- Big penises have us running to lock ourselves in the bathroom, don’t they, ladies? That’s what the ad agency behind a (real?) ad for Prudence Extra-Large Condoms wants to think. Although the idea of the ad is clever — a long, wordy rant from a guy trying to be “persuasive” — the actual text is kind of rapey, especially the line about “the screams are part of the fragile lady role.” Sorry, bros, but your condom ad is not sexy. [Buzzfeed]
- Are black women “thinspo” blogs — aka, “thin inspiration” blogs — on the rise? [Clutch Magazine]
- Meet Katie Ricks, the first-ever openly lesbian minister to be ordained by the Presbyterian Church. [Pam's House Blend] Keep reading »
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“We have a ride to the club tonight,” my friend announced. We left our dormitory and headed into the vehicle of a man my friend met a party.
In the vehicle, a young man that I recognized from a nightclub we frequented was in the driver’s seat. I asked his name because, other than dancing with him a few times, I knew nothing about this guy. As a matter of fact, I had no clue how he knew my friend, since the last few visits he was on my dance card.
“I recognize you,” I had actually said to him before asking his name.
His surprise and hesitation about revealing his name was all it took to make me suspicious. That’s because in addition to being a hypochondriac, I’m a killer-chondriac. As a killer-chondriac, I think everyone is the killer until proven otherwise. But what I realized that night was we don’t think of other ways strangers can do harm. So I dulled the alarm bells.
Two weeks ago, Belvedere Vodka tweeted an ad depicting a man pulling a surprised, open-mouthed woman down onto his lap. The headline read: “Unlike some people, Belvedere always goes down smoothly.” Decent people got the skeevies and called the ad out as rapey. Belvedere quickly tweeted that they were sorry “if any of our fans were offended” — but not sorry for the actual creepy ad — and made a donation to the Rape And Incest National Network.
Now, Alicyn Packard, the actress who starred in a comedy sketch from which Belvedere appropriated her image, is suing its parent company Moet Hennesey. Packard’s lawsuit claims emotional distress from appearing in such a reviled ad and claims Belvedere did not have permission to use her image (misappropriation of likeness). The company allegedly ganked her image from a comedy video made by her company, Strickly Viral Productions. “To be affiliated with an ad that’s so offensive to so many has just been horrible,” she told KTLA. Keep reading »
A Spanish court dismissed a rape case against a Saudi prince and billionaire, after it was decided there was not sufficient evidence to press charges. Saudi Prince Alwaleed Bin Talal, 57, the nephew of King Abdullah, had been accused of raping a Spanish model on a yacht owned by the Saudi royal family off the island of Ibiza in August 2008. The prince claimed he had not been in Ibiza at the time and had in fact been in France with his family, which dozens of witnesses can allegedly confirm, his lawyers claim. It does not seem to be in dispute that the then-20-year-old woman was attacked, however. She sent a text message to a friend on the night of the alleged attack saying she thought her drink had been spiked; when the victim was examined afterwards, her urine contained a sleep-inducing tranquilizer and semen. Apparently that DNA evidence has never been tested against the prince’s DNA. The victim claims that the case — which was already dismissed once before by a lower court for lack of evidence — is not being handled with due seriousness because the man she has accused is one of the richest, most powerful men in the world with stakes in NewsCorp and CitiGroup.
- While pushing for reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act, Rep. Gwen Moore (D-WI) recounted the story of her own sexual assault as a child and rape as a young woman. “Violence against women is as American as apple pie,” Rep. Moore said. “I know, not only as a legislator, but from personal experience. Domestic violence has been a thread throughout my personal life, up to and including being a child repeatedly sexually assaulted, up to and including being an adult who’s been raped.” Much respect to her for sharing her personal story in such a public way. [Huffington Post]
- Adrienne Rich, feminist poet and essayist, died yesterday at age 82. [L.A. Times]
- Out students at West Point are filming the military school’s first Gay-Straight Alliance since the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” repeal. [Queerty] Keep reading »
- Belvedere Vodka tweeted an ad recently where a man pulls an open-mouthed woman down onto his lap with the headline, “Unlike some people, Belvedere always goes down smoothly.” The company tweeted later that they were sorry “if any of our fans were offended,” although not for the actual creepy ad. The ad appears to have since been pulled. [Jessica Valenti]
- Pennsylvania’s Governor Tom Corbett dismissed criticism of the state’s new forced ultrasound law for women seeking an abortion, compassionately stating, “You just have to close your eyes.” [Huffington Post]
- PA state senator Larry Farnese has introduced a bill that would require men seeking Viagra to first undergo a prostate exam, a cardiac stress test, and sex therapy. [Nerve]
- You know things are bad for women’s rights in America when a Republican Congressman is urging women to donate their money to Democrats, who he calls “people who speak out on our behalf.” [Daily Kos] Keep reading »
I’ll admit I was skeptical when I heard that the White House was holding a technology challenge for developers to create an app that would help prevent sexual violence. All of the stuff that I believe can change the prevalence of sexual violence — harsher punishments for criminals, a cultural change on what consent means, a modification of the way we use alcohol and drugs — cannot be found in the App Store. But I’m impressed — very impressed — by the contest’s winning app called Circle Of Six. Keep reading »
- The Idaho state senator who sponsored the bill that would force women to undergo a medically unnecessary ultrasound before an abortion said yesterday that there is no exception for rape or incest victims because women may lie about being raped to get an abortion. Oh, you know. Lyin’ about rape. Gettin’ abortions. It’s stuff we ladies do all the time. [Huffington Post]
- Also, Idaho’s GOP will stage a live ultrasound demonstration at the statehouse. [Think Progress]
- First Lady Michelle Obama told a fundraising crowd on Sunday night that any Supreme Court appointments by her husband would ensure future generations could “love whomever they choose.” [Politicker]
- Colorado’s state house advanced an anti-abortion “fetal personhood” bill that would declare a fertilized egg to be a human being, therefore criminalizing abortion. [Daily Kos]
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Geez ladies, by now we should all know that referring to anything other than rape as “rape” is just a bad idea. It trivializes what rape actually is and manages to make you look like a complete buffoon. And that’s exactly what Courtney Love did when she claimed the Muppets — the friggin’ Muppets! — “raped” the memory of Kurt Cobain by using Nirvana’s song “Smells Like Teen Spirit” in their movie.
Well, it’s a little more complicated than that. According to TMZ, half of Courtney Love’s rights to Cobain’s music was sold to a company called Primary Wave Music, which gave the Muppets movie permission to use the song. Also, the two surviving members of Nirvana, Dave Grohl and Krist Novoselic, gave their permission as well. And Dave Grohol is in the movie. This sounds like another case of What The Hell Are You Talking About, Courtney Love? [TMZ]
Courtney Love is only the latest in a long and tacky line of celebs who’ve used the word “rape” insensitively. Click through our gallery of shame!