Since this happened, I’ve been in hospitals too many times to count. I’ve found it impossible to love at times. I’ve gained and lost friends. I no longer dance or compete in pageants. I’m different now, and I can’t ever go back to the person I once was. That one night took it all away from me. I’m nothing more than just human, but I also refuse to be a victim of cruelty any longer. … I not only survived, I didn’t give up. I’ve been told that a special prosecutor is going to reopen the case now. This is a victory, not just for me, but for every girl. I just hope more men will take a lesson from my brothers. They look out for women. They don’t prey on them.
Daisy Coleman, 14, the young woman at the center of the Maryville, Missouri, rape story, penned an “It Happened To Me” essay for xoJane about the 2012 sexual assault she endured by a student athlete and how the town rallied behind her attacker. Her rapist, Matthew Barnett, then 17, is the grandson of a MO state representative and had all charges — sexual assault, endangering the welfare of a child — against him dismissed. Keep reading »
You know what doesn’t turn me on or make me thirsty? Date rape jokes. Smiths Restaurant and Lounge in Philadelphia apparently thought it would be a great idea to draw attention to their establishment with this rapey pickup line. Not only is it gross, but it’s also fucking dumb. Way to drive away 50 percent of your potential customer base, Smiths. And this isn’t the first time Smiths has made violence against women part of their hilaaaaarious efforts to draw in customers. After the jump, check out another sign posted at the bar early last year. If you’re appalled, you can tweet complaints to @SmithsBarPhilly. [Philebrity] Keep reading »
“There’s no denying that from the surface it appears to be some sort of cover-up. But when you look at the finer details, there are telltale signs of this girl actually lying. She is leaving her home at 1 a.m. in the morning and nobody forced her to drink. And what happens? She gets caught by her mom, she’s embarrassed and the easy way out here is, ‘Mom, someone took advantage of me.’ But what did she expect to happen at 1 a.m. in the morning after sneaking out? I’m not saying — assuming that these facts are accurate and this did happen — I’m not saying she deserved to be raped, but knowing the facts as we do here including what the prosecutor has set forth, this case is going nowhere and it’s going nowhere quick.”
This is Fox News (of course) guest Joseph DiBenedetto, an attorney, sharing his totally reasonable opinion that the Maryville rape victim Daisy Coleman — and presumably her friend Paige Pankhurst, too — are going on national news shows like CNN and Al-Jazeera claiming they were “raped” because they don’t want to get grounded for drinking and sneaking out one night. That’s the same thing that I used to do when I got caught sneaking out! Cry rape and do interviews with Erin Burnett! Lying outside on the front lawn overnight in the January freeze for added effect? Good one, Daisy. You sure pulled the wool over my eyes. Injuring herself around the genitalia was another pro move for authenticity.
SIGH. [Raw Story]
I wrote my own response to “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” the Slate piece by Emily Yoffe that put the onus on young women to stop getting drunk so they are less susceptible to sexual assault. But here are some other kickass responses on the Internet:
- “How To Write About Rape Prevention Without Sounding Like An Asshole,” Erin Gloria Ryan, Jezebel
- “No. 1 Surefire Rape Prevention Tip For Ladies: Don’t Exist,” Katie Baker, Newsweek
- “College Men: Stop Getting Drunk,” Ann Friedman, AnnFriedman.com
- “Slate Forgot That The One Common Factor In Rapes Are Rapists,” Alexander Abad-Santos, The Atlantic Wire
- “‘Dear Prudence’ Columnist Publishes Rape Denialism Manifesto Advising Women To ‘Stop Getting Drunk’,” Lori Adelman, Feministing Keep reading »
Slate.com’s modus operandi is to troll the hell out of everyone. Today’s piece by Dear Prudence author Emily Yoffe, “College Women: Stop Getting Drunk,” is a classic example.
In her piece, Yoffe recounts a statistic from a 2009 study that 80 percent of campus sexual assaults involve alcohol. She then gives what she thinks is sound personal safety advice for “young and naive women,” but it’s actually a slippery slope to victim blaming:
Perpetrators are the ones responsible for committing their crimes, and they should be brought to justice. But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue. The real feminist message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will attract the kinds of people who, shall we say, don’t have your best interest at heart. That’s not blaming the victim; that’s trying to prevent more victims.
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Paige Parkhurst, the second victim in the Maryville, Missouri rape case, has come forward to speak with Al-Jazeera about the night she and Daisy Coleman were sexually assaulted.
Paige was 13 at the time and sleeping over at the house of her then-14-year-old friend Daisy. The girls were drinking alcohol together and snuck out of the house to go hang out with some older boys. There, Paige was raped by a 15-year-old boy, whose identity is kept anonymous because his case was handled in juvenile court. Daisy was given more alcohol at the party, which is the last part she remembers, and raped by football player Matthew Barnett, a senior and student athlete. Another boy at the party, Jordan Zech, filmed Daisy’s rape on an iPhone. After the rapes, the boys dropped the two girls, who were both drunk, off at the Coleman house. Paige was able to make it inside the house, but Daisy was left alone on the front lawn overnight in the January freeze. She was found the next morning by her mother after spending several hours outside and immediately taken to a hospital. You can read the full, terrible story as reported this weekend by the Kansas City Star. Keep reading »
So much respect is going out right now from me to Daisy Coleman, the 14-year-old girl in Maryville, Missouri teen who has come forward about her mistreatment by the justice system after she was raped by a student athlete — who also happened to be the grandson of a local politician. Last night Daisy and her mother, Melinda Coleman, spoke to CNN’s Erin Burnett about her rape by football player Matthew Barnett, who had all charges dismissed against him. Most recently he has been attending the University of Central Missouri. Meanwhile, the Coleman family has been run out of town — the mom, Melinda Coleman, was fired from her job; their house was set on fire — for daring to demand justice for Daisy.
Amelia blogged about this horrible story yesterday. You can read the full story of Daisy Coleman’s assault at the Kansas City Star, which broke the story this weekend. Here’s the short-ish version. The Coleman family had moved several years earlier to Maryville, a small, tight-knit farming down. In January 2012, Daisy, 14, and her anonymous friend, 13, were having a sleepover and drinking in her bedroom. Around 1am, they snuck out of the house to go hang out with some senior and junior boys from the football and wrestling teams, who gave the girls a lot more alcohol. After this point, as Daisy tells CNN, she remembers nothing that happened the rest of the night. Keep reading »
In January 2012, Daisy Coleman, then 14 years old, attended a junior high/high school party in Maryville, MO, the town she and her family had recently moved to following her dad’s untimely death. At that party, Daisy became intoxicated to the point of being unable to stand; she was then allegedly raped by 17-year-old senior and star football player Matthew Barnett. The rape was filmed with an iPhone camera — the video was allegedly passed around at school — and then deposited the unconscious girl on her porch in the middle night in 22 degree weather. Daisy was discovered by her mother, Melinda Coleman, the next morning, her hair frozen, clad only in sweatpants and a T-shirt. (Though news outlets usually keep rape victims’ identities anonymous, Melinda Coleman has released Daisy’s name to the media on her own.) Keep reading »
A sophomore at Emerson College in Boston said the school discouraged her from reporting her off-campus sexual assault by a fellow student and took months to conduct their own investigation, which ultimately concluded in the alleged assailant being found “not responsible.” Sarah Tedesco filed a complaint with the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights last week.
According to Huffington Post, Tedesco was sexually assaulted off the Emerson campus on October 12, 2012, by two people, including a fellow Emerson student who lived in her residence hall. In an article published in February 2013 for Isis Magazine, an Emerson feminist online magazine, Tedesco wrote about the specifics of her rape: Keep reading »