The most telling part of this “Teens React to Nicki Minaj — Anaconda” video is at 9:27: “Please, Nicki, change!”
I’m not even sure how I feel about the fact that Teens React put a bunch of high schoolers in a position where they’d have to choose to engage or not engage with a hypersexual video, and therefore their own sexuality, in front of a camera. I’m probably as uncomfortable with it as they are. And I’m not sure that the conversation that resulted was worth it: Remember, these are teenaged girls who have to protect their own bodies and sexual reputations, because that’s what we tell high school-age kids to do — that it’s normal to be reckoning with your sexuality, but don’t have sex! Be attractive, but don’t flaunt anything, or else if you get hurt it’s your fault. Could any of these girls really say “Yeah, I’m OK with this video” in such a public forum with any honesty? Keep reading »
I’m on the advice panel for I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault, a blog where adult victims of sexual assault share their stories in the hope of helping younger girls. I do believe people, automatically, when they tell me they’ve been raped. Why wouldn’t I? When I give advice, I try to focus on what the victims can do to validate themselves, to get some stability back in their lives, to show their bodies respect, to get some perspective on the psychological effects of trauma — just like everyone else on the panel does. We don’t jump to “BURN YOUR RAPIST TO THE GROUND! DESTROY HIM!” The fate of the accused is not the point of the blog; it’s the fate of the victim that matters to us. Keep reading »
Frat boys from Tau Kappa Epsilon at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee have been accused of slipping date rape drugs to young women at an off-campus party on Friday night after several female and one male student became so utterly incapacitated that police had to be called.
A UWM residence hall called the police three different times early Saturday morning after students came back to the dorm “unable to stand or walk.” All of the incapacitated students had X’s written on the back of their hands, which they said they got from the TKE party. And here’s where the part of the story gets weird. According to the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel: Keep reading »
Columbia University senior Emma Sulkowicz made headlines earlier this month by carrying her twin-size mattress with her everywhere, in order to draw attention to the fact that the student who raped her has not been expelled. Keep reading »