagnino from “Jersey Shore” debuted a rap song on YouTube yesterday called “Rack City Mix” with the lyrics “Actin’ like I’m raping it / F**k her till she fakin’ it.” After getting blased by the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), Vinny pulled the video. He also tweeted, “Whoa! Some people really know how to take things out of context ! #LearnToListenToMusic …It was fun though!” Perhaps realizing that tweet was even more boneheaded than the initial video, Vinny then tweeted, “Sorry for offensive rap.I’m 100% against violence & work with many organizations to stop it. Will continue to do so.” Sigh. [Huffington Post]
  • In defense of Miley Cyrus’ adorable child star rebellion. [NYmag.com]
  • Josiah Duggar, one of the 72 Duggar children, is shilling for a Farmville-like video game about being a Christian missionary in Africa. [Crushable] Keep reading »

DSK’s Wife Considering Divorce After Rape Accusations, Prostitution Scandal

DSK Accused
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Eight things to know about sexual assault accusations against DSK. Read More »
All Charges Dismissed
All criminal charges against DSK for sexual assault are dimissed. Read More »
DSK Case To Become Porn
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DSK's sex assault case will become "Dominique Sex King" porn. Read More »
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Finally! At long last, Dominique Strauss Kahn‘s wife has finally gotten a clue (or an STD). Anne Sinclair stood by the former International Monetary Fund chief when he was accused in May of sexually assaulting a hotel maid and reached into her deep pockets to pay his lawyer fees. (All criminal charges were dismissed; a civil case is still pending.) Sinclair even stood by DSK last month when he was accused of using a high-class French prostitution ring.

But now a politician close to the French power couple said Anne has had enough and they “are thinking about (divorce or separation), that’s for sure.” The French newspaper Le Figaro even quoted “friends” of Anne who claim she thinks his reputation is getting “pathetic.”

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Swedish Principal Tells Teen Rape Victim That “Guys Do This Kind Of Thing”

Sexual Assault Joke
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Esquire magazine tweets a joke about sexual assault. Ha? Read More »
Rape Checklist
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A handy checklist of things that cause rape. Read More »
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
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You’re on notice, Sweden. You are supposed to be the land of gender equality, meatballs and easy-to-assemble LACK coffee tables. So what is this about a school principal telling a teenaged student who was raped that “guys do this kind of thing, you have to get used to it?” Keep reading »

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