It was a Tuesday afternoon and I was on my therapist’s couch. I described for her an incident over the weekend when I felt sad, deeply sad, for seemingly no reason at all. I had felt reclusive and shy and wanted to stay in my bed; when my husband encouraged me to go to a birthday party that night that I actually wanted to go to, I had started crying. I’m a sensitive person, sure, but even while I was crying I knew my tears didn’t make much sense.
I shared some other strange behavior changes lately. I’ve been more hungry than usual, more often and ravenously so. I get snappish when I can’t eat immediately (hangry, I believe, is the technical term). I’m usually pretty easygoing, but lately I’d been having random mood swings. I was beginning to feel embarrassed about my behavior.
“You’re emotional … your appetite has changed …,” she paused. “Have you considered that you might be pregnant?” Keep reading »
As your prototypical sexually active straight man, you can imagine I’ve had my fair share of forays betwixt the sheets. And over the course of my escapades, I’ve learned that perfection isn’t always easy to achieve in the bedroom, especially when it comes to birth control. A broken condom here, a forgotten pill there – the next thing you know, you’re having nightmares about changing diapers and shopping for onesies.
Of course, the more likely outcome of a birth control breakdown is an unintended pregnancy scare, not an unintended pregnancy. Still, the resulting situation can be rather unpleasant. For a guy, emotions range from apathy to pulse-pounding fear. For a girl, initial concern is followed by massive, crippling panic. Although the “morning-after” pill is 89 percent effective in preventing contraception, it has no proven effect on the fighting, resentment and bitterness that often arise from a surprise pregnancy scare.
However, through careful trial and lots of error, I have stumbled upon a few rules of engagement that can prevent even the most terrifying of pregnancy scares from causing long-term relationship complications. Keep reading »