In one week, I’m celebrating a BIG birthday: 30! In acknowledgment of the fact that I’ve spent over half of my 20s working at The Frisky, I’m going to reach down deep into to archives and revisit some old posts. I’ll examine what I wrote at the time and how that has or hasn’t changed. If you have any suggestions of old posts you’d like me to revisit, tell me in the comments or shoot me an email at Jessica@TheFrisky.com. First up …
The Post: “Why I Like Being Called A Slut In Bed”
Publication Date: February 2, 2011 Keep reading »
A few years ago, I felt very pleased with myself when I emailed a group of activists and addressed them as “ladies.” I knew they were primarily women, specifically LGBTQ and feminist-minded, so I made a point not to say “guys.” Most group emails I address as “hey guys!” or the slightly-less-formal “hey, y’all.” “Hello, ladies,” I typed.
Throughout the rest of the day I fielded emails from folks saying they objected to being addressed as “ladies” — some said it had 1940s white glove church hat connotations, while others said it made them uncomfortable because of their genderqueer identity. Ooof, I thought to myself, I guess I should have gone with “y’all.” Keep reading »
These two Fox News anchors are up in arms over this story straight outta the Pacific Northwest. “I can’t even say it,” says one anchor. “One Seattle elementary school is calling Easter eggs ‘spring spheres.’” She’s right that this is totally ridiculous because an Easter egg hunt is a part of, well, Easter and we wouldn’t start calling Christmas trees “Decemeber Evergreens” now would we? Her co-anchor makes another good point—that eggs aren’t actually sphere shaped.
However, the story they’re so fired up about may not even be true. Keep reading »
I get called a “slut” all the time. My friend Ashley calls me a slut like it’s my name: “Slut!” The Frisky staff calls each other sluts when we divulge our sexual escapades. Internet commenting trolls call me a slut fairly regularly (and a “bitch”, and a c-word, and plenty of other foul things). I call myself a slut, like, say, last week when I hooked up with a dude on the first date. A lot of 20-something women are used to being called a slut in some area of their lives, in every situation from “haha, just kidding” with our friends or (cool) co-workers to more serious areas, like when it’s hurled at us by a catcaller. “Slut” is one of those female-centric words — like “bitch,” like “feminist” — that can mean so many things that it almost means nothing anymore. Except, it turns out, in bed. Keep reading »
Okay, so names have always been a touchy subject in our society. Do you call someone Black or African-American? He-she or Transgender? Disabled or Physically Challenged? But when did midget become a disputed term? Apparently after an episode of “Celebrity Apprentice” aired. In it, contestants came up with a soap called, “Jesse James and the Midgets.” It sounded funny, but vertically-deficient folks were not laughing. Instead, they started calling the Federal Communications Commission, or FCC, in droves to have the word banned from television. So far the FCC has yet to issue a statement of action. [In the meantime, FYI: It's Little People. -- Editor] Should the FCC comply? Did you even know the M-word was considered offensive?  Keep reading »
According to Details, decades of feminism and political correctness have turned 21st century guys into total pigs. Because they’ve been forced to play Mr. Nice Guy and suppress their baser, manlier instincts for years, today’s men are starting to revert back to some of their less politically correct, more misogynist ways. Take, for example, “Dave”: “Dave, who was in college during the P.C. era of the early nineties, is part of a generation of men who have started to wonder why they’ve been so damn well-behaved all these years — and are now letting their long-repressed roguish instincts run free.” When Dave’s not busy being married and “co-parenting” his kids, he’s sneaking off to massage parlors for “happy endings.” What it means to be a man is no longer clear, and that’s causing a return to traditionalism. (Think Don Draper incarnate.) Tired of “Yes, Dear”-ing their wives, these guys are saying to hell with all that. (Take, for example, Guy Ritchie.) So what do you think? Are men regressing into jerkhood? [Details] Keep reading »