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Love & Sex

This is where I struggle: conveying the fact that I am not straight even while I currently live with my straight, cismale partner. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

We had fun together, these girls and I. We bonded. We got close. But we could never truly love each other because they absolutely refused to see me for who I was. I was just their Black Friend. And then, well, I became their Black Gay Friend. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Both witches and queer folks have been labeled as outsiders due to the way we choose to live our lives. Being out of the closet, unashamed, and celebrating our power remains an act of bravery in the face of prejudice. READ MORE »


health

LGBTQ+ sex therapist Rena McDaniel helps us understand what sexual issues are most prominent in the queer community. READ MORE »


Style

Poetry is dead… Yes? No? HELL NO! And that’s not because I write crappy poems myself, but because I literally drool over lit social media accounts like Words Dance, Beau Taplin, Nayyirah Waheed, and Button Poetry that I can say poetry so alive. These are not “for gender noncomforming individuals only” or “madeREAD MORE »


Style

2015 was great for the LGBT community, but with elbow grease and a little hope, 2016 can be even better! READ MORE »


Style

I get why some people are going to be celebrating the decline and impending death of FHM, the “lad” mag whose hook was a steady stream of just-this-side-of-nude photos of famous women. Its publisher has given in to the reality that magazines are a dying medium that peaked about ten years ago, andREAD MORE »


Celebs

DROOL. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Cosmopolitan, after almost 50 years of being one of the most aggressively heteronormative women’s publications from newsstand to screen, has finally decided to throw the queers a bone — specifically, 28 (ways to) bone, if you wanna get punnily Cosmo-esque — by publishing its first ever lesbian sex guide.

The NSFW slideshow up… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

One of the first questions people  usually ask upon meeting me is what I do for a living. When I respond casually that I’m a production assistant on queer porn, then the questions really get going. What does a porn PA do, exactly?

I’ll tell you one thing: much to my regret, I… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

My first real game, the one I remember best, was Zork — good, old-fashioned white text on a black background. I was obsessed with it, the challenges intrinsic in playing it, and the mythology attached. I read the books that came with the series obsessively, and even did a school report (sadly not preserved for posterity)… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

“There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and don’t try to stop it.”  — Janis Ian

Judging from the popularity of femme-on-femme makeouts being used to sell products from Versace to concert tickets, one would think that… READ MORE »


Celebs

I first fell in love with Kristen Stewart 10 years ago. I was 12.”Catch that Kid,” a classic of our times, has a criminal 12 percent rating on Rotten Tomatoes. Anyone who would review this film poorly is a joyless weirdo.

Stewart played Maddy, an adventurous tomboy whose skillset included climbing very tall… READ MORE »


News

Guys, I love sarcasm. It’s a heady, delicious treat I eat up on the hour. But even I have my sarcasm limits. Case in point: Gawker writer Hamiliton Nolan’s response to a piece by xoJane writer s.e. smith about the western appropriation of Eastern religion, specifically in the context of yoga, and whether someone with an… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Jared’s* question came during a sex party a few months ago, after some steamy foreplay organically led to this discussion: “Can I fuck you now?”

It caught me off guard, but not in an unpleasant way. Men had asked me this question before, and I was half expecting to decline, like I usually… READ MORE »


News

In remembrance of the Trans Day Of Remembrance, here’s a piece by a trans woman on how connecting with her Korean birth mother, who put her up for adoption as a baby, helped her come out. [Fire Dog Lake]
And here’s more about the Trans Day of Remembrance and transgender visibility. [Queerty]
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Love & Sex

Let me tell you a story about “bi invisibility.” A few years ago, at my first full-time job – which, I should clarify, was at an LGBT nonprofit organization – I was chatting with a gay male co-worker about a conversation he had with an acquaintance of ours. Apparently I had come up in their… READ MORE »


Celebs

“The way I would choose to identify myself wouldn’t be gay. I’ve been attracted mostly to ‘shes’ but I’ve been with many people and I’m open to love wherever it can be found. I think a lot of people are projecting their own troubles and fears concerning sexuality onto those around them, and it does… READ MORE »


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