Jack Hyer didn’t get the first memo, or the second memo, that public proposals are showoff-y and cringe-inducing for everyone around you. But I’ll forgive Jack, because he’s been traveling a lot these past four years. Twenty-six countries, in fact. In every new place, Jack filmed bits of himself singing the karaoke jam “I’m Gonna Be (500 Miles)” in preparation of the day he would propose to his girlfriend, Rebecca Strellnauer. As he told ABC News, they dated briefly as teenagers and got back together during their freshman year at the University of Montana in Missoula. After deciding that he knew he wanted to marry at the end of their first date, he planned his proposal for four years, filming the entire time. He showed the proposal video to Rebecca and their families at a graduation party last week. (She said yes, duh.) I don’t know what I hate (er, envy) the most about Jack Hyer. That he’s traveled to China, Thailand, Turkey, Israel, Tanzania and Cambodia? That he found the woman he wanted to marry in middle school? That he’s really freaking attractive? That he thought up a cute way to propose and pulled it off? Congratulations, you, too. And remember, you’ll only have nine months to plan a baby announcement! [TIME; ABC News]
“It was so amazing to be proposed to on live TV! … I had no idea the “interview” was actually a planned, surprise on-air proposal, hence my shock. The element of surprise did prevail and it was the happiest moment ever! I really could not have asked for anything more. … I am unhappy about the recent backlash that was received from my on-air engagement to Chirag [Shah]. He does not deserve to be labeled self-centered on feminist websites like Jezebel critiquing the entire experience when he is the most thoughtful person I know. I am moved by the beautiful proposal he arranged out of a genuine intention to make me happy. All of my close friends and family members cried when they saw it because of how sweet it was. My time on the show was never supposed to be about my work as it was about a proposal Chirag wanted to surprise me with on our four-year anniversary. … It was disappointing for people to apply their own lens and cultural biases to interpret that I was pissed off and upset about not getting to speak about my work.”
Last week, the Internet cringed when a woman named Simone Jhingoor appeared on “The Today Show” and began to speak about her non-profit Women’s Housing and Economic Development Corporation … only to be awkwardly interrupted by her boyfriend, Chirag Shah, who proceeded to tell her she wasn’t on the show to talk about her job, she was there because he wanted to propose! As Jhingoor clenched uncomfortably, looking irritated, her boyfriend literally grabbed the microphone from Al Roker and asked her to marry him on live TV. It’s not that the intended sentiment wasn’t sweet; it was that the execution means when you search “awkward marriage proposal,” theirs comes up on the first page of Google.
Shah immediately got bopped for duping his now-fiancee into thinking she’d be speaking about a very worthy cause, as well as proposing on live television to someone who so clearly seemed uncomfortable with it. But here’s Jhingoor in an interview with YourTango, insisting — methinks a bit too much — that she was thrilled, thrilled about her on-air engagement! Um, not sure we believe you, but okay. I’m not quite sure why she is now saying “my time on the show was never supposed to be about my work,” because it clearly wasn’t — she just thought it was. But whatever, maybe this whole awkward affair actually ended up drawing more attention to her nonprofit in the long run! [YourTango]
What is it with viral proposals? Every day there’s another one splashed across my Facebook feed – a flashmob proposal, a concert proposal, a fake airplane crash proposal, a proposal where a guy serenades a woman with Bruno Mars’ “Marry You,” a proposal on “Ellen,” a proposal outside the “Today” show studio. King narcissist Kanye West recently proposed to queen narcissist Kim Kardashian on an intimate Jumbotron, surrounded by friends, family — and adoring fans.
It almost seems like it’s a game now the way that people try to one-up each other when crafting elaborate proposals. And the point of the game is look like THE MOST ROMANTIC PERSON EVER. Keep reading »
A public marriage proposal may have worked out well for Kanye West and Kim Kardashian, but it’s a stunt that should always be approached with caution. Timing and location are everything as is being at least mostly confident that the person you’re asking is going to respond positively. I’m pretty sure that Chirag Shah failed to run through the “Should I Propose In Public?” checklist before he seized control of his girlfriend Simone Jhingoor’s “Today Show” segment — which was supposed to be about her nonprofit, the Women’s Housing and Economic Development Corporation – and used the airtime to ask her to marry him. The look on Simone’s face and the awkward distance between the newly engaged couple seemed to indicate that despite saying “yes” to his proposal, Simone was not especially psyched that she had rehearsed and prepared for a segment about her nonprofit work had been derailed by her now-fiance’s kind of selfish desire to be splashy and romantic. I hope “The Today Show” has her back tomorrow to discuss her work, as was originally intended. [Jezebel]
Okay, so we’re not always the biggest fans of public marriage proposals. Sometimes they’re just kinda awkward! And, let’s be real, the lumber aisle of Home Depot sounds like the place where romance goes to die. But three cheers and a lifetime of happiness for Dustin and Spencer, who got engaged following the sweetest choreographed dance proposal to ever rock a big box store. According to Spencer’s YouTube page, Dustin showed up at Home Depot thinking he was helping a roommate run an errand only to find his friends and family performing Betty Who’s “Somebody Loves You” before Spencer got down on one knee. I made it one-and-a-half minutes in before I started crying. How long did you last? [YouTube]
If you are currently in the process of planning an elaborate and public marriage proposal to your intended, please consider not doing that, not doing that even for a minute, and instead consider just stopping everything you had planned and not ever doing that, and even if you still want to do it a little bit, I beg you, don’t ever do it.
Elaborate public marriage proposals are rude and awkward. They’re presumptuous in the worst ways. They’re intrusive. They’re manipulative—and not just toward the proposer’s intended. Keep reading »
Out of all the women who got engaged last year and posted themselves on TheKnot.com, 43 percent received a public proposal, ranging from the guy who filmed a movie trailer to the one who painted a mural in New York’s East Village popping the questions. This led Slate.com to wonder: how did this whole concept come to be? Keep reading »