“I have a shopping fetish!”
“I have a total fetish for caramel-covered popcorn — it’s my favorite snack!”
“She watches the Kardashians’ shows because she has a weird Kim fetish. She’s wants to dress like her so badly.”
You’ve probably heard a comment like this at least once a week your entire life. These sorts of comments drive me bonkers, because those people are not really referring to fetishes.
Instead, they’re misusing the word “fetish” to describe anything they really like, instead of something that sexually turns them on. I imagine it might be the same way gay folks would feel when a straight-person says to their same-sex friend “I’m gay for you,” when really they just mean their friend is a good buddy.
This is a subject we could all stand to know more about. Obviously I am not a psychologist or a medical expert of any kind; I’m just a woman with a spanking fetish who is researching official information on the subject on Google and including my own experiences and tips. I highly recommend visiting a sex-positive therapist, specifically a sex therapist, for a professional consult and to sort this stuff out if you or a loved one have a fetish or paraphilia.
But for a basic 101 on fetishes and paraphilia, here are some commonly asked questions and answers:
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This is 24-year-old Chinese pop star Zhang Muyi and his 12-year-old model GIRLFRIEND, Akama Miki. Yes, I said GIRLFRIEND. The couple, both famous in China, who have been “dating” since Miki was 11, have gone public with their “relationship,” posting lovey-dovey photos of themselves “finger kissing” and shmoopy messages like “I will always love you and you will be my darling forever!!!” on China’s social media site, Weibo. Instead of raised eyebrows and condemnation, they’ve gained nearly one million fans in the process. Keep reading »
For the first time, there’s a documentary that examines the global impact of pedophilia from a sociocultural and historical perspective. “Are All Men Pedophiles?”, which has screened at various festivals this year, explores the question with the help of religious leaders, a psychologist, sexologist, neuroscientist and even a model scout. The film covers everything from the Lolita community (a Japanese fashion subculture oriented around looking a little girl), to stories of child sexual abuse, to opinions about teen-adult sex. It endeavors to bring out the “other side of the story” by making a distinction between pedophilia (attraction to young children) and hebephilia (clinically defined as attraction to pubescent children). Dutch director Jan-Willem Breure wanted “to confront people with the issue” he was facing himself. The 23-year-old was inspired to make the film (which he funded it himself) when he found himself attracted to girls as young as 15. The girl featured on the film poster which asks, “Do you find me attractive?” is only 14. Keep reading »
What’s going on with Corey Feldman? Oh, not too much. He’s bleached his hair AND decided to speak out about the biggest problem in Hollywood: pedophilia. In a bizarre “Nightline” interview, Corey went on a rant about how Hollywood’s biggest secret is all the pedophiles flying under the radar. He says he was surrounded by them when he was a child actor. He even goes so far as to blame Corey Haim‘s death on the trauma of pedophilia — claiming they were both molested by Hollywood moguls. Keep reading »
What kind of crack was Amazon smoking when the retailer decided it was OK to sell the book The Pedophile’s Guide to Love and Pleasure: A Child Lover’s Code of Conduct? Amazon was initially standing behind Philip R. Greaves II’s self-published Kindle e-reader title saying, “Amazon believes it is censorship not to sell certain books simply because we or others believe their message is objectionable. Amazon does not support or promote hatred or criminal acts, however, we do support the right of every individual to make their own purchasing decisions.” After internet-wide protest and the popular Twitter trending topic #BoycottAmazon, Amazon has removed the title from its website. I am completely against censorship, but good lord! Teaching someone how to be a pedophile is beyond an “objectionable criminal act” — it is abominable! Finally, how long before this Philip R. Greaves II is investigated for his crimes? [MSNBC] Keep reading »
A nude photograph of Brooke Shields taken when she was 10 (yes, 10!) was removed from a London exhibit this week after Kidscape, an anti-child-abuse activism group in the U.K., declared it a “magnet for pedophiles.” Whoa … back up. Brooke Shields? Kiddie porn? How? Artist Richard Prince’s piece of Shields was set to be part of the “Pop Life: Art in a Material World” exhibition at the Tate Modern opening this Thursday. Prince’s infamous piece is a photograph of a photograph (yes, twice removed … how post-modern) of a heavily made-up 10-year-old Shields originally taken by Garry Gross — shot with the permission of Shields’ mother. Is it weird to anyone else that Shields’ mother would be down with it in the first place? The piece has shown in museums such as the Guggenheim in the past without hoopla, but the Tate Modern removed the pic and shut down the entire room. So what do you think? Kiddie porn or art? [People] Keep reading »
The term cougar has become a status symbol, synonymous with women of a certain income bracket, age, and beauty. While it is seemly an honor to be pretty and powerful enough to bed a younger man, lately it’s also been misinterpreted and become outright predatory. With Van Halen’s “Hot For Teacher” being consummated all over the country, the term “cougar” is getting a bad name. Indulging in trophy man is one thing, plucking an unripe boyfriend from junior high school is quite another — not to mention it’s illegal. A bunch of bad apple female educators have been spoiling the whole bunch. On Monday, the news that a Massachusetts elementary school teacher running off with her student became public, but she’s hardly the first educator in Massachusetts to rape a child in grade school this year. Keep reading »