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Chescaleigh Responds To Slut Shaming By Jenna Marbles

Jenna Marbles Slut Shames
On Jenna Marbles' "Things I Don't Understand About Sluts" video. Read More »
On Slutshaming
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Responding To Jenna Marbles

A bit of background: YouTube star Jenna Marbles recently did a video called “Things I Don’t Understand About Girls: Sluts Edition” and it was fairly horrible. First of all, Jenna Marbles thinks that being a promiscuous “slut” is a bad thing.  Sluts, she says, are women who have “a lot of casual sex,” although she admits she can’t really define what “a lot” means because it’s different for every person. I’m sorry, every woman. The only people Jenna Marbles judges for having “a lot of casual sex” are women.

She admits the video is not supposed to be funny — and it’s not. In addition to being nasty towards other women, it comes off as bitter. (There’s this weird part about sluts who sleep with other girls’ boyfriends, because I guess I guess an insatiable sex drive stops you from having morals?) Mostly Jenna just repeated the kind of “sluts are the wooooorst” stuff that you imagine Rush Limbaugh says to his pals while they smoke cigars in a strip club. So it is a VERY welcome breath of fresh air to see Chescaleigh (AKA Franchesca Ramsey) did a response. Keep reading »

CA Judge Derek Johnson Says Rape Victim “Didn’t Put Up A Fight,” Body Would Have Shut Down

"Nice Guy" Rapists
If you have sex without consent, you can't call yourself a "nice guy." Read More »
Akin's Rape Science
Rep. Todd Akin says "legitimate rape victims" don't get pregnant. Read More »
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Men who inaccurately believe a woman’s body “just shuts down” during rape aren’t just all up in your legislature making your laws. They also sit on your courts.

California Superior Court Judge Derek Johnson has been publicly admonished in a 10-0 vote by the CA Commission on Judicial Performance for his comments that a 2008 sexual assault victim “didn’t put up a fight” during her rape and that her rape was only “technical,” whatever that means, and not “a real, live criminal case.” Rape can’t happen because if a woman’s body doesn’t want sex, Johnson said, because her ladyparts “will not permit that to happen.”

Good to know he was also a former prosecutor on the Orange County DA’s sex crimes unit, huh?

Warning, there is a description of a very violent threat of sexual violence after the jump. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Nice Guys As Rapists

I Was Date Raped
Amelia was date raped in college by a guy she liked. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women everywhere should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »
Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »

Almost a year ago, I wrote an essay about having been date raped in college. The piece got a strong reaction from commenters, many of whom debated whether or not I had given or not given consent for this guy to have sex with me. Much of the back-and-forth centered around the fact that I didn’t realize that penetration had actually occurred until days later. I had had a few beers, it was dark, I was a virgin and generally sexually inexperienced, and I had told him explicitly that I did not want to have sex yet, all of which added up to me not realizing what had happened until he told me.

I perceived this man to be “a nice guy.” (We had a good date. He was funny and smart and liked animals. He seemed trustworthy.) He genuinely seemed surprised that I hadn’t realized he had penetrated me, that he wasn’t able to “help” himself. That’s what he said: “I couldn’t help myself.” I still clearly remember his tone — it was sort of sheepish, but also complimentary, as though he was trying to flatter me by saying he couldn’t stop himself from doing what I said earlier not to do. As I thought about it in the days after, I excused his raping me as a breakdown of communication. He hadn’t meant to rape me, so therefore it couldn’t be rape. Besides, he was a nice guy and nice guys just don’t rape. Keep reading »

True Story: How To Reclaim Your Sex Life After Surviving Sexual Assault

It Got Better
Don't despair. Tough times do pass. Read More »
How To Deal
Life is hard. Sometimes we all need help dealing. Read More »
I Was Raped
An account of sexual assault at Amherst College. Read More »

One in every five women has been sexually assaulted. And most of those assaults happen before the age of 25. I am a woman. I’m 25 years old, and I am part of the 20 percent of women who have been raped.

It’s one of the hardest things I’ve had to accept about myself, and it’s one that’s not frequently talked about. Keep reading »

The Anti-Rape Panties Of “Victoria’s Secret”

Timed to coincide with tonight’s telecast of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, some activist types launched “PINK loves CONSENT,” a Victoria’s Secret parody peddling anti-rape panties. ”To win back customers it has alienated with its ‘rape culture’ styles,” an activist who insisted she worked for Victoria’s Secret told Jezebel, the brand would replace apparently rape-friendly slogans like “SURE THING” with rape-thwarting slogans like “ASK FIRST.” “When it comes to sex, words like ‘no’ are for setting boundaries, NOT flirting.”

Within 24 hours of its launch, Jezebel debunked the campaign. Female bloggers took to Tumblr, warning one another that this anti-rape lingerie line was not real, so do not fall for it. Read more…

Pray Tell: What The Brooklyn Hasidic Rape Trial Tells Us About Religion Colliding With The Modern World

In Brooklyn, a 17-year-old girl just testified against the man accused of sexually assaulting her. On the surface, this case is sadly too familiar: she and her accused rapist are both members of a strict right wing sect of ultra-Orthodox Judaism, known as the Satmar Hasidim.

Extreme groups exist in every religion, and Judaism is no exception. However, the Satmar Hasidim are a fringe group within a fringe group. Though they are ultra-Orthodox Jews (meaning that they keep kosher, observe the Sabbath, and follow all the other rules), they differ from other super-religious Jews in that they don’t support the nation of Israel. Like other ultra-Orthodox Jews (this isn’t really a thing in the more liberal branches of Judaism), they keep strict gender segregation, sending boys and girls to different schools that teach different subjects and keeping men and women separated in synagogue. But the rape case currently happening in Brooklyn could blow the roof of the place. Keep reading »

“Sleep Sex” Is Not A Real Thing, But Raping Someone While They Sleep Is

"Don't Get Raped!"
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New Tumblr collects news stories that blame the victim. Read More »
I Was Raped
An account of sexual assault at Amherst College. Read More »
It Was Rape
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Advice columns bring out the worst in journalism outlets, I have found, and Nerve.com is no exception. Today, the website asked readers to play “advice columnist” and dish out advice to a woman who had written asking what to do about her boyfriend who raped her while she was sleeping. She had taken a sleeping pill while drunk, after coming home alone, and was so deeply asleep she didn’t even hear her boyfriend come home that night. But when she woke up in the morning, she realized he had raped her during the night. “Did we have sex last night?” she asked him. “Well, one of us did,” the boyfriend said, laughing. The woman then wrote in to Nerve.com saying she no longer trusts him and asks for advice on what to do.

And Nerve, for some reason, chose to title this post, “Please Advice: My Boyfriend Had Sex With Me While I Was Asleep.” Uh, come again? “Had sex” wit hher? FACT: a person who is asleep — not to mention drunk and on a sleeping pill — cannot consent to sex. Her boyfriend didn’t “have sex” with her. Her boyfriend raped her. Keep reading »

Catelynn Lowell From “16 & Pregnant” Is An Anti-Abortion Extremist

Engaged!
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Tyler and Catelynn from "Teen Mom" set a date. Read More »
Get Off "Teen Mom"
Catelynn gave her baby up for adoption. Why is she on the show? Read More »
Catfight: College Fund
Is Jezebel's college fund for Tyler and Catelynn a sucky idea? Read More »
Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra

Catelynn Lowell and Tyler Baltierra from MTV’s “16 and Pregnant” and “Teen Mom” have been, surprisingly, one of the more controversial couples on the two shows. Catelynn was the only teen mom in the first season to carry her pregnancy to term and put the child up for adoption; the little girl, Carly, is now a toddler and the adoptive family is still in touch with the birth parents. Over the years, some people have wondered why Catelynn and Tyler are even on “Teen Mom” anymore, since she is not a day-to-day parent like the others on the show. Some have even suggested MTV might be exploitatively harming these two for keeping them on a show that’s sole focus is the child they gave up for adoption.

Catelynn and Tyler are in the news less now that younger casts of “Teen Mom” are in the limelight. To their credit, they haven’t had public battles with drug abuse, domestic violence and mental illness quite like Amber Portwood, another teen mom from the first season. They seem like basically good kids with solid heads on their shoulders; last year the two even got engaged and set a date for 2013.

But lately Catelynn’s been making headlines recently for another reason: she’s an anti-abortion extremist. Keep reading »

Pizza Boy Rapist Gave Disturbing Confession

Mom Defends Rapist
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Mom defends "pizza boy rapist," suggesting woman was drunk. Read More »
Rapist Blames Four Loko
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An accused rapist blames his vicious attack on too much Four Loko. Read More »
Wishes Of Rape
Why wishing rape upon rapists is not OK. Read More »
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In September, a 16-year-old New York City youth named Cesar Lucas was arrested after he delivered a pizza for his father’s pizzeria.  Cear took his order to a building on the Upper West Side, wandered around until he found an open apartment, and raped a sleeping woman as her child lay a child at her side. He entered her apartment at 12:30a.m. and sexually assaulted her until she woke up and threw him off her. Before leaving the apartment, he stole money from a purse as well.  Lucas has been indicted on charges of burglary, endangering a child, sex abuse and rape. Now the New York Post has his two-page confession … and it’s pretty disturbing. Keep reading »

What Do You Do To Avoid Sexual Assault And Harassment?

Rape Is "God's Will"
Or so says douchebag Richard Mourdock. Read More »
"Don't Get Raped!"
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New Tumblr collects news stories that blame the victim. Read More »
Rapist Blames Four Loko
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An accused rapist blames his vicious attack on too much Four Loko. Read More »
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What Do You Do To Not Get Raped?
  • Wow, everyone: Project Unspoken at Emory University put together this amazing video in which it asked both men and women on camera what actions they take on a daily basis to avoid sexual assault and harassment. Not surprisingly, the men say they do nothing … and the women go on and on and on and on.  Seriously, watch this video. It’s very powerful. [Feministing]
  • INTERPOL has elected its first-ever female president, Mireille Ballestrazzi. [The Mary Sue]
  • I don’t talk as much about “intersectionalism” as I probably should — that is, recognizing that oppression is all intersectional and that feminist activism must never ignore class, race, sexual orientation, etc. — so this “Intersectionalism 101″ blog post is probably a good place to start if you want to learn more about it. [Nerdy Feminist]
  • On the wide poverty gap between women and men. [The Atlantic]
  • Four ways in which women won the 2012 election. [TIME] Keep reading »
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