“Do you think it was fair, what they got? They did something stupid, but I don’t know. I’m not blaming the girl, but if you’re a 16-year-old and you’re drunk like that, your parents should teach you: Don’t take drinks from other people. She’s 16, why was she that drunk where she doesn’t remember? It could have been much worse. She’s lucky. Obviously, I don’t know, maybe she wasn’t a virgin, but she shouldn’t have put herself in that position, unless they slipped her something, then that’s different.”
– Allow me to parse this quote from Serena Williams‘ about the Steubenville rape victim, which she shared in an interview with Rolling Stone. By asking if the sentencing for Ma’lik Richmond and Trent Mays was fair — they got one year and two years, respectively, by the way — Williams’ seems to be implying that she thinks the punishment might be harsh. After all, “they did something stupid, but…” Because raping someone is just “stupid”? Not the first adjective I would use, but okay. Williams then goes on to criticize the victim who, by all accounts, was doing what all her other fellow classmates (including the rapists) were doing that night — drinking at a high school party. Should parents have serious conversations with their children — girls and boys — about underage drinking and binge drinking? Of course. Does that mean that the victim is responsible for the despicable things those young men did to her while she was passed out? Absolutely not. And what does her virginity or lack thereof have to do with anything? But what I find most bothersome about Williams’ statement is that she starts off by calling what the rapists did “stupid,” but then says that the victim is “lucky” it wasn’t “much worse.” So which is it, Serena? Are the rapists in this case simply “stupid” or are they capable of “much worse”? Also, saying “I’m not blaming the girl” before BLAMING THE GIRL doesn’t negate the fact that you’re, in fact, blaming the girl. [Rolling Stone] [Photo: Fame/Flynet]
UPDATE: Annnnd Serena has already released a statement apologizing, sort of, for her comments. Read it after the jump: Keep reading »
“I know people have always thought I was beautiful, but I have never tried to be as beautiful as I can be. I could do a lot more — exercise, or not eat dessert. Or not drink alcohol. I could make bigger efforts. I don’t think my first priority in life has ever been beauty. It’s a little bit of a rebellious spirit in me. … A lot of the effort I make is for my husband, because I want him to be attracted to me.”
— PUH-LEASE. Salma Hayek never really struck me as being consistently eyeroll-worthy in the past, but it is entirely possible that her Very Rich husband Francois-Henri Pinault, chief executive of PPR and reigning wealthiest, douchiest illegitimate deadbeat dad of all time, brings out Salma’s inner asshole. She just sounds so …. ugh. Insufferable. [InStyle]
“In that respect, biologically, females have more potential … Females have more sensitivity about others’ wellbeing. In my own case, my father, very short temper. On a few occasions I also got some beatings. But my mother was so wonderfully compassionate. … If the circumstances are such that a female Dalai Lama is more useful, then automatically a female Dalai Lama will come.”
While I’m not a fan of gender essentialism, I appreciate that the Tibetan Buddhist leader, the Dalai Lama, said something nice about women. (Which is usually not what gets most men quoted on our site.) [Huffington Post] [Photo: Getty]
hey, you desperate guzzler of stagnant douche agua;
I truly do not recall giving you permission to globally reveal any communication between us. congrats on surviving your lobotomy and an even bigger congratz on the recent attempt at porn.
your daughter must be so proud.
please send my number to middle earth and if allowed, eagerly follow it into said abyss and slam the door behind you. the world will collectively sigh as the pungent memory of you vanishes into the pedestrian troposphere of lame-suck and zero-life.
oh and I’m sure they’ll wave the cover charge when they see your tranny-boobs and five o’clock shadow. bye!
– Charlie Sheen may totally be the worst, but damn if he didn’t write the best kiss-off email ever. This is the note he sent to “Back Door Teen Mom” Farrah Abraham, after she allegedly sold screenshots of the text messages they exchanged to TMZ. Not loving the “tranny-boobs” remark (let’s leave trans people out of this, okay, Carlos?), but “desperate guzzler of stagnant douche agua’ and “pedestrian troposphere of lame-suck and zero-life” is pure poetry. [TMZ]
“There’s much more to life than all of these possessions and everything. And if you want those things, you’re going to have to work yourself, just like I did.”
– That’s P. Hilton (Paris, if you’re nasty), explaining how she managed to scrape out a meek, hardscrabble living and acquire many, many luxury goods, including couch pillows with her face on them. I mean, she’s basically Ree from “Winter’s Bone,” right? Also, unrelated: I will give you one million spacebucks if you can tell me what exactly Paris’s “work” is. [Elle]
“From the other side of the aisle I hear the conversation being about ‘free this is free, we need to take it and it’s free and we need to do it now’ and that’s sort of the fundamental message that my brain receives. Now, my brain being a man’s brain sort of thinks differently, because I say, well, it’s not if it’s free is it really free because I say in my brain there’s a cost to this.”
Maine’s Republican Party, aka the manly party of manly men, has a star amongst them: State Representative Ken Fredette, who thinks the Democratic party is comprised of girly-men and actual girls (EW!) who just don’t understand how health care costs work. We can’t just give things away for free, you dumb broads! How about don’t worry your pretty little heads about finances and leave that to the menfolk? [Talking Points Memo]
“Most women would not be happy being me. People say, ‘But you’re alone.’ But I don’t feel alone. I feel very un-alone. I feel very sparkly and excited about everything. I know women who are going, like, ‘I don’t want to grow old alone.’ And I’m like, ‘See, that doesn’t scare me.’ Because I’ll never be alone. I’ll always be surrounded by people. I’m like the crystal ball and these are all the rings of Saturn around me. … My generation fought very hard for feminism, and we fought very hard to not be labeled as you had to have a husband or you had to be in a relationship, or you were somehow not a cool chick. And now I’m seeing that start to come around again, where people say to you, ‘Well, what do you mean you don’t have a boyfriend? You don’t want to have one? You don’t want to be married?’ And you’re like, ‘Well, no, I don’t, actually. I’m fine.’ And they find a lot of reasons why you’re not fine. But it just seems to be coming back. Being able to take care of myself is something that my mom really instilled in me. I can remember her always saying, ‘If nothing else, I will teach you to be independent.’”
– Some of Stevie Nicks‘ life choices might not be ones we’d make for ourselves. That permanent hole in her nose she got from snorting so much cocaine? No thanks! But when it comes to being happy with being single and independent and surrounding herself with friends so she doesn’t need a man, Stevie’s a veritable guru. Being able to take care of yourself and be independent is one of those life skills they don’t teach in school, but totally should. [NYmag.com] [Photo: New York magazine]
“I used to expose myself in front of religious places. I was a very hot, bored boy and was surrounded by people who were older than me who were goading me. So when they got bored or the football went through a stain-glassed window — not to be returned — they’d always get me to do pranks. So one day they said, ‘Go on, go on, go on. Pull your pants down!’ Of course I did. I obliged willingly, no pun intended.”
–”Star Trek” star Benedict Cumberbatch tells the UK’s Mirror about some of the more risque pranks of his youth, like whipping out Little Benedict in front of churches. The article also includes harrowing stories of how Cumberbatch narrowly escaped death in a South African carjacking and a disastrous backpacking trip in Nepal, but honestly I’m much more intrigued with this flashing business. Benedict, you saucy minx! [Dlisted]
“I was asked to lose weight by a network for a TV pilot. The conversation happens because you get a job and your agent or manager calls and they say, ‘They are so excited about you. They just think there is no one better for this part and they want you to look and feel your best — they really feel that that could include losing 15 or 20 pounds’. … I feel like it’s the last frontier of feminism — the weight thing with women — even for myself. I identify as a feminist. I have so many feminist beliefs — and then I’m so mean to myself about my body sometimes. Or I can be judgmental about other people for their bodies, and I don’t know how to get over it.”
The attitudes Busy Phillips from “Cougar Town” espouses on “The Conversation” about feminism and her body sound a lot like mine. Even being a feminist who realizes there’s an entire corporate culture dedicated to profitting off me feeling bad about my body, it’s a struggle not to be mean sometimes. Obviously it’s that much harder for actresses in the public eye. It would be hard not to be, when a TV network had the gall to ask her to lose 20 pounds under the guise of wanting her to “look and feel” her best. Uh huh. Right. [The Conversation TV via Women & Hollywood] [Photo: Splash News]
“There is no marriage, yet, for human beings and animals… I never thought that I would fall in love like this with a cat,”
– This would be Karl Lagerfeld, expressing his desire to be joined in holy matrimony to his notoriously pampered cat Choupette. Now if only the law would support their love! [Independent UK]