Yesterday, the atheist and evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins made comments about rape and pedophilia on Twitter that made many people angry.
From what I can gather, Dawkins appeared to have been tweeting over the weekend regarding religion and Israel, saying support for the Israeli state does not mean condoning the country’s current behavior in Gaza. Then he pivoted his examples — I would argue somewhat insensitively — to ones about about sexual abuse:
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Sorry, John Burbine, but sacrificing your nuts is not a fair trade for allegedly raping and sexually abusing 13 children. Keep reading »
“I have a shopping fetish!”
“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”
“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”
You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a week your entire life. These sorts of comments drive me bonkers, because those people are not really referring to fetishes.
Instead, they’re misusing the word “fetish” to describe anything they really like, instead of something that sexually turns them on. I imagine it might be the same way gay folks would feel when a straight-person says to their same-sex friend “I’m gay for you,” when really they just mean their friend is a good buddy.
This is a subject we could all stand to know more about. Obviously I am not a psychologist or a medical expert of any kind; I’m just a woman with a spanking fetish who is researching official information on the subject on Google and including my own experiences and tips. I highly recommend visiting a sex-positive therapist, specifically a sex therapist, for a professional consult and to sort this stuff out if you or a loved one have a fetish or paraphilia.
But for a basic 101 on fetishes and paraphilia, here are some commonly asked questions and answers:
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This is 24-year-old Chinese pop star Zhang Muyi and his 12-year-old model GIRLFRIEND, Akama Miki. Yes, I said GIRLFRIEND. The couple, both famous in China, who have been “dating” since Miki was 11, have gone public with their “relationship,” posting lovey-dovey photos of themselves “finger kissing” and shmoopy messages like “I will always love you and you will be my darling forever!!!” on China’s social media site, Weibo. Instead of raised eyebrows and condemnation, they’ve gained nearly one million fans in the process. Keep reading »
For the first time, there’s a documentary that examines the global impact of pedophilia from a sociocultural and historical perspective. “Are All Men Pedophiles?”, which has screened at various festivals this year, explores the question with the help of religious leaders, a psychologist, sexologist, neuroscientist and even a model scout. The film covers everything from the Lolita community (a Japanese fashion subculture oriented around looking a little girl), to stories of child sexual abuse, to opinions about teen-adult sex. It endeavors to bring out the “other side of the story” by making a distinction between pedophilia (attraction to young children) and hebephilia (clinically defined as attraction to pubescent children). Dutch director Jan-Willem Breure wanted “to confront people with the issue” he was facing himself. The 23-year-old was inspired to make the film (which he funded it himself) when he found himself attracted to girls as young as 15. The girl featured on the film poster which asks, “Do you find me attractive?” is only 14. Keep reading »