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“Teens React to Anaconda” Is Making My Head Hurt

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The most telling part of this “Teens React to Nicki Minaj — Anaconda” video is at 9:27: “Please, Nicki, change!”

I’m not even sure how I feel about the fact that Teens React put a bunch of high schoolers in a position where they’d have to choose to engage or not engage with a hypersexual video, and therefore their own sexuality, in front of a camera. I’m probably as uncomfortable with it as they are. And I’m not sure that the conversation that resulted was worth it: Remember, these are teenaged girls who have to protect their own bodies and sexual reputations, because that’s what we tell high school-age kids to do — that it’s normal to be reckoning with your sexuality, but don’t have sex! Be attractive, but don’t flaunt anything, or else if you get hurt it’s your fault. Could any of these girls really say “Yeah, I’m OK with this video” in such a public forum with any honesty? Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Rape Doesn’t Have To Meet The Legal Standard To Have Happened

I’m on the advice panel for I Believe You, It’s Not Your Fault, a blog where adult victims of sexual assault share their stories in the hope of helping younger girls. I do believe people, automatically, when they tell me they’ve been raped. Why wouldn’t I? When I give advice, I try to focus on what the victims can do to validate themselves, to get some stability back in their lives, to show their bodies respect, to get some perspective on the psychological effects of trauma — just like everyone else on the panel does. We don’t jump to “BURN YOUR RAPIST TO THE GROUND! DESTROY HIM!” The fate of the accused is not the point of the blog; it’s the fate of the victim that matters to us. Keep reading »

TKE Frat Suspended At University Of Wisconsin Milwaukee As Police Investigate Date Rape Drug Party Claims

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Frat boys from Tau Kappa Epsilon at the University of Wisconsin Milwaukee have been accused of slipping date rape drugs to young women at an off-campus party on Friday night after several female and one male student became so utterly incapacitated that police had to be called.

A UWM residence hall called the police three different times early Saturday morning after students came back to the dorm “unable to stand or walk.” All of the incapacitated students had X’s written on the back of their hands, which they said they got from the TKE party. And here’s where the part of the story gets weird. According to the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel: Keep reading »

Columbia Students Help Classmate Emma Sulkowicz Carry The Mattress On Which She Was Raped

Columbia Students Help Classmate Emma Sulkowicz Carry The Mattress On Which She Was Raped

Columbia University senior Emma Sulkowicz made headlines earlier this month by carrying her twin-size mattress with her everywhere, in order to draw attention to the fact that the student who raped her has not been expelled. Keep reading »

True Story: Someone I Love Told Me He Thinks Women Lie About Rape

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I have an ongoing joke with two of my close friends, about a Tumblr we’re going to create called “I’m Disappointed in You.” It will include a variety of things people — most of whom we thought knew better — have done which lowered them in our esteem. Examples will include deliberately racist comments, fat shaming, heterosexism, anti-feminist nonsense … you get the idea. It’s a joke, but it’s based on a feeling I’m sure we’re all familiar with.

A few weeks ago, I was startled by the kind of disappointment that can only come from someone you love and trust. I wish I remember what started this conversation,  but suddenly a man who has done an excellent job of loving me for almost 20 years said to me, “I think that if there are 10 women who say they’ve been raped, eight of them are telling the truth, and two of them are probably lying.” Keep reading »

Cee Lo Green Dropped From Music Festivals After Rape Tweets

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  • Music festivals in Louisiana and Washington, D.C. have dropped Cee Lo Green following his gross tweets that “people who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!” Green pleaded no contest to charges that he had slipped Ecstasy into a woman’s drink and allegedly raped her; he maintains it was consensual sex. He also deleted the tweets, presumably after a publicist called him screaming. [The Grio; BuzzFeed]
  • It’s time to cry: Vivian Boyack, 91, and Alice Dubes, 90, finally married this weekend in Davenport, Iowa after SEVENTY-TWO YEARS together. [Feministing]
  • SheRides is a new taxi/livery service app that matches women drivers up with women riders. [Gothamist] Keep reading »
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