Tag Archives: polyamory

Anderson Cooper Demystifies Polyamorous Parenting

Ami AngelowiczDecember 9, 2011 //
My First Time...
...being polyamorous. Read More »
Poly Poster Girl
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Tilda Swinton is our polyamorous poster girl. Read More »
Poly Dealbreaker
Is polyamory a dating dealbreaker? Read More »

In case you were curious about how polyamorous relationships work in practice, especially when a child is involved, Anderson Cooper got up close and personal with a triad on his show. Okay, follow me here: Jaiya Ma and Jon Hanauer have been together since they met at Tantric Yoga teacher training 10 years ago. At some point, Jaiya brought another man into the relationship, but things ended with a bad breakup. Jaiya’s tendency was to “connect” post-breakup, while Jon’s was to “retreat.” So, instead of breaking up, Jon encouraged Jaiya to find someone else. Eventually, she met Ian Ferguson in dance class and they had an instant connection. Jaiya became pregnant with Ian’s baby. Now the three of them live together with two-year-old Eamon. Interestingly, Jon (not the biological father of Eamon) does a good portion of the child care. You can watch an additional clip of Anderson’s interview with them here. Do I smell a sitcom here? Keep reading »

Girl Talk: In Praise Of Monogamy

Rachel Rabbit WhiteNovember 2, 2011 //
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Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate seemed to come to life in Bear’s presence. He is upbeat but sensible, she is witty and wildly imaginative. She is small and brunette, he is big and blond. They are a physical yin and yang. And even though there was plenty of room on the bench, they sat close, Kate in the nook of his arm. Keep reading »

“Goddess” Rachel Oberlin Defends Charlie Sheen’s Polyamory

Jessica WakemanMarch 3, 2011 //

“I’ve always felt that a man should be able to be with as many women as he likes. I’ve never had the opportunity to share that with any man before because, honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever been with a man who was even deserving of that. Charlie is a great man and he can provide the lifestyle to accommodate a relationship such as what the three of us have. He has totally taken me aback by what a wonderful person he is, how open and honest he is.”

— Rachel Oberlin/the porn star “Bree Olsen,” 24, one of Charlie Sheen‘s “goddesses,” i.e. live-in girlfriends, defends their polyamorous lifestyle. His other girlfriend is Natalie Kenly, 24, also called “Natty.” Frankly, I don’t see why everyone is making such a big to-do about Charlie shacking up with two babes. Hasn’t Hugh Hefner being doing that for … decades? (Someone get this man a bathrobe!) I wonder how Rachel thinks a man who’s been arrested for domestic violence as recently as last year is “deserving” of this accommodation, though. [Oh No They Didn't!] Keep reading »

What Does It Mean For A Relationship To “Work”?

Amelia McDonell-ParryFebruary 16, 2011 //

My Tuesday evening ritual consists of the following: an hour and a half of yoga and meditation, followed by a hot bubble bath, in which I either drink a glass of wine or eat a Haagen-Daz Coffee Crunch ice cream bar, while wearing a mud mask and lisening to Dan Savage‘s Savage Love podcast. I highly recommend this entire evening routine. It makes the following day, Hump Day, that much easier. Keep reading »

Valentine’s Day Must Be Hell For The Polyamorous

Ami AngelowiczFebruary 9, 2011 //

It’s hard enough scrambling to find Valentine’s Day gifts (especially if you’re a cheap and lazy lover), booking reservations for a prix fixe dinner, and trying to make the night as special at St. Hallmark has deemed it to be. But imagine if you had to do that with multiple people. I will complain no more, the polyamorous have it much worse on Valentine’s Day. I actually felt bad for some of the polyamorous couples featured in an article entitled “How to Handle Valentine’s Day When You’re Polyamorous.” Keep reading »

The Official Map Of Non-Monogamy

Amelia McDonell-ParryOctober 21, 2010 //

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This map of non-monogamy makes me understand why so many people subscribe to monogamy … it’s way less complicated. I am going to go study for my non-monogamy pop quiz now. Dan Savage would be proud of me. [Tacit] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Worked Up” And “Twice In Love” Respond

Wendy AtterberryJune 18, 2010 //

Thanks to reader ACooper’s suggestion, we now have a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Worked Up,” a young woman who had trouble dealing with a rude co-worker, and “Twice in Love,” who wondered whether she could be in love with two men — one of whom she’s married to — and make it work with both… Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’ve Fallen In Love With Another Man”

Wendy AtterberryMay 25, 2010 //

I am a 28-year-old married woman, who has been with my husband for 10 years (married for two). Last year my husband confessed that he had a “hot wife” fantasy and wanted me to experiment with sexual relationships outside of our marriage. At first I was appalled because I had only had been with one partner besides him, but after months of talking about it, I became open-minded to the idea. So, this past January, I met a single man I was extremely attracted to. Needless to say, I told him that I was in an open-marriage and within a matter of weeks we were involved in a hot and heavy sexual relationship. I have been with my lover now for three months and have a huge problem: I’ve fallen in love with him. I know he is not in love with me (he is dating other women) and it hasn’t changed the fact that I love my husband. But I can’t stop thinking about or lusting for my lover, and lately have even felt a bit jealous about his other relationships. I told my husband and he believes our relationship is strong enough to handle this. I’m afraid to tell my lover for fear that he’ll end the affair, which would devastate me. I’m so confused about how to proceed; can I be in love with two men and somehow make this work? — Twice In Love

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First Time For Everything: A Polyamorous Relationship

Anya JamesApril 30, 2010 //
My Open Marriage
How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »
Open Isn't For Everyone
John DeVore opens up about polyamory. Read More »
Dating Dealbreaker
For some, polyamory is a no-go. Read More »

I really didn’t know what polyamory was until I fell into it at 27. I was arguing one day with a couple I’d been sleeping with for about a month, when BAM! I ended up in a three-way relationship.

I’ve always been open-minded as far as sexual relationships were concerned and was sleeping with a male/female couple. That day, Dan was being overly critical of Ellie. I told them the nit-picking was bothering me, but it really wasn’t my business how they treated each other, since, you know, it was their relationship.

That’s when they looked at each other and asked me, “Well, aren’t you kind of… with us?”

Hmm. “Fine,” I said to Dan, “Be nice to my girlfriend then.” Keep reading »

Mind Of Man: Polyamory Is Not For Everyone

John DeVoreJanuary 6, 2010 //
Dating Dealbreaker
For some, polyamory is a no-go. Read More »
My Open Marriage
How an open relationship works for one married couple. Read More »
My First Time...
...being polyamorous. Read More »

”Open relationships” are like snowboarding. There are people who can do it very well. And then there are people like me, who will end up breaking something. I was in an open relationship once. It lasted for a couple hours and abruptly ended with me storming out into the cold, crestfallen that she had actually taken our agreement literally. I had started the evening’s revels a sophisticated libertine and finished the night a blubbering spaz. Not to mention a hypocrite. Keep reading »

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