Every once in a while, things we like go stale and we get sick of them. That is the case with food, hobbies, and of course, our relationships. We don’t even have to be displeased with our partners, but sometimes we just need something fresh and new, and they can’t give it to us themselves, […]
I’m a hopeless romantic, but in the last six months, I’ve had a drastic shift in what love means to me. I’ve let go of the idea that love is an intense and demanding force. It doesn’t need all of my attention and it doesn’t mean things have to happen “now or never.” I’ve learned […]
You’ve got a whole lot of love and you want to give it away to every Tom, Dick and Mary! While swinging around town, perking up your love life with new stud muffins sounds oh-so-sexy, there are some pitfalls of passion that could ruin the relationship you’ve already got going on. Loving more than one person […]
Consider the open relationship. Maybe you’ve always felt constrained by a traditional relationship, and known that you could happily be with more than one person. Maybe your partner brings it up to you one night over tacos and margaritas, and you’re game. Or, maybe this is just something that you’ve wanted to try, to see if […]
I never want to be a primary parent; I very much want to nurture and raise children as part of a committed family unit. It’s alright if you need a minute. Go ahead and reread it. Five years ago, as I was unwittingly being ushered along the hetero/mononormative conveyor belt of life, those would have […]
For centuries, monogamous marriage (or a marriage that is presumed to be monogamous) has been the romantic ideal. However, the sexual revolution and the feminist movements of the 20th century have worked together to redefine what a relationship can or should be. As cultural values around gender and sexuality have shifted over the past few decades, alternatives […]
In private, my husband, Paul*, has started referring to his sexual orientation as “Results-Oriented.” As in, he doesn’t care what gender his sexual partners are if they can get the job done, so to speak. He’s being glib when he says that — no, he wouldn’t go to bed with just anyone — but there’s […]
My boyfriend and I have been together for approximately three years. Since we started sleeping with one another, a large part of our fantasy life has included the idea of sleeping with other people, infidelity, swinging, and dissolving the rules of monogamy. A few weeks ago, we began toying with the idea of opening up […]
I really didn’t know what polyamory was until I fell into it at 27. I was arguing one day with a couple I’d been sleeping with for about a month, when BAM! I ended up in a three-way relationship. I’ve always been open-minded as far as sexual relationships were concerned and was sleeping with a […]
