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Everyone flips their shizz when anyone suggests that sex should have consent. (Google the words “Antioch college” and “rape” for proof of this.) Somebody — usually the type of woman or man who writes the anti-feminist stuff — immediately overreacts and makes accusations that you’re “ruining” sex by requiring that two people ask each other permission before they do anything together. No, no, and once again, no. No one seriously believes I should have to verbally ask my boyfriend “Can I kiss your lips?”, “Can I unbutton your pants?” or “Can I take out your penis and stroke it?” But there has to be some kind of consent — whether it’s verbal articulation, like “That feels good!” or “Yes, yes!” or just happy noises, like “Mmm!” — for sexual activity to be kosher. Especially during the first, or first couple, of sexual incidents. If I unbuttoned my boyfriend’s pants and started playing with his penis and he did not verbally or physically indicate to me that he liked and wanted to encourage this behavior, I would stop. I have no idea whatsoever why someone would kiss, grope, have sex with, etc. another person who is lying there passively and/or is not fully engaged. He or she not consenting — in fact, it doesn’t sound like they’re at all interested — so why is their sex partner persisting? That is how date rape happens.