I’ve lived in New York City for a little over 10 years. As any of the other writers for The Frisky can tell you (and have written about over and over), dating in this city isn’t as easy as a walk in Central Park. In a city of eight million people where the single women outnumber the single men by roughly 150,000, the stakes are high and the pickings slim. Having been out there floating in that sea for longer than I would have wished on most people, archenemies excluded, naturally I have found myself in sexual predicaments that, tragically, I probably won’t be forgetting anytime soon. Actually, there’s a very good chance I’ll never forget some of these scarring and haunting forays into the ridiculous. And because of this, I think the best way to deal is to share them with someone besides my therapist. Keep reading »
Confession time: I was not down with period sex for a long time. Like, as long as I’d been having both periods and sex at the same time — or rather, having periods and not having sex during them. Why? Because gross. And because messy sheets. And because most guys are squicked out about it…or so I thought.
It turns out, I learned from a particularly patient and awesome partner, that actually the sex part of period sex is enough for some (maybe even most? I don’t know, I’m not a scientist) men to risk a little additional slipping and sliding. Essentially, period sex is just not the big, gross ordeal I was conditioned to believe it was.
However! Period sex does come with a lot of additional considerations. So, if you’re thinking about giving it a go, here are a few items to mull over: Keep reading »
There’s going to come a point in this sabbatical of mine where I am really going to miss having sex. And when that time comes, how to fight the urge? Perhaps by titillating the senses that are stimulated by having sex, I can give myself a little “taste,” so to speak, without participating in the act itself. Lady Gaga’s upcoming fragrance should help. According to Fashionista, Gaga wants her first perfume to smell like semen and blood, the combination of which, in my mind at least, will result in Eau de Period Sex. Yes, inhaling the bleach-tinged aroma of salty sweet blood is sure to help me fight my craving for some P for my V. Thanks Gaga! [Fashionista] Keep reading »
Men, are periods wreacking havoc on your lives? Everywhere you turn is there a woman eating a pint of Ben & Jerry’s or unwrapping a Tampax? Does this concern you? You never have to be blindsided again by leaving your man-cave only to confront the terror that is menstruation. A website called Flojuggler allows you to chart the periods of the women in your life and set alerts two days in advance of when your girlfriend, your hook-up or even your mom is on the rag. Presumably you want to do this so you can disregard any irrational things that come out of her mouth while she is possessed by the hormone demons. Keep reading »
Having sex while Aunt Flo is in town is definitely a love it or hate it situation — friends and fellow bloggers Twanna Hines and Desiree Moodie were on opposite sides of the fence on the subject and asked to argue their viewpoints for The Frisky. Read both of their extremely convincing arguments after the jump (who knew there were so many benefits to period sex?!), then tell us what you think in the comments. Keep reading »
Dudes of the world: You are very sexy. You are very tempting. You are very hard … to say no to. Believe me! But sometimes, my V isn’t willing to accept the gift that is your P. So before you go getting down on yourself, here are the real reasons I won’t have sex with you after a date, even if it went well… Keep reading »
This week, I got a letter from a lady who is wondering if she can let her date play Moses and part the Red Sea.
“I have recently been flirting with an old hookup and we have both been hinting at wanting to rekindle the affair. We live in different cities, and he is coming to visit this weekend and I have a suspicion that we’ll be having sex. Unfortunately, my period is due to come on Friday! How do I go about having sex during my period without getting everything messy and/or grossing both of us out? I read that you can have sex while wearing the Instead Cup, so I’m totally on that one and hope it works!” —
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Just because Paris is the city of love doesn’t mean its men know much about the subject.
Take it from me, someone who spent a year chasing after French men, only to find the pursuit to be disappointing, and at times, disturbing.
I arrived in Paris a few days before my twentieth birthday, full of hope. I was about to spend the next twelve months studying and living in one of the most exciting cities in the world. While I had certain goals in mind—becoming fluent, seeing every museum, and learning how to cook French cuisine—I wanted most of all to find a Parisian lover. I had spent the last two years at Smith College, an all-women’s institution in Massachusetts, not getting laid. There was no way I was going to allow this to happen in such a romantic city. Keep reading »
“There was some new guy I was dating, and it was the first time we were going to go there, and he was weird about it. So I ask [adult film star] Jenna [Jameson] for advice and she’s like, ‘Honey, it’s just a little war paint, who cares?’” — Danity Kane’s Aubrey O’Day in Complex [Dlisted] Keep reading »