Posts tagged "rachel kramer bussel"

Girl Talk: I’m Glad My Boyfriend Is Divorced

Some women shy away from divorced guys, but I’m grateful my new boyfriend is divorced—or at least, on the way there (he is at the end of the process, in the final stages of paperwork). This is not a situation where someone says they’re getting divorced but is really just having an affair. They’ve bee…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / April 5, 2012

Girl Talk: I’ve Got “Recovery Envy”

I’m not an addict, and I’m not an alcoholic. But as offensive as this may sound, I sometimes I wish I were, if only so I could have a language and a community to help me deal with what often seem like out of control urges—a structure surrounding me to help me cope with, well,…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / November 18, 2011

Girl Talk: I Want My Boyfriend To Fantasize About Other Women

I read Eliza Jules’ essay “I Obsessively Monitor My Husband’s Lube Bottle” over at xoJane and was left with this question: Is a partner’s masturbation something we should worry about? The more I’ve thought about it, though, the more I’ve concluded that, for me, I’m at the very opposite end of the spectrum as Jule…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / June 30, 2011

Girl Talk: My Love/Hate Relationship With Thinspiration Blogs

The other night, I was wading through all the junk scattered around my apartment, starting to panic because I couldn’t find a book I needed to review. I threw out bag after bag of garbage and finally decided to get some dinner, my version of which was a prepackaged frozen entree of organic tofu, vegetable…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / December 23, 2010

Dealbreaker: The Sexless Guy

I’ve already told you why guys who don’t want head are a dealbreaker for me, but what about guys who just aren’t into sex? Yes, they exist. Anyone who tells you otherwise — that all men are 24/7 sex fiends — is either lying or has just been lucky enough not to meet the kind…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / March 16, 2009

Dating Drama: The Ex-Boyfriend Blues

Since my breakup, I’ve not only been navigating single life, but I’ve been trying to figure out what kind of relationship to have with my ex. Are we friends? Acquaintances? Simply exes? Potential friends with benefits? It’s hard to say, and I vacillate between these possibilities. I’m grateful that ours was a long distance relationship,…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / January 27, 2009

Dating Drama: What’s The Best Time For Sexytime?

Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you — and not in a dominatrix type of way. To put it mildly, I’m not a morning person — or, rather, I’m up for “morning sex,” if 11:59 a.m. counts as “morning.” But other…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / January 20, 2009

Dating Drama: To Movie Date Or Not To Movie Date?

“Dinner and a movie” may sound like the most boring, clichéd date ever, but I think movie dates are hot. When you go to the movies with someone, you learn a lot about them: what kinds of films they like, whether they pay for the tickets, how they behave in the theater. You may not…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / January 12, 2009

Dating Drama: Why I’m Happy To Be Single (For Now)

Not long ago, I had a boyfriend. Now, I’m single. Again. I’d been feeling like my relationship wasn’t working for a while, but that hasn’t made the breakup any easier. I miss my ex, but even more, I miss the idea of us having a future together. At the same time, I’m getting into the…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / December 15, 2008

Frisky News: Two New Must-Read Columns!

If you aren’t addicted already, we here at The Frisky are happy to announce that we’ve got two great women writing new weekly columns for the site. For all your mating, dating, and relationship needs, acclaimed author, editor, and former Village Voice columnist Rachel Kramer Bussel is doing “Dating Drama.” So far, she’s revealed how…

By: Susannah Breslin / December 3, 2008

Dating Drama: For Some, Flirting Is A Sport

My friend Gloria flirts with everyone — even her cat. Seriously. Almost every time I see her she’s cozying up to someone new, even though she isn’t a perpetual dater and doesn’t sleep around. At my birthday dinner a few weeks ago, she asked my friend Sira if he wanted to lick some buttercream frosting…

By: Rachel Kramer Bussel / December 1, 2008

Interview: Rachel Kramer Bussel On Sarah Palin Erotica

Even with the presidential election over, Sarah Palin remains a prominent figure. From her hairstyle to her politics, America has been and remains obsessed with the female politician who seemingly came out of nowhere. And while some debated her political platform, others were more preoccupied by her sexual identity. From a Palin sex doll to…

By: Susannah Breslin / November 10, 2008

Five Female Bloggers (Not Named Julia Allison) Who Should Be On The Cover Of A Magazine

Hey, do you read Wired? I don’t (Catherine has a subscription), but I am taking notice of Wired now – the cover of their August issue is certainly a departure from covers’ past and I must admit I recognize the pretty face, though many of you may not. Under the headline “Internet Famous: Julia Alliso…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / July 28, 2008

To Cut Or Not To Cut? That Is The Question.

Sex writer Rachel Kramer Bussel is in a heated debate over at Jewcy about the subject of circumcised penises. She votes “nay” on foreskins, while writer Esther Goldberg likes her men au natural. Both have good points, but where do you stand? [Jewcy.com]…

By: Amelia McDonell-Parry / April 2, 2008