I first wrote about my abortion in the spring of 2012. At that point, it had been seven years since my procedure, and something that never crossed my mind. Although the majority of the responses were overwhelmingly positive and other women took to the comments section to share their own abortion stories, those who were against my right to choose were, of course, cruel and heartless in what they had to say. For the next several days, I was attacked on Twitter and emailed threats by religious zealots, and was event old that my mother should have aborted me so I couldn’t abort my baby. (Someone explain that logic to me, please.)
A week later, despite all the hate being thrown my way, I wrote a follow-up piece declaring that I was happy that I wrote about my abortion, because I was. I was just as happy that I wrote about i as I was that I had the abortion in the first place. It was an election year with women’s reproductive rights at the forefront of many candidates’ platforms. It was this fact that made me write about my abortion; I wanted to put a name and face to the issue. I wasn’t ashamed. Looking back, whatever guilt I felt the day of my abortion was guilt that I didn’t feel guilty at all. I had gotten pregnant accidentally despite having been on the Pill, I was in no way emotionally or financially ready to have a child, and abortion, for me, was not just a solution, but a gift. My abortion, in many ways, saved my life. Keep reading »
Pregnancy may come with a whole host of unpleasant side effects, but you gotta admit, it kind of makes us seem like super heroes at times too. (Hello? You know Wonder Woman is hiding underneath that baby bump disguise you’re wearing.)
For one thing, we’re housing a human being for nine months, which is noteworthy enough as it is. But there are plenty of other things that pregnant women probably don’t give themselves enough credit for.
1. Hypnotizing men — Think about it for a second — don’t you have dudes opening doors and offering to help you out like, 100 times more than before you were preggo? It’s like some men are immediately put into a trance at the first glance of a big old belly. Discover nine more super powers on The Stir…
Vanessa Carlton recently confessed via a Facebook Note to her fans that she recently had a miscarriage.
Explaining why she is rescheduling several upcoming tour dates, Carlton revealed she had an ectopic/fallopian pregnancy — meaning her embryo settled in one of her fallopian tubes instead of the uterus. Keep reading »
It’s a special type of parent who is able to humiliate their child before he or she is even born. Jalene and Lincoln Taylor of North Salt Lake, Utah, are those parents — or shall I say, parents-t0-be. The happy couple, who struggled with infertility and a miscarriage, announced their pregnancy with this sweet and lovably goofy hip-hop video, “Taylor Baby.” The pair wrote the lyrics themselves and did the whole thing in eight hours! (If it’s the same Jalene and Lincoln, they also did a wedding video when they married two years ago, which is just as cute.) Their little baby is due in May. I’m sure the kid will be so impressed when it grows up that it won’t even mind Mommy and Daddy once made their own music video rapping “Where my babies at? Where my babies at?” [TODAY]
I figured that after I had a baby my body would be like a soldier after war, with the proud, annoying battle scars that have a good story but don’t dress up well. A few things went differently than expected:
- I had a real baby, which is sort of impossible to imagine beforehand and sort of trumps everything else.
- I didn’t stop caring about the way I looked (this isn’t a story with a moral or something), but I was really busy caring a lot about other things.
- I looked surprisingly great.
No one ever talks about how you might feel sexy and beautiful after you have a baby. They talk a lot about how you might feel shitty and floppy and bad and you might have to work really hard to look good again and your belly might never ever be the same and the goal should be for everything to be the same as it was because that was so much better. It’s stressful, being pregnant and being yelled at by all of the headlines about pregnancy “YOU NEED TO START THINKING ABOUT HOW BAD YOU WILL LOOK AFTER YOU GIVE BIRTH!” Keep reading »
Today in Horrible Things I Would Rather Not Know: a 17-year-old girl was arrested for shoplifting at a Victoria’s Secret in midtown Manhattan yesterday and was carrying a dead fetus inside her bag.
Two 17-year-old girls were pulled over by security guards inside the Victoria’s Secret in Herald Square because they were seen stealing lingerie. Then they noticed a “strong odor.” They found a dead male fetus inside one of the shopping bags, which appeared to be six or seven months along. One girl is believed to be the mother. She told police she had a miscarriage the day before and had posted on Facebook on Wednesday, “These Cramps, SON.” Police are currently investigating the cause of death. Keep reading »
Pregnancy is one of life’s beautiful passages. It’s also when a pregnant woman can never do anything right, according to some people. The latest mom-to-be to get raked over the coals is Lea-Ann Ellison, 35, of California who was photographed lifting heavy weights as part of her Crossfit training … while eight-and-a-half months pregnant.
In a picture posted on Crossfit’s Facebook page, a workout gear-clad Ellison is squatting to lit a Hulk Hogan-sized bodybuilding weight as her pregnant belly hangs below her. She wrote on the caption:
“8 months pregnant with baby number 3 and CrossFit has been my sanity. I have been CrossFitting for 2 1/2 years and…strongly believe that pregnancy is not an illness, but a time to relish in your body’s capabilities to kick ass.”
The Internet reacted badly, to put it mildly. “Sickening,” “crap” and “stupid” are just a few words that Ellison has been called. She’s been told she is putting her unborn child at risk and that she may know a lot about exercise but nothing about being a good parent. Keep reading »
Colombian police say they have arrested a Toronto woman who simulated pregnancy to try to smuggle cocaine.
Col. Esteban Arias says 28-year-old Tabitha Leah Ritchie was stopped while trying to board an Air Canada flight in Bogota after an inspector noted that her belly was unusually cold and hard. He says police discovered a false belly made of latex taped to her body and they found 2 kilograms (4.4 pounds) of cocaine. Read more at Huffington Post…
Hooray! Not everything concerning teenagers and sexuality is terrible: The birth rate for teenagers in the United States hit a historic low in 2012, according to a new report from the National Center for Health Statistics at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Even though the overall birth rate for all American women stayed about the same as in 2011, the birth rate for teens ages 15 to 19 dropped for all racial and ethnic groups — dropping six percent overall from 31.3 per 1,000 teen girls in 2011 to 29.4 per 1,000 teen girls in 2012. Last year’s rate was half as much as the 1991 teen pregnancy rate, which a CDC expert credited to teens delaying sex but the ones who do get laid using contraception. Take that, abstinence-only education! More notable news: The birth rate for women in their early-20s also dropped from 2011 (hello, economy) while the birth rates for women in their late-30s and early-40s increased. [USA Today] [Screaming child image via Shutterstock]