Having eschewed my former maneater ways, I decided that perhaps celibacy (or “manstinence” as I prefer to call it) was the key to rediscovering my focus on the more important arenas of my life. Yet, I was left with a quandary. You see, I really like sex. And I really like having it on a […]
For all the sex positive writing that I do, I’d never actually talked with someone who worked in the adult entertainment industry for a living. Like a lot of people, I just assumed they all were failed actresses and cokeheads. That was unfair of me. Over the summer, I met up with Ryan Keely, an adult […]
It’s time again for a mega “Shortcuts Weekend.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss […]
My mother and many of her second-wave feminist peers view pornography as an institutional ill that is degrading to women and damaging to developing sexuality. She believes that the camera-ready angles, waxed and plastic body parts and pervasive depiction of extreme acts as “normal” distort human sexuality and give young porn-viewers a whole bunch of false […]
My boyfriend and I have been together for over 10 years now. For maybe the first three years, I never once had an orgasm, which I attributed to us both being so young (we started dating at 16). Over the years our sex life has gotten so much better and I started to have orgasms, but only during foreplay. After so long having […]
Erotic offerings for women are getting better all the time. Just off the top of my head, I can think of James Deen and Make Love Not Porn, Bust magazine’s monthly “one handed read,” and the publishing boom after Fifty Shades Of Grey that has our office bookshelves heaving under new dominant/submissive erotica. (Seriously. Take some of it off our hands, please.) American […]
Before the invention of the world wide web, before we even knew porn existed, you best believe we were masturbating. And in a lot of creative ways. We feel bad for the young people today who can just log onto their computers and have a world of whack off materials with a single click. “Back […]
Porn! So awesome. So terrible! So sexy. So cool. No, really, porn is great and we live in a word where a glut of choice is the default. That means that every single kink, fetish, and predilection is easily accounted for. It seems like finding porn for women that’s actually good would be easy. After all, […]
I was on my way to my Web Marketing class when a girl who looked about my age stopped me to ask me a very strange, life-changing question. She asked me if I watch porn. “Huh?” As a girl, I was taken aback by such a question, but her approach was so natural that I felt […]
