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Soapbox: On Withholding Sex As Punishment

Jessica WakemanAugust 24, 2011 //

After I started giving blowjobs to my high school boyfriend, I soon became aware of my newfound sexual power. I had something he wanted. For a 16-year-old girl stuck in a lot of circumstances she had no control over, the tangibility of that power felt amazing.

Then my high school boo and I were joking around, he did something to razz me, and I told him teasingly, “No blowjobs for a week for you as punishment!”

The teasing tone vanished. He became serious — and seriously angry. “Don’t threaten me like that,” he said in a stern voice. “You can’t control me with threats.”

“I was teasing,” I insisted, though I immediately felt guilty for seeming like I may have been using my sexual power to control him. I never know what’s OK to joke about and what’s not; I never have. “I’m not seriously not going to give you blowjobs for a week. Jesus.”

That was over 10 years ago and I’ve long since chalked the conversation up to 16-year-old stupidity. That is, until I heard last night that some adult women actually do punish their men by withholding sex. Keep reading »

Mother Punishes Son With Hot Sauce, Cold Shower

Amelia McDonell-ParryFebruary 4, 2011 //


On “The View” this week, the ladies discussed a mother who appeared on Dr. Phil, who punishes her young son for misbehaving by pouring hot sauce on his tongue and forcing him into a freezing cold shower. (The mother has since been charged with abuse.) In the clip above, it’s clear this poor kid is terrified of his mom and the punishment he knows she’s going to inflict upon him. Look, I know timeout doesn’t always suffice, and there are plenty of people who think a swat on the butt is occasionally warranted (I am not one of them, FYI), but this just reeks of wrong to me. The pain and discomfort it’s meant to cause is so specific. I don’t think jail is the answer for this lady, but parenting classes sure might come in handy. Keep reading »

You Need To Be Taught A Lesson!

SimchaFebruary 22, 2008 //

Who doesn’t like a good spanking? Turns out even your kid eventually will. If that grosses you out — or explains some things — then a new report, which links childhood penalties with adult sexual behavior, will come as no surprise. Elizabeth Gershoff, an assistant professor of social work at the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor who has reviewed almost a century’s worth of research on spanking, claims people “may internalize [spankings] to mean that in loving relationships sometimes there’s pain or physical aggression.” Although the effectiveness of raising a hand to discipline a child is still up for debate, as of a 2007 study, 85% of people claim to have been spanked. So let’s face it — all (well, most) of us need to be punished. [ USA Today] Keep reading »