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Dating Don’ts: How To Approach An Open Relationship

Dating Don'ts: How To Approach An Open Relationship
My Open Marriage
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Consider the open relationship. Maybe you’ve always felt constrained by a traditional relationship, and known that you could happily be with more than one person. Maybe your partner brings it up to you one night over tacos and margaritas, and you’re game. Or, maybe this is just something that you’ve wanted to try, to see if it’s something you could really succeed at. Most people go into open relationships not because they want to bone every person out there that catches their eye, but because the concept of monogamy is one that for many, feels decidedly foreign. It is kind of strange to think that we’re expected to stay with just the one person for a sustained period of time, and an open relationship can help expand boundaries. If you’re considering an open relationship, keep in mind that, if done correctly, they can be a blast. If handled poorly, like most things in life, they will blow up in your face. Here are some tips on how to navigate this new terrain. Keep reading »

Ethan Hawke Is Not So Keen On Monogamy

My Open Marriage
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Monogamy Is Unnatural
Even John DeVore admits monogamy is unnatural. Read More »
On Polyamory
There's no good reason why we shouldn't have multiple partners. Read More »

“My relationship with my present wife [his children's former nanny, Ryan Shawhughes] is thrilling to me and I’m committed to it. But neither she nor I know what shape the future will come in. Sexual fidelity can’t be the whole thing you hang your relationship on. If you really love somebody you want them to grow, but you don’t get to define how that happens. They do. People have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity. ‘He’s cheated so he’s bad, she’s cheated so she’s bad,’ as opposed to a recognition that our species is not monogamous. To act all indignant, that your world has been rocked because your lover wasn’t faithful to you, is a little bit like acting rocked that your hair went grey. Human beings are sexual beings.”

Ethan Hawke is as well known for all those “Before Sunrise” movies as he is for being the guy who let Uma Thurman get away. But as he broadly hints at the magazine Mr. Porter, he didn’t want to be monogamous. That doesn’t make any cheating that may have occurred okay, of course, but I commend him, actually, for being this honest about monogamy and fidelity given how harshly our culture judges nontraditional relationships. (Actress Maria Bello has some similar thoughts, which she wrote about this weekend in the New York Times Modern Love column.) It sounds like 42-year-old Hawke has a more clear-eyed view of what kind of relationship he wants with his new wife. He’s kidding himself, though, if he thinks that being “indignant” about cheating is abnormal.  Non-monogamy isn’t about cheating at all. [Mr. Porter via US Weekly] [Image via Getty]

True Story: My Husband Is Bisexual

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True Story: My Husband Is Bisexual

In private, my husband, Paul*, has started referring to his sexual orientation as “Results-Oriented.” As in, he doesn’t care what gender his sexual partners are if they can get the job done, so to speak. He’s being glib when he says that — no, he wouldn’t go to bed with just anyone — but there’s also some truth behind it. For a person who isn’t ready to socially, culturally, or politically identify as bisexual, Results-Oriented is his way of saying that he’s not quite as straight as most straight-identified men.

Paul started calling himself Results-Oriented around the time we had our first foursome with a straight-presenting, queer-identified couple. For the most part, we engaged in heterosexual and lesbian activities, but at one point, I let it slip that watching two men together has always been one of my top turn-ons. Our male partner looked up with excitement and climbed on top of Paul. Once he obtained consent, he gave Paul a long and thorough blowjob that finished in climax. I couldn’t decide whether to observe our partner’s clearly experienced technique or Paul’s facial expressions of utterly baffled pleasure. When it was over, all my husband could say was, “Wow … that wasn’t as different as I imagined it would be.” Keep reading »

Lisa Ling Explores Non-Monogamy In OWN’s “I Love You & You … & You”

Poly Parenting
Anderson Cooper demystifies polyamorous parenting. Read More »
On Polyamory
There's no good reason why we shouldn't have multiple partners. Read More »
Monogamy Is Unnatural
Even John DeVore admits monogamy is unnatural. Read More »
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The More The Merrier!

I’m cautiously optimistic about the next episode of “Our America,” Lisa Ling’s docu-series on the OWN network, in which she discusses families/couplings who are non-monogamous. I’m pretty psyched anytime that the mainstream media acknowledges alternative sexualities at all, bonus points for when it acknowledges we are “normal.”  Polyamory or even just being monogam-ish are more common than you think. This preview teases Ling’s show as answering the question “How many is too many?”, which is presupposing something is wrong with non-monogamy and that it is possible for there to be “too many” partners in a polyamorous union.  Yet everyone who gets screen time in this preview seems happy with their personal decisions — and pretty “normal,” too. As American as apple pie, you might even say. “I Love You & You … & You” airs next week, Tuesday March 5 at 10/9c on OWN.  [Oprah.com]

The Soapbox: In Marriage Equality, Three Shouldn’t Be A Crowd

Poly Parenting
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Poly Poster Girl
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Tilda Swinton is our polyamorous poster girl. Read More »
My First Time...
...being polyamorous. Read More »

When a public notary in Sao Paulo, Brazil, authorized a civil union between one man and two women, neither she nor the triad expected to make headlines. Now, three months after their three-way relationship was formalized, it has become an international news story with flashy headlines like “‘Big Love’ In Brazil.” The members of the triad have refused to speak to the press. But the notary, Claudia do Nascimento Domingues, has come forward in light of backlash to explain why she made the decision to authorize the three-way union (or “thruple”). As she told the UK’s Telegraph:

We are only recognizing what has always existed. We are not inventing anything … for better or worse, it doesn’t matter, but what we considered a family before isn’t necessarily what we would consider a family today. Keep reading »

Anderson Cooper Demystifies Polyamorous Parenting

My First Time...
...being polyamorous. Read More »
Poly Poster Girl
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Tilda Swinton is our polyamorous poster girl. Read More »
Poly Dealbreaker
Is polyamory a dating dealbreaker? Read More »
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In case you were curious about how polyamorous relationships work in practice, especially when a child is involved, Anderson Cooper got up close and personal with a triad on his show. Okay, follow me here: Jaiya Ma and Jon Hanauer have been together since they met at Tantric Yoga teacher training 10 years ago. At some point, Jaiya brought another man into the relationship, but things ended with a bad breakup. Jaiya’s tendency was to “connect” post-breakup, while Jon’s was to “retreat.” So, instead of breaking up, Jon encouraged Jaiya to find someone else. Eventually, she met Ian Ferguson in dance class and they had an instant connection. Jaiya became pregnant with Ian’s baby. Now the three of them live together with two-year-old Eamon. Interestingly, Jon (not the biological father of Eamon) does a good portion of the child care. You can watch an additional clip of Anderson’s interview with them here. Do I smell a sitcom here? Keep reading »

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