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True Story: I Was In A Date Rape Play

True Story: I Was In A Date Rape Play

It’s freshman year of college, and Janie and Dave are best friends. They do everything together – hang out in their dorm rooms, go to the dining hall, walk around campus. Their friendship is great, until one night, they decide to head to a “fraternity party.”

At the party, Janie and Dave drink alcohol. When they decide to leave, Dave walks Janie back to her dorm room – to be sure she gets there ok, of course. Once inside, Dave confesses that he loves Janie. He starts to kiss her and gets on top of her. Janie is confused, saying that she’s not sure about this…

I’m sure you can fill in the rest.

This is the plot of a play in which I once starred, called quite aptly “The Date Rape Play.” It was the summer before my junior year of college. I was cast in the play — and, crucially, paid $200 — in order to perform it for groups of incoming freshman, who Needed to Know About Date Rape. The play was written by an adult trying desperately to be “down” with the way the kids talked and acted. Sample lines included: “Have you heard about the date rape drug, Rohypnol?,” “I don’t know, I’m worried people will be drinking alcohol there,” and “You got the look girl, work it!” My fellow theater kid friends and I thought it was the best thing we’d ever seen. Keep reading »

Jada Pinkett Smith On #JusticeForJada, Rape Culture, And Her Niece Being Roofied

“My niece was given a date rape drug that weekend. She’s 20-years-old – thank God nothing happened because she was with some responsible guys that took care of her. She was safe because she was with a group of friends that realized – she said, ‘Oh, my god, I can’t feel my … ” and she started losing consciousness. Thank god the people she was with put her in a room, closed the door, and she didn’t come to for three and a half hours. … There is an epidemic going on out here in regards to the treatment of women. We have to figure out how we can empower people in different ways. … I’m not a conventional parent, which I take a lot of pride in. The first thing I had my niece do was sit down with my daughter and a couple of her friends and tell her about that experience. I don’t just sit with Willow and go, ‘hey, this is what Mommy thinks.’ Let me just bring in a little reality to validate what Mommy’s been talking to you about.”

This is Jada Pinkett Smith discussing about #JusticeForJada, the hashtag in support of a 16-year-old girl named Jada, whose sexual assault went viral on the Internet. While speaking at an event on Sunday night and then following up with US Weekly, Pinkett Smith revealed that her niece was roofied the same weekend as Jada’s assault. So the actress asked her niece to sit down with her 13-year-old daughter Willow and talk about the experience — not to scare her, I think, but to open her eyes to rape culture in a very concrete way.

After the jump, Pinkett Smith explained more how she is raising Willow to be confident and assertive:  Keep reading »

UCONN Settles With Students Whose Sexual Assault Complaints It Mishandled

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Three frat boys were only punished with campus ban after graduation. Read More »
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A NY Times piece reveals how Hobart WS failed a student rape victim. Read More »
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Retaliation complaint sparks federal investigation. Read More »
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In October 2013, a group of current and former students accused the University of Connecticut of violating Title IX by mishandling their sexual assault cases which occurred at the school between 2010 and 2013. The Department of Education’s Office For Civil Rights launched an investigation into the school and whether it failed to follow the gender equality law that provides equal opportunity and access to education.

UCONN still refuses to broadly take responsibility for its failures. But today it was announced that the school is settling with five of the students it is accused of failing. Keep reading »

Conor Oberst Releases Statement Following Rape Accuser’s Recantation

“This has been extremely difficult and stressful for me personally and for those I love. I’m appreciative of the family, friends, fans and business partners who supported me throughout this and look forward to happier times as we all move forward with our lives.”

On Monday, a woman named Joanie Faircloth released a public statement recanting her rape accusations against Conor Oberst, also known as the singer Bright Eyes. The North Carolina woman had written in an xoJane comment thread that she had been raped by the musician when she was 16. (The comments have since been deleted.) Oberst always denied the allegations and in February, he sued Faircloth for libel. Following her statement released this week, Oberst released a statement of his own. His spokesperson told Rolling Stone it’s unclear whether he will continue forward with the libel lawsuit. [Rolling Stone] [Photo: Getty]

Four Men Arrested In NJ For Filming Sexual Assault On Drunk Teen Girl

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  • One teenager and three adult men in New Jersey have been arrested for sexually assaulting a drunk 15-year-old girl, filming the assault, and showing the video to other people. The teen was told that she had been assaulted at a backyard gathering, which she does not remember at all, and police found video shot on an iPhone that confirmed the assault. Various charges against the men who assaulted this girl include manufacturing child pornography, endangering the welfare of a child, and sexual assault. [Clutch Magazine via NJ.com]
  • Republicans in the Senate just blocked an attempt to circumvent the Supreme Court’s recent ruling that employers with religious objections could deny birth control coverage to their female employees. [Think Progress]
  • Find out more about “Las Libres,” a documentary about women in Mexico who have been charged with homicide for having abortions. [Feministing] Keep reading »

16-Year-Old Jada Posts Powerful #IAmJada Photo

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This powerful image before you is Jada, a 16-year-old girl in Texas who was sexually assaulted at a party last month and doubly victimized when pictures taken of the assault went viral online. The hashtag #jadapose shot around the Internet, with kids posing like Jada lying on the floor.  I hope this photo of Jada, her fist raised alongside the hashtag #IAmJada, will become the new Jada pose. [Twitter.com/RonanDaily]

Woman Who Accused Conor Oberst Of Rape Issues Statement Recanting Her Accusation

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“The statements I made and repeated online and elsewhere over the past six months accusing Conor Oberst of raping me are 100 percent false. I made up those lies about him to get attention while I was going through a difficult period in my life and trying to cope with my son’s illness. I publicly retract my statements about Conor Oberst, and sincerely apologize to him, his family, and his fans for writing such awful things about him. I realize that my actions were wrong and could undermine the claims of actual sexual assault victims and for that I also apologize. I’m truly sorry for all the pain that I caused.”

This is a statement released by Joanie Faircloth, a North Carolina woman who last year, in the comments section of an xoJane article, accused Bright Eyes singer Conor Oberst of raping her when she was 16. (The comments have since been deleted.) Oberst has always denied the allegations; in February, he sued Faircloth for libel. According to the statement, she contacted Oberst’s lawyers today with this notarized recant. Well, shit. [SPIN] [Photo: Getty]

PurrVerse: Adult Sex Workers Are Arrested When We “Think Of The Children”

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I woke up one morning last week to my Twitter in an uproar. That’s reasonably common in my world, as many of the people I follow are marginalized and there’s a lot to be angry about. Turns out that the FBI has seized MyRedbook, a California site where masseuses and escorts could advertise for clients for free, and arrested two people, Eric Omuro and Annmarie Lanoce,  in connection to “using the mail and the Internet to facilitate prostitution” as well as money laundering under several aliases.

As of right now it’s not entirely clear if those arrests were the main focus of the sting, or if there will be more upcoming. It’s terrifying to many people close to me, who used MyRedbook to advertise their erotic entertainment services because other options like Eros were too expensive or less trafficked by paying customers. We don’t really know what options sex workers who had profiles up on MyRedbook have to protect themselves from investigation. I’m among them, as I used to advertise on MyRedbook as a professional dominatrix. Keep reading »

New York Times Cover Story Reveals How Hobart & William Smith Massively Failed Student Rape Victim

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It has the elements of so many sexual assault allegations before it: fraternity members, a lot of alcohol, football players, freshman girls. And like too many other stories about sexual assault, this one also includes a university that failed a sexual assault victim and allowed campus rapists to get off scot-free.

This weekend, The New York Times published a gut-punch of a piece (on their front page, in fact) about a young woman called Anna who is a student at Hobart & William Smith, a college in upstate New York. During her first few weeks of college, Anna was sexually assaulted while drunk by several football players on the night of a frat party. After Anna sent texts that she was afraid, a friend found her drunkenly bent over a pool table, face down, surrounded by six or seven football players, including one right behind her who had his pants down. Keep reading »

#JusticeForJada: 16-Year-Old Texas Girl’s Alleged Rape Goes Viral With #JadaPose

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A 16-year-old girl in Houston, Texas named Jada has had her alleged rape photographed, posted on social media, and then mocked across the Internet with the tasteless hashtag #jadapose.

Jada — who has given KHOU 11 News in Texas permission to identify her first name and broadcast her face — attended a party last month at the home of a friend-of-a-friend. Jada said the teen boy hosting the party gave her a glass of punch, which she drank before passing out. She believes she was drugged.

Until she started receiving texts asking her if she was OK and seeing tweets, photos and Vines of her alleged rape posted online, Jada told KHOU that she had no idea what happened to her while she was passed out. And those images, might I remind you, could perhaps get the people sharing them busted for distributing child pornography. (KHOU blurs out the images in their broadcast posted above.) ”I had no control to say ‘no,’” Jada told the news station about what happened to her. “I didn’t tell anyone to take my clothes off and do what they did to me.”  Keep reading »

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