Dudes of the world: You are very sexy. You are very tempting. You are very hard ... to say no to. Believe me! But sometimes, my V isn’t willing to accept the gift that is your P. So before you go getting down on yourself, here are the real reasons I won’t have sex with you after a date, even if it went well…

This week, I got a letter from a lady who is wondering if she can let her date play Moses and part the Red Sea.

“I have recently been flirting with an old hookup and we have both been hinting at wanting to rekindle the affair. We live in different cities, and he is coming to visit this weekend and I have a suspicion that we’ll be having sex.  Unfortunately, my period is due to come on Friday!  How do I go about having sex during my period without getting everything messy and/or grossing both of us out? I read that you can have sex while wearing the Instead Cup, so I’m totally on that one and hope it works!”—
Fantastic Timing

Having sex while Aunt Flo is in town is definitely a love it or hate it situation—friends and fellow bloggers, Twanna Hines and Desiree Moodie were on opposite sides of the fence on the subject and asked to argue their viewpoints for The Frisky. Read both of their extremely convincing arguments after the jump (who knew there were so many benefits to period sex?!), then tell us what you think in the comments and vote in our poll.

Just because Paris is the city of love doesn’t mean its men know much about the subject.

Take it from me, someone who spent a year chasing after French men, only to find the pursuit to be disappointing, and at times, disturbing.

I arrived in Paris a few days before my twentieth birthday, full of hope. I was about to spend the next twelve months studying and living in one of the most exciting cities in the world. While I had certain goals in mind—becoming fluent, seeing every museum, and learning how to cook French cuisine—I wanted most of all to find a Parisian lover. I had spent the last two years at Smith College, an all-women’s institution in Massachusetts, not getting laid. There was no way I was going to allow this to happen in such a romantic city.

“There was some new guy I was dating, and it was the first time we were going to go there, and he was weird about it. So I ask [adult film star] Jenna [Jameson] for advice and she’s like, ‘Honey, it’s just a little war paint, who cares?’”—Danity Kane’s Aubrey O’Day in Complex [Dlisted]

“How can my husband and I mess around when I’m on my period? I’m a little squeamish about it, but he doesn’t want to go off sex for a week.”—Flirting With Aunt Flo, Olympia, WA

A tampon isn’t the only thing you can insert when you have your period. In fact, sex while you’re on the rag can be even better than when you’re not. It sounds gross, but blood can act as a natural lubricant, enhancing your sexual experience with your husband. If you’re worried about the “cleanliness” factor of sex while you’re bleeding, you can use a colored towel or have sex in the shower to keep your sheets from seeing red.

We’ve been curious for awhile about what dudes think about having sex when a woman is on her period. I don’t like it, but not because it grosses me out—I’m just a clean freak and don’t like messes of any sort. But what about dudes? I got a wide mix of responses when I asked the guys on my IM. Check out what they had to say, after the jump!