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True Story: My Ex-Boyfriend Was A Porn Addict

True Story: My Ex-Boyfriend Was A Porn Addict
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“You just don’t know how to get me off,” M. snapped.

Humiliated, tears immediately sprang into my eyes. Every guy I had dated or hooked up with had always been more than pleased with our sex life.  M. had always had a problem getting and staying hard. But now that I was confronting him, he was blaming it on me. Once M. became erect, he would stay that way for a while until he lost steam and went limp. As for having an orgasm, it was relegated to a once in a while event. We would cheer as though he was a toddler who managed to make it to the toilet to pee.

In the film “Don Jon,” Joseph Gordon-Levitt plays a man who is so addicted to porn he cannot enjoy sex with a real woman. Just like the protagonist, M. watched porn every day. Scared of what the answer may be, I began to wonder, Was porn the problem? In pop culture, porn is often seen as an affirmation of masculinity. The idea of porn addiction always seemed nebulous at best, something invented by the religious right. I assumed most guys watched it from time to time, but it never occurred to me that my partner could actually be addicted to it. Until it happened to me. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Porn Stars Learn They Can’t Bank On Chase

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I’ve written before about issues around payment processors and the sex industry, how businesses like Paypal, WePay and Google Wallet were shutting anyone they suspected of sex work out of using their services.

Well, turns out that a trickle down effect is happening within the banking world, as Chase recently sent letters out to hundreds of porn performers telling them their bank accounts would be shut down May 11th. Perez Hilton posted a photo of one of these letters from adult performer Teagan Presley, and while I am somewhat loath to link to his blog, I think it’s important to read the language. You’ll notice that Chase never specifically cites adult work in their decision, just that they “reviewed the account and determined that we will be closing it on May 11, 2014. Please accept our apologies for the inconvenience.”

I’m sure they’re terribly sorry. Just as they were really apologetic for refusing to process payments for Lovability CEO Tiffany Gaines. Her crime? Selling condoms, because they’re “adult-oriented material”. The same adult oriented material, of course, as Trojan, who could process their payments with no issues through Chase, but never mind. As long as they’re really sorry about it. Keep reading »

The Soapbox: “Game of Thrones,” Thanks for Employing Porn Stars

The Soapbox: "Game of Thrones," Thanks for Employing Porn Stars

I’m just going to say it upfront: I’m a massive fan of “Game of Thrones.”

I know it’s problematic, controversial around its portrayals of women, and arguably more violent on screen than required (see last night’s rape scene for an example). And I know there’s been plenty of excellent critiques arguing that “Game of Thrones” is feminist, or isn’t feminist, or asking if it matters whether it’s feminist or not. I’ve appreciated the commentary on racism and “GoT,” as well as in fantasy in general. Through this I have learned a great deal on how to be a fan of problematic media while still maintaining a critique; there are certain ways where the book and the show differ that make the show more sexist, and in other ways less sexist, than the original material. I’m glad, actually, because if I never engaged in anything I found critique-worthy I think I’d self-destruct! Keep reading »

There’s Apparently A Shortage On Shower Rods Thanks To “Love And Hip Hop” Star’s Sex Tape

There's Apparently A Shortage On Shower Rods Thanks To "Love And Hip Hop" Star's Sex Tape

According to TMZ, employees at various home retailers are reporting that shower rod sales have shot up ever since “Love and Hip Hop Atlanta” star Mimi Faust’s Vivid sex tape trailer was released online — and supplies are close to selling out. In the trailer for “Mimi & Nikko: Scandal in Atlanta” (which is after the jump and NSFW), Mimi and boyfriend Nikko Smith (who placed ninth on the fourth season of “American Idol” and is the son of legendary baseball player Ozzie Smith) are seen having, amongst other activities, rather aerobic shower sex, using the curtain rod for support.

I’m not sure what’s so special about “Mimi’s shower rod,” if anything, but the tape has apparently sent hordes of people flocking to Home Depot and Lowe’s to purchase their own. While I’m not sure I buy this whole shower rod shortage crisis (!!!), a cursory Twitter search for “Mimi shower rod” turns up enough results that I can’t write off completely. Hell, if “Mimi & Nikko” inspires people to get a little creative and adventurous in their next sex romp, it will have done more for society than Vivid’s last reality TV star sex tape. Sorry, Farrah. [TMZ] Keep reading »

The Soapbox: The ’80s Called And They Want Their Sex Wars Back

The Soapbox: The '80s Called And They Want Their Sex Wars Back

I’m writing this on an airplane from Toronto, Ontario, to San Francisco, California. I’ve just spent six days among other women, other queers, other porn performers, and other feminists at the Feminist Porn Awards and the Feminist Porn Conference. In that time, I have witnessed moments that made my heart soar, my eyes tear up with love and the fiercest of joys, pride in the people I hold close to me. I have experienced moments that hurt my heart, that disappointed me, moments that underlined how privilege can alienate and divide us. I spoke to academics, I spoke to sex workers, I spoke to sex workers who were academics. It was a weekend of realizations, inspiration, determination … and I came away from it all feeling exhilarated and ready to change the world.

I also realized that the sex wars are still very much A Thing. There are still Good Feminists and Bad Feminists, though the definition of which is which varies depending on who you ask. It’s saddening to see us fighting each other, women who have been called prudes for asserting their sexual choices attacking women who have been called whores for asserting their sexual choices … and vice versa. This is, of course, exactly what the patriarchy wants. While we bicker about whether or not porn is empowering, we are being systematically marginalized, turned away from jobs, thrown out of school, our kids and our workspaces and our money and our privacy taken away from us. The act of having sex on film or any other sex work may empower some and humiliate others, or we might start feeling one way and eventually feel another. (The same holds true for food service workers, though we ask that question far less often). In our current culture we are all experiencing and navigating the effects of capitalist patriarchy. Keep reading »

The Inevitable Miley Cyrus Porn Parody, “Wrecking Ballz,” Is Here

The Inevitable Miley Cyrus Porn Parody, "Wrecking Ballz," Is Here

If you had plans for tonight, I’m pretty sure you’re gonna wanna cancel them. Because the Miley Cyrus porn parody is out today! “Wrecking Ballz,” according to synopsis, “follows the adventures of America’s pill-popping princess Molly, as she sucks and fucks her way to stardom with Hollywood’s hottest celebs. With pseudo appearances by Beyonce, Liam Hemsworth, Robin Thicke, and Justin Beiber look-alikes, this A-list fuck fest is sure to make headlines and turn heads.” I just watched the extremely NSFW trailer and SPOILER ALERT, Miley, I mean Molly totally goes down on Fakeyonce. Scandalous! Don’t worry, I have no intention of taking this one out for a test rub — I only masturbate to D-list celeb porn, not porn parodies. (I have standards.) Anyway, given that Miley has been fairly open about her sexuality, I’m genuinely curious what she thinks about being the subject of a porn parody. Do tell, Smilerz. [Vice]

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