“I would get married again. I like being in a relationship. I’m not one to like, whore around, and stuff like that—that’s not my thing.”
Last night on “Chelsea Lately,” thrice-married Jennifer Lopez proclaimed that despite her shaky track record with the institute of matrimony, she foresees herself walking down the aisle again someday. Because apparently the alternative to getting married for a fourth (and probably fifth and maybe sixth time, if she’s trying to keep pace with Elizabeth Taylor) is being a whore or something. Listen, J. Lo can put a ring on it 20 more times for all I care, but it’s awfully rich of her to slut shame women who don’t share her laissez faire approach to marriage and choose to get their rocks off without making (and breaking) legally-binding contracts. As someone who, I suppose, “whores around,” all I can say is that promising “til death do we part” to every
Tom, Dick and Harry Ojani, Cris and Marc I meet is just not my “thing.” [Dlisted]
“I don’t know that those two things — I don’t think that’s a gender issue. I’m not saying that there’s an inequality of pay, I don’t know that to be — I have a lot of women on my staff and they’re competitively paid, I can tell you that. In terms of my career, if Jenji [Kohan] wants to go through what I went through to get that … they didn’t invite me over to the smoking room and sit down and say ‘well Matthew, how much do you think you’re worth?’ There was like a year and a half of being dragged around in the press and I don’t even like to talk about it, and I certainly don’t like to talk about pay. It’s one of these things, like you’re a baseball player, and I guess your salary is public, but I don’t own a baseball team. I’m a player! There’s no player making as much as the person owning the team and no one talks about that … Jenji’s entitled to every dollar but you have to fight for it, male or female. No one gives you anything … I’m not informed on it but I think there’s a lot more — I shouldn’t speak to it, I really shouldn’t. I can just tell you that as an employer, I’ve been on top of this and I’ve never let anybody try and squeeze people out of it. January Jones had a baby on our show. Believe me, no one wanted to pay maternity leave on a 13-episode thing, and we did.”
In an interview with Huffington Post Live, Matthew Weiner, the mastermind behind “Mad Men” and “The Sopranos,” had some choice words regarding the gender pay gap (or, in his mind, the lack thereof). His thoughts are in response to “Orange Is The New Black” creator Jenji Kohan’s comment in The Hollywood Reporter that she doesn’t feel she’s getting paid as much as male show runners do. Kohan, who is good friends with Weiner, pointed to his paycheck as an example of how sexist Hollywood can be. I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised at his response, but the fact that Weiner writes misogyny into his work doesn’t mean the plot lines of his shows necessarily reflect his beliefs about women. Keep reading »
I hate that you and your family must join this exclusive yet growing group of parents and relatives who have lost loved ones to senseless gun violence. Of particular concern is that so many of these gun violence cases involve children far too young. But Michael is much more than a police/gun violence case; Michael is your son. A son that barely had a chance to live. Our children are our future so whenever any of our children – black, white, brown, yellow, or red – are taken from us unnecessarily, it causes a never-ending pain that is unlike anything I could have imagined experiencing. … You will experience a swell of support from all corners of the world. Many will express their sympathies and encourage you to keep fighting for Michael. You will also, unfortunately, hear character assassinations about Michael which I am certain you already have. This will incense and insult you. All of this will happen before and continue long after you have had the chance to lay your son to rest.
Time.com has published an open letter from Sybrina Fulton, the mother of Trayvon Martin, to the family of Michael Brown, the unarmed 18-year-old who was killed on August 9th by a police officer in Ferguson, Missouri. In the two years since Martin’s murder, Fulton and Trayvon’s dad founded The Trayvon Martin Foundation to provide support for the family members of victims of violent crimes. I encourage you to read the full letter at the link. [TIME] [Photo: Getty]
“[People are coming out against the label ["feminist"]? Wow. I guess I’m not aware of that. What that means to me is that you don’t let your gender define who you are — you can be who you want to be, whether you’re a man, a woman, a boy, a girl, whatever. However you want to define yourself, you can do that and should be able to do that, and no category ever really describes a person because every person is unique. That, to me, is what “feminism” means. So yes, I’d absolutely call myself a feminist. And if you look at history, women are an oppressed category of people. There’s a long, long history of women suffering abuse, injustice, and not having the same opportunities as men, and I think that’s been very detrimental to the human race as a whole. I’m a believer that if everyone has a fair chance to be what they want to be and do what they want to do, it’s better for everyone. It benefits society as a whole.”
Joseph Gordon-Levitt gets it. It’s refreshing — so refreshing — when men acknowledge that feminism is vital, instead of focusing on the progressive advances women have made and assuming we can all go home ‘cuz sexism is fixed now. Pay attention, men’s rights activists: this is just one of the many reasons ladies love JGL! [The Daily Beast]
If you want relationships to last, live by “for better or worse.” Honeymoon phases end. They just do. We’re animals, and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of their lives. So here’s a challenge: How do you keep redefining your relationship? I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually. Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That sort of made me re-fall in love with him. That’s another important thing to realize. Everyone falls out of love with everything. You fall out of love with your house. You fall out of love with your job. You just have to figure out ways to keep [the love] alive.
I am loving Neil Patrick Harris‘ interview in Glamour‘s September issue, and this quote about his marriage to David Burtka especially resonates with me. In friendships, work, relationships, and everything else, there seems to be a common belief that if something isn’t fun all the time, it’s not working. Life takes effort sometimes, and that’s the part we never see in romantic comedies. I really admire Neil for being upfront about that. Even though he lives right in the middle of the faux glitz of Hollywood, he always finds a way to be down to earth. [Glamour, Queerty] [Image via AKM-GSI]
”I had to ask for just a little shot of courage before I had my first sex scene with Teddy Sears [on Masters of Sex] who is just the most gorgeous, wonderful, handsome specimen. … When I say courage, just a little shot of bourbon … I just wanted something to take the edge off because I was beyond nervous. Who gets to do a sex scene when you’re 50?”
“Masters Of Sex” is the best show on television right now, partly due to the incredible cast including Allison Janney. Both her and Caitlin FitzGerald, who plays Libby Masters, have a way of making sexually frustrated, middle-class housewives look sympathetic instead of desperate. [Slight spoiler alert ahead.] On the show, Janney plays the clueless wife of the deeply closeted university provost. Once she finally figures out her husband is gay, she takes her sexual pleasure into her own hands with a hot, young thang. The fact that she’s 50-something means nothing — Janney’s sex scenes are great. Every time we watch one, my husband reminds me that Allison Janney is on his “list.” [NPR]