An interesting article out of Psychology Today about the fairly recent trend of bikini waxing and how it’s affecting male and female sexual relations. Sex therapist and psychiatrist Stephen Snyder, M.D. writes, “Among many young men that I see in treatment, the sight of a woman’s pubic hair produces the same revulsion that in my day might have greeted the sight of her armpit hair. Vulvar hair is regarded as unsightly — or even disgusting.” Yowza, seriously? I mean, in my years cavorting and conversating with the opposite sex, I have definitely noticed that dudes prefer some pubic grooming, with a solid percentage liking significant bush-wacking (landing strip, little triangle, etc.). Yes, there have definitely been a few dudes who liked a bald beav the most, but Snyder implies that men are increasingly preferring no hair whatsoever and find the presence of hair to be a complete turn-off. Please, gentleman readers of The Frisky, tell me you haven’t been so brainwashed by porn that you’re actually grossed out by pubes?
But Snyder also says that many women say the opinions of men aren’t why they spend upwards of $75 per session to have hot wax spread on their ladyparts. “‘You’re missing the point,’ say the waxing enthusiasts. ‘We do it because the result is worth it. Better sensation. Better sex.’” Keep reading »
Oh, science, we love you! Why? Because some bunch of pervy scientists decided that studying the pubic hair-grooming habits of women was somehow a viable scientific pursuit. A new study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine examined the pubic particulars of women. The findings: “Women reported a diverse range of pubic hair-grooming practices.” No duh. Keep reading »
Lately, we’ve been waxing philosophically, ahem, about pubic hair grooming and it’s time for me to throw in my two cents. About a week after Jessica wrote about her first bikini wax — after being the proud owner of a ’70s-style bush — I went in for my first wax, but unlike Jessica, I was committing myself to the full shebang. Keep reading »
“Sasha Grey Sparks Bush Backlash”! That was the headline for the always-astute Tracy Clark-Flory’s Broadsheet post on porn star Sasha Grey getting totally naked on the latest episode of HBO’s “Entourage.” Of course, in this day and age, the nudity itself wasn’t shocking. (After all, at this point, who hasn’t seen Grey nude?) It was her pubic hair that became the hirsuite cause célèbre. Keep reading »
Last month’s Cosmo featured DIY bikini wax instructions, including stencils for shaping your bush. This got us to thinking: If you groom your pubic hair into a crazy topiary, does it get a reaction? What do guys do when they see hair in the shape of a heart or a lightning bolt? Tell us your experience with shaped bushes and the reactions they’ve received! Keep reading »
The other day I was reading “Get Naked,” the sex column in Time Out New York, and was surprised by an answer given to a letter from a recently divorced woman wondering if, now that she’s dating again, she should be removing all her pubic hair. She writes:
I was married and faithful for 15 years, and last time I was single, nobody ever mentioned shaving that stuff off. So imagine my confusion when my first new sexual partner after a decade and a half showed thinly disguised displeasure at my very short, clean, well-groomed pubic hair. He insinuated that everyone shaves that off now, and my two single, close girlfriends have told me that they remove it all. I have tried this a few times, and it always resulted in lots of ingrown hairs, a red rash and an uncomfortable, itchy grow-back period. That waxing thing sounds too violent for my taste. I really don’t want to feel like I have to shave it all off, but I don’t want to appear like an out-of-touch, hairy freak, either. So, is it true? Does everyone nowadays go bare down there? And what if I don’t want to?
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Wendy is stuck at jury duty this week and will hopefully—knock on wood!—be back
tomorrow or Thursday next week. Until then, here’s one of her best Dear Wendy columns.
I’ve recently started dating a super smart, weird, quirky, cute, funny and beautiful girl. I never like anyone, but I like her. There’s one minor (hairy) issue. She doesn’t keep things very trimmed down there. Now, before you get angry, let me preface this by saying that I really don’t need a Brazilian on my girl (or even anything really from the South American continent, for that matter)– just a nice landing strip. Is that too much to ask for? Those in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones, so I do keep my things regularly trimmed. We’ve only been dating for a month or so, but we’ve spent a lot of time together (it’s a long distance thing, so we’ve basically spent the past few weekends totally together = relationship time warp), so I feel as if this isn’t jumping the gun or anything to think about long term personal grooming habits. am I being a superficial douche? Isn’t it fair to ask for some quid pro quo trimming? I think yes. If you agree, my ultimate question is: how do I broach the trimming subject with my long distance girl? What strategies do you have? — Hair Hater
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Thanks so much for the free stencils in the May issue! While I think it’s cool that you’re clearly listening to your readers’ cries for more DIY content and money saving tips, I’m happy to leave the fancy pubic styling to the professionals. Trust me, I’m usually a shaver and maintain my bikini line on a daily basis with some foam and a Schick. But on those occasions when I want something flirty down below — like the “Love Triangle,” “Sweetheart,” “This Way For Fun” arrow, and “Landing Strip” — I’d rather fork over $40 for Helga to do it right. Somehow the five step process required for giving myself “some down-there flair” seems dangerous, messy, and, well, cheap?
That said, these stencils will come in handy the next time I babysit a 5-year-old and we’re working on a craft project.
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Tobey* was the perfect guy to date right after my divorce. He was cute, fun, and had a body like a gymnast. He was younger than I was, but not too young. He liked the same things I did: eating good food, going to the movies, and strolling around Manhattan. He was a great kisser and even better in the sack.
Then he told me I needed grooming.
Not just any grooming. Down there grooming. Keep reading »
Ladies, let your pubic hair grow. Allow it to run riot like a wild, verdant jungle. Shave not your delicate triangle of womanly power. Not all dudes demand a shorn ‘gina. I know that many do, and I apologize on behalf of those creeps. And it is creepy – I can’t help but think a lot of dudes drool over the bare look because it’s infantilizing. This might not be a conscious kink, but it’s true. I’m not so into the pre-pubescent look. In fact, I’m all about ’70s porno bush.
Then again, when it comes to sex, I don’t demand much. That she shows up, likes me, and takes her clothes off are my biggest concerns — and that she gets my name right. Keep reading »