Like everyone else in the country with excellent taste and a belly full of adult beverages, I very much enjoyed Beyoncé’s half-time performance at the Super Bowl on Sunday. I loved her all-woman band, particularly Bibi McGill’s spark-shooting axe. I loved the Destiny’s Child reunion. I loved that my Beyoncé half-time BINGO card included a square for “killing it,” which I ticked off within seconds of the show’s start.
And yet, my reaction to her post-halftime announcement of the upcoming “Mrs. Carter Show” tour was not to cheer her on in a post-feminist choose-your-choice fist-pump, but to huff: “Call me when Jay-Z goes on a Mr. Knowles tour.”
Why does the most powerful woman pop star in the world want, or need, to remind everyone she’s married? What does a Mrs. moniker have with her ability to sing, dance and write songs? And no, the name issue isn’t what gets me. I’m not raising a figurative eyebrow at “Carter,” I’m raising a figurative eyebrow at “Mrs.” Keep reading »
Once upon a time, I inadvertently started a cosplay race war on Tumblr. Whoops.
So, here’s the deal: I’m a cosplayer. If you don’t already know one of us in person, (and you probably do) (WE’RE EVERYWHERE) you’ve probably seen people like me on the news — all dolled up in a rainbow of face paint and eye popping wigs, 50 shades of spandex and skyscraper shoes, for the sake of expressing love for and bringing our favorite characters to life at sci-fi, comic book, video game and anime conventions.
Since I started cosplaying in 2008, I’ve traveled the country, hitting up as many cons as financially possible. all the while making incredible friends, unforgettable memories and lugging hard-to-get-through-airport-security props along the way. (Have you ever tried to fly with a dress made out of plastic bubbles? Fun fact — YOU CAN’T. But you can ship it to your hotel!)
Here’s the second deal: I’m also black. Which is fine by most everyone, until I have the audacity to cosplay a character who isn’t. Keep reading »
When we sat down to record our “I Always Wanted To Ask” video series with Madame Noire, we discovered that there were a couple of questions we had for each other that kind of overlapped, including on the topic of hair. Veronica, Brande and Victoria wanted to know whether we, as white women, care about our hair as much as they, as Black women, care about theirs. We wanted to know more about the politics behind Black hair, like wearing weaves or using relaxers versus wearing their hair natural. Check out our chat above and share your questions and comments below!
This may be my favorite episode so far in our “I Always Wanted To Ask” series, which features the staff at Madame Noire — Brande, Veronica and Victoria — answering the questions we always wanted to ask Black women, and The Frisky staff answering the questions they always wanted to ask white women. In this episode, we talk about whether white women think about race, and white privilege, as much as they do. Also, we discuss the issue of diversity in — and diversifying — our friendship circles. It’s a good one, so check out the video above and weigh in with your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
I am so so so stoked to have you guys watch the second episode of “I Always Wanted To Ask,” the video series we did in collaboration with the fantastic women of Madame Noire. The series features The Frisky staff answering the questions they always wanted to ask white women, and Madame Noire’s staff — Brande, Veronica and Victoria — answering the questions we always wanted to ask Black women. Our first episode focused on interracial dating, but this episode gets a little heavier: the women of Madame Noire wanted to know, “Why are some white people hell-bent on using the n-word?” Check out the episode above and please weigh in with your thoughts on the topic in the comments!
About a month ago, I received an interesting proposition from a fellow editor at a women’s website called Madame Noire. Would The Frisky staff like to participate in an exchange where the editors of Madame Noire (all Black women) would ask us he questions they’d always wanted to ask white women, and vice versa. (The idea came from a similar exchange on the site VerySmartBrothas.com.) All of us were immediately psyched for the opportunity to talk honestly about race, a subject that is often rife with discomfort, and to see what we could learn from each other as a result. What originally was going to be a written post evolved into a video shoot, which went on way longer than any of us planned because we could not stop talking, and as result, we have the first in a multi-part series of episodes called “I Always Wanted To Ask…” This first episode focuses specifically on interracial dating. Before you watch, get to know the awesome women from Madame Noire, Brande, Veronica and Victoria, after the jump — and be sure to check out their site! We look forward to hearing what you think so please share your thoughts in the comments! Keep reading »
Two weeks ago, we were disturbed to learn the story of Rhonda Lee, a black meteorologist who was fired from KTBS-TV in Shreveport, Louisiana, after she responded in the comments, kindly and politely, to two racist Facebook posts written by viewers on the station’s page. One of the racist posts, in fact, had even been “liked” by the station. You can read the full back story here.
Today, the news program “Democracy Now!” has an interview with Lee about her firing. (Warning: there is a minute-long request for donations from “Democracy Now!” before the segment airs, as the program is independently owned and completely advertising-free.) Keep reading »