polyamory

Love & Sex

I found myself capable of deriving sexual pleasure from my boyfriends’ experience. I’ve since read this feeling is called “compersion.” Compersion is defined by the urban dictionary as the “feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship.” READ MORE »


Love & Sex

“Do you think I’m the kind of person who can pull off saying the word ‘lover’?” I ask my husband over coffee one Thursday morning a few weeks ago. I am sitting on the couch in my underwear, watching him flip casually through his phone. He is probably checking the OKCupid app, seeing if any… READ MORE »


Entertainment

I had no idea what I was looking for.

When I crossed traditional two-person, monogamous, till death do us part marriage off my Life To-Do List at 30, I didn’t know what there was to want instead. I felt like the only menu-less patron at a restaurant. Everyone else seemed to order with… READ MORE »


News

Aren’t race and trans* rights sort of bigger issues right now? READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I never want to be a primary parent; I very much want to nurture and raise children as part of a committed family unit.

It’s alright if you need a minute. Go ahead and reread it. READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’m a hopeless romantic, but in the last six months, I’ve had a drastic shift in what love means to me. I’ve let go of the idea that love is an intense and demanding force. It doesn’t need all of my attention and it doesn’t mean things have to happen “now or never.” I’ve learned… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Sheryl Sandberg’s new #LeanInTogether campaign makes me want to lean out and run as far away as I can from her brand of “feminism” as fast as my feet will carry me.

 

The COO of Facebook’s latest op-ed for The New York Times — “How Men Can Succeed in the Boardroom and the Bedroom,”READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Consider the open relationship. Maybe you’ve always felt constrained by a traditional relationship, and known that you could happily be with more than one person. Maybe your partner brings it up to you one night over tacos and margaritas, and you’re game. Or, maybe this is just something that you’ve wanted to try, to see… READ MORE »


Celebs

“My relationship with my present wife [his children’s former nanny, Ryan Shawhughes] is thrilling to me and I’m committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can’t be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

In private, my husband, Paul*, has started referring to his sexual orientation as “Results-Oriented.” As in, he doesn’t care what gender his sexual partners are if they can get the job done, so to speak. He’s being glib when he says that — no, he wouldn’t go to bed with just anyone — but there’s also… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

I’m cautiously optimistic about the next episode of “Our America,” Lisa Ling’s docu-series on the OWN network, in which she discusses families/couplings who are non-monogamous. I’m pretty psyched anytime that the mainstream media acknowledges alternative sexualities at all, bonus points for when it acknowledges we are “normal.”  Polyamory or even just being monogam-ish are more common… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

When a public notary in Sao Paulo, Brazil, authorized a civil union between one man and two women, neither she nor the triad expected to make headlines. Now, three months after their three-way relationship was formalized, it has become an international news story with flashy headlines like “‘Big Love’ In Brazil.” The members of the… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

In case you were curious about how polyamorous relationships work in practice, especially when a child is involved, Anderson Cooper got up close and personal with a triad on his show. Okay, follow me here: Jaiya Ma and Jon Hanauer have been together since they met at Tantric Yoga teacher training 10 years ago. At… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and… READ MORE »


Celebs

“I’ve always felt that a man should be able to be with as many women as he likes. I’ve never had the opportunity to share that with any man before because, honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever been with a man who was even deserving of that. Charlie is a great man and he can… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

My Tuesday evening ritual consists of the following: an hour and a half of yoga and meditation, followed by a hot bubble bath, in which I either drink a glass of wine or eat a Haagen-Daz Coffee Crunch ice cream bar, while wearing a mud mask and lisening to Dan Savage’s Savage Love podcast. I… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

It’s hard enough scrambling to find Valentine’s Day gifts (especially if you’re a cheap and lazy lover), booking reservations for a prix fixe dinner, and trying to make the night as special at St. Hallmark has deemed it to be. But imagine if you had to do that with multiple people. I will complain no… READ MORE »


Love & Sex

Click here for the full image.This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy … it’s way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage would be proud of me. [Tacit] … READ MORE »


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