Topping the list of things that are wildly inappropriate for a grown man to give a girl for her 15th birthday: a tattoo of his name on her vagina. Thirty-year-old Matthew Abram Rader of Oregon is facing charges of 3rd degree rape, sodomy and second degree online corruption of a minor. In Oregon, sex with a minor under the age of 16 is considered 3rd degree rape. I’m not sure what charge the vagina tattoo constitutes.
The victim, whose identity is being withheld, informed police that Rader had given her three tattoos: a butterfly with a skull on her neck, a clover, and his name “near her vagina” as a birthday gift. Authorities believe that two had a sexual relationship, beginning when the girl was 14, based on explicit messages and requests for nude photos, which were uncovered during an ongoing Facebook investigation. Keep reading »
Well, here’s an offensive and insensitive comment about rape victims that truly takes the cake.
An Indonesian judge who is a candidate for the Indonesian Supreme Court was asked whether the death penalty was a fitting punishment for rape. Here is how Muhammad Daming Sanusi answered the question, according to CNN:
“Consideration needs to be taken thoroughly for the imposition of death penalty for a rapist because in a rape case both the rapist and the victim enjoy it.”
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Fed up with the idea that women are somehow inviting rape by wearing “immodest” clothing, a group of men in Bangalore, India, have taken to wearing skirts in protest. Their protest comes right after the recent gang rape and brutal beating death of Jyoti Singh Pandey, and the men wanted to show solidarity. The protesters are also wearing signs that say “teach your sons not to rape” and “men, don’t skirt the issue — speak up, support women.”
“The point of this protest isn’t to rally or shout slogans, but rather show how wearing a skirt is just normal and that a piece of clothing cannot invite rape,” said Samarpita Samaddar, one of the protest’s organizers. After weeks of nothing but horrible news coming from India, it’s inspiring to hear these men stand up for women. [CNN]
It’s been an abysmal few months for women, thanks to the many, many members of the Republican party insisting on allowing comments about rape to pour out of their faceholes. Every other day during election season, there’d be some guy from Missouri or Indiana or Pennsylvania (that’s Todd Akin, Richard Mourdock, and Rick Santorum, to be clear) trying to explain why a woman who was physically and emotionally violated wasn’t as important as the unborn child she might be carrying. There was Iowa Representative Steve King, who said that he had never “personally” heard of a woman getting pregnant from rape or incest. And Washington Representative Steve Koster, who famously said:
“Incest is so rare, I mean, it’s so rare…But the rape thing– you know, I know a woman who was raped and kept the child, gave it up for adoption, and she doesn’t regret it. On the rape thing, it’s like, how does putting more violence onto a woman’s body and taking the life of an innocent child that’s a consequence of this crime—how does that make it better? You know what I mean?”
It appears that yes, the Republican party has a rape problem, and can’t even follow Mitt Romney’s campaign directive: “If you’re about to talk about rape as anything other than a brutal and horrible crime, stop.” So, they’ve brought in an organization to give them rape sensitivity training! Keep reading »
“I was saddened and I was sickened. I literally felt nauseous. I’m from India and while [the attack] didn’t surprise me, it disgusted me … And it reminded me, it brought back to me all of those feelings of when I was walking in Delhi. I used to ride the bus in India to school and I hated it. I hated going on a crowded bus because they would always pinch you or grab you and, you know, when you’re a teenager … I went to school for some years in India and it was terrible …
There is no actual word for rape. The closest word [in Hindi, India's predominant language] is I guess ‘lootna,’ which kind of means to take someone’s honour away. But to say that because a woman has been violated she no longer has her chastity or her honour is missing the point. Therein lies the problem.”
– “Top Chef”‘s Padma Lakshmi, who is Indian-American, responds to the death of Jyoti Singh Pandey, a 23-year-old student in India who was gang raped with a metal rod and later from her injuries. Singh Pandey’s death was followed by another gang rape of a 29-year-old woman just this past weekend. I did not know until reading this quote from Padma that there was no actual word in Hindi for “rape,” which, as she pointed out, explains a lot. [Daily Chilli]
Just weeks after the death of a 23-year-old woman named Jyoti Singh Pandey, who was brutally gang raped on a bus — assaulted with a metal rod which required the removal of her intestines — another woman has been gang raped in India. Police say a 29-year-old woman was gang raped on Friday night by seven men, including a bus driver who drove past her stop, took her to a deserted area, and attacked her. Keep reading »
If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one of the top feminist writers under 30 by Ms. magazine. Then, somewhere along the way, her feminist principles started to chafe: she felt like men were emasculated (“icky ‘liberal’ men,” she calls them in the book) and she resented feeling like women wore the pants. Soon Valdes fell for a Fox News-watching, macho cowboy who exuded an alpha male sexiness and she started to submit to him in their relationship. As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.”
Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her. Keep reading »
The former guardians of Ma’lik Richmond, a teen football player who is facing sexual assault charges for allegedly raping a 16-year-old girl at a high school party this summer, came to his defense on “The Today Show” this morning.
In August, members of the Steubenville High School football in Ohio team sexually abused an unconscious drunk girl, carrying her to multiple parties where she was raped and peed upon. The victim was also photographed while being violated and carried around the party and images were posted on Twitter and other social media sites. Two football players from the team, Richmond and another student, Trenton Mays, were arrested and charged with rape and kidnapping, although many other students were at the party and witnessed the assault. Keep reading »