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Girl Talk: My Rape Ruined My Female Friendships

Assault At Amherst
An account of a sexual assault at Amherst College. Read More »
Rape Accidents
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Vanderbilt football players indicted for alleged sex assault on woman. Read More »
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In college, I was part of a tight-knit group of young women. There were five of us in the core group. Two were roommates and their room, 513, was our central meeting place. There was a lack of formality when it came to hanging out. It was totally normal to walk right in if the door to 513 wasn’t locked and downright mandatory to stop by if it was propped open. We were honest and comfortable with each other.

Or so I thought.

Rape doesn’t happen the way you think it will. I wasn’t drunk or drugged at a party, no one jumped me after dark while walking home alone; the attack didn’t even start as being physically rough. It was slow, insistent, and shocking. My rape was terrifying, uncomfortable, and incredibly confusing. The physical pain was as bad as the betrayal; the psychological injury of living in the same building as the rapist almost ended me entirely, but I still had my friends, I reasoned, so I was able to keep going with my collegiate career. Keep reading »

A Survivor’s Take On Twitter, Privacy And Telling Somebody Else’s Rape Story

I feel for BuzzFeed writer Jessica Testa. While our blog may not get the massive traffic that BF does, I’ve still experienced brief bouts of hundreds of people being furious with me because I wrote something that genuinely held no ill-intent. I think that no matter how obvious it is that the Internet is full of millions of humans who disagree with you–who can and will let you know that in a heartbeat–it is still stressful when your words become a source of both brief and lengthy critical thought. Read more on The Gloss…

Senate Blocks Bid To Change Military’s Change Of Command On Prosecuting Sexual Assault

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  • The Senate successfully blocked a spearheaded by Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand (D-NY) bill that would change the military’s judicial system by taking sexual assault cases outside of the chain of command and handing it over to military lawyers. Gillibrand was unable to get enough votes to overcome a filibuster of the bill. [The Hill, USA Today]
  • Virginia repealed its ban on oral and anal sex today. [Nerve]
  • If the Girl Scouts are too slutty for you, conservatives have a less promiscuous alternative. [Jezebel] Keep reading »

This Study Hightlights What We Already Knew: Assault Is Never The Victim’s Fault

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Intent isn't everything, but it does matter. Read More »
Disclosing My Rape
She's started telling guys on the first date that she was once raped. Read More »
Teach Boys Not To Rape
On Steubenville High School and teaching boys not to rape. Read More »

A new study has found that in situations of sexual aggression at bars, most attackers are very clear on the fact that their victims are not consenting. The results made obvious what so many already know: despite claims of misperception, in most cases it is very clear that the attacker’s advances are unwanted by victims. Many attackers purposely seek out women who seem vulnerable or unable to consent, and “she acted like she wanted it” is never, ever an excuse. Keep reading »

Georgia Judge Orders New Trial Because Woman With Down Syndrome “Didn’t Behave Like A Victim”

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  • Fayette County, Georgia, judge Christiopher McFadden overturned a jury’s guilty verdict against a man who raped a woman with Down syndrome because she allegedly didn’t behave like a victim. In his ruling, McFadden said the woman — who doctors confirmed had been forcibly raped and who had the perpetrator’s semen in her bed — hadn’t behaved like a victim and the perpetrator had not behaved like someone who had committed “a series of violent crimes.” The perpetrator had been sentenced to 25 years for raping the woman. W.T.F. (*** Thanks to reader Tina for the links!) [Atlanta Journal Constitution, The Citizen News, ABA Journal]
  • On how Lifetime’s reality show “Preachers’ Daughters” shows that everything is wrong with purity culture. [Feministing] Keep reading »

Yoga Guru Bikram Choudhury’s Rape Accusers Speak On “Nightline”

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"No one's entitled to anyone's body."

Trigger warning: this video and the text below contain accounts of rape and sexual assault.  

On last night’s “Nightline,” three of Bikram Choudhury’s five sexual assault accusers bravely came forward to talk about the horrors they suffered at the hands of the yoga guru. Honestly, I had read about the charges, but the first-hand accounts were far more disturbing than I imagined. As a newly minted yoga teacher and a long-time yogi, these women’s stories rocked me to the core. To think of a practice that has been such a positive influence in my life being perverted by the most disgusting form of victimization is gut wrenching. As Sarah Baughn, the first woman to come forth in the media with her charges, says, “My daughter one day looked at me and said…’Mommy I want to be just like you. I want to be a yoga teacher.’ And all I could think was, ‘You can’t do that. You’ll get raped.’” Keep reading »

How Rape, Accidents Persist At Frat Houses

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Frat-house accidents and sexual assaults are getting so common they’re impossible to ignore—but how did it get this bad, and why does it keep happening? In an extensive Atlantic piece, Caitlin Flanagan looks at the history of fraternities and their myriad ways of avoiding legal obligations for what goes on behind closed doors. Read more on Newser…

Minnesota Nursing Home Defends Rapist, Calls 89-Year-Old Victim “A Flirt”

Minnesota Nursing Home Defends Rapist, Calls 89-Year-Old Victim "A Flirt"

An 89-year-old woman is suing a Minnesota nursing home for punitive damages because she was forced to spend 72 hours in a mental health unit after she reported that she was raped by 30-year-old Andrew Scott Merzwski. According to court documents, the woman was a resident at Edgewood Vista senior living facility near Duluth the night that Merzwski entered her room as she was preparing for bed and began taking off his clothes when she invited him to stay and watch a movie. Though she refused his advances, Merzwski later admitted to having sex with her after the victim’s daughter called the police. Merzwski was eventually sentenced to 53 months in prison and ordered to register as a sex offender for a period of 10 years.

But the remaining issue is Edgewood Vista’s egregious mishandling of the crime, which included not only failing to report the crime to police immediately, but mistreating the victim. After the elderly victim reported the rape, Edgewood Vista responded by sending her to a psychiatric ward at St. Luke’s Hospital for nearly three days, where, according to the nurse who eventually examined her, she was locked in a cold room with nothing but a blanket. When nurse examiner Theresa Flesvig finally was able to do a physical examination, she found the “biggest tear” as a result of rape that she had ever seen in her career. Keep reading »

Fundamentalist Christian College Bob Jones University Halts Study On Its Handling Of Sexual Assault

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Bob Jones University, an uber-Christian fundamentalist college in South Carolina, has drawn attention for commissioning and then covering up a study on how well the institution handled sexual abuse.

According to The New York Times, the university solicited a consulting group, Godly Response To Abuse In The Christian Environment (Grace) to serve as an ombudsman and investigate how the school handles sexual assaults. Bob Jones hired Grace in the first place after seeing numerous other colleges around the country attract federal investigation for mishandling sexual abuse on campus. According to a blog post for Bob Jones’ public relations, the school wanted “ to evaluate its processes and procedures for responding to reports of sexual abuse and specifically to ensure the University maintained best practices for a legally compliant and loving, scripturally based response to such reports.” Keep reading »

Kickass Women Of The Day: The Founders of “Girl Code Movement” Are Fighting Back Against Campus Rape

Kickass Women Of The Day: The Founders of "Girl Code Movement" Are Fighting Back Against Campus Rape

Caroline Heres, Julie Gelb and Jackie Reilly are on a mission to decrease sexual assault on college campuses. Last fall, Caroline and Jackie, who are students at Syracuse University, discussed the fact that they’d both been assaulted. What started as a chat between two friends evolved into a need to take action. Together, they decided to spread the word by contacting Syracuse sororities and holding a meeting about helping one another prevent assault

The pair received an encouraging response, and it quickly became clear that they had major potential on their hands. They teamed up with their sorority sister Julie Gelb, a PR major, to create Girl Code Movement. The organization aims to bring college women together across the country and encourage them to be active, empowered bystanders to help prevent rape through identifying possible victims and keeping them out of harm’s way. Keep reading »

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