“Two years ago, I was depressed because I hadn’t found the true love of my life. I was like, ‘What’s wrong with me? I’m smart. I make money. I’m pretty. What’s going on?’ I told Jill [Zarin], who said, ‘Something is running in your unconscious that is preventing you from finding love.’ …The unconscious is the bus driver and if it has no map, it has no direction and that’s why you can’t figure things out … Forty eight hours later, David walked into my life … We are living together. Things are great. I’m really happy.”
–Patti Stanger gushes to People about how she met her soulmate, former baseball player, David Krause. Look, I’m terribly happy for everyone who finds true love. I believe in soul mates. And maybe David is Patti’s true love. All that is well and good, but what I can’t stand is her using her love story as a sales pitch for self-promotion. The other thing that drives me nuts in the whole “self-help-y dating advice” world is when someone peddles oversimplified versions of new thought principles stolen from the The Secret to reel people into feeling “single shame.” Keep reading »
The entire concept of Patti Stanger‘s Millionaire’s Club and its subsequent television show strikes me as being bizarre at best and depraved at worst, but that doesn’t mean I won’t happily watch three episodes in a row while I power walk on the treadmill. I feel like the majority of Millionaire Matchmaker‘s audience has to be in somewhat of the same position, like, “this isn’t something I really want to watch, but I need to watch something trashy and mind-numbing right now so this will have to suffice,” followed almost immediately by, “oh god, I’m maybe actually enjoying this, and should I call my next of kin and insist they go on without me, I am done here?” OR MAYBE THAT’S JUST ME.
But, whatever, bottom line is that, against my better judgement, I like Millionaire Matchmaker, and I even like its polarizing star, the Millionaire Matchmaker herself, Patti Stanger. She says a lot of shallow, occasionally bafflingly insensitive bullshit, but whatever, she’s kind of rad. But who knew the Millionaire Matchmaker made such a damn good living off of this? Her home is fancy, all glossy wood floors and cowhide-upholstered chairs. I almost wanted to commend her on her excellent taste, but then I got to the bedrooms, which I feel are really indicative of her New Jersey upbringing. More photos after the jump! [Huffington Post] Keep reading »
Above is an email I received via LinkedIn from a Millionaire Matchmaker recruiting site, not to be confused with Patti Stanger’s “Millionaire Matchmaker,” although they intentionally try to be confusing. “Ladies! Meet My Millionaires!” Where have I heard that before? Sounds familiar. Not to flatter myself — I’m sure this email went out to thousands of women — but how did they find me? It seems odd to recruit “beautiful women” seeking millionaires through LinkedIn, a professional website, where you have no idea whether a person is single or not. What if I was dating someone. I mean, I’m not, but WHAT IF? Keep reading »
I’ve always been a little afraid of “Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger — not because I think she’ll yell at me and tell me I am doing everything wrong in my relationships (I am. That’s fair), but I am afraid that if I actually took her advice I could possibly live happily ever after (which my therapist and I agree is scarier than falling off the fiscal cliff).
Stanger, who has hosted six seasons of her dating reality show on Bravo is a little frightening in person. She talks incredibly fast. She is also brash and references her lady bits using hand gestures.
She also appears to be aging backwards, which should be scary, but is actually just intriguing. We chatted a little bit to try to unlock the mysteries of dating, love and appearing to be in your twenties forever. Keep reading »
In this episode of our new weekly web series, “What We Missed,” Ami, Jessica, Rachel and I discuss whether or not a new study, which claims that our “disgust sensitivity” is diminished during arousal, is bullshit. We also gab about Patti Stanger’s suggestion that Amy Poehler’s success led to her split from Will Arnett; Ralph Lauren’s new plus-size spokesmodel Robyn Lawley; and a new trend in which South Korean men wear makeup to get ahead in their careers. Watch “What We Missed” above and weigh in with your thoughts in this comments!
One afternoon this week, I was putzing around on Twitter, procrastinating on work, when a tweet from Patti Stanger, the star of “Millionaire Matchmaker,” caught my eye. “Part of acting like a lady involves allowing him to be a gentleman,” she tweeted.
Hmmm, I thought. That’s just good advice. Then I thought about it for a second. Wait. What does that even mean? It sounds like a riddle. The more I thought about it, the less it made sense and the more it seemed to be zen koan-like thought farts.
Patti Stanger’s Twitter feed is filled with these thought farts. Like her Bravo show ”Millionaire Matchmaker,” she offers a melange of useful observations on dating and relationships, mixed with some truly reactionary, fucked-up advice that seeks to corral both men and women into normative gender role behavior. (In fact, we’ve debunked some of this fucked up-edness before.) Let me be clear: if people want to choose that normative gender role behavior himself or herself, that’s great. I choose it a lot of the time myself, in fact. But it’s not ethical to teach people their most successful strategy for finding love is to squeeze yourself into a box and follow the sexist script.
After the jump, let’s debunk some of Patti Stanger’s advice over Twitter … the good, the bad, and the truly WTF. Keep reading »
“If I could put [Marc Jacobs], and oh my God, let me think for a second. Tom Ford. That’s a fit. Is Tom Ford and Marc Jacobs a fit? ‘Cause they both have those muscles and ripped bodies. And they both look straight. I’d date ‘em. They’re both gorgeous. And I didn’t mean that as a generalization, and don’t you gay people get all snippy with me. I meant that as a compliment!”
–Sad circus clown Patti Stanger is totally that annoying friend that assumes that all gay people she knows are attracted to each other. Here she is running her mouth at the Heart Truth Red Dress Fashion Show trying to set up Marc Jacobs and Tom Ford, because you know, they’re both in fashion, and gay, so obviously they should date. GAH. [NYMag]
“Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger’s mission is to help rich jerks find true love, but if she happens to throw a few harsh insults in the faces of her unwitting potential matches, well, it’s all in good fun (and good television). Our friends over at New York compiled some of Patti’s most egregious moments of verbal diarrhea for our viewing pleasure. Enjoy, and be glad you’re not in Patti’s path. [NY Mag]
Patti Stanger did not make many friends this week when she argued that gay men aren’t into monogamous relationships. “There is no curbing the gay,” she said on “Watch What Happens Live” in front of Andy Cohen looking like he just got run over by an angry real housewife. “I’ve tried to curb you people and you just don’t … I’ve decided to throw in the towel and say ‘do what you want,’” Patti continued. Cue Bravo reeling to distance themselves from Patti’s words, since gay men are one of their primary audiences.
Hearing Patti say this, I thought, “Wow. That just isn’t true. I can name 10 gay couples in my social orbit who have been together for eons, I assume monogamously.” Not to mention the fact that for gay marriage to be the kind of issue that it is, some gay men have to want it. Then today I saw a Census statistic that proves Patti isn’t right about “you people.” Apparently, not only has the number of same-sex couples jumped 80 percent since 2000 (an indication that people are increasingly willing to declare their sexual orientation the Census), but 1 in 5 gay couples are married. Which is a high percentage considering that it’s only legal in seven states. In those seven states, 42 percent of same-sex couples have gotten married—a higher rate than straight couples. I only wish this study had separated out stats for gay and lesbian couples so I could really stick it to Patti with the numbers. [Washington Post]
Now, for the record, I love Patti Stanger. I think she is brilliant and tells it like it is. But she does have a habit of making an “iron-clad” law out of preferences she has noticed. For example, her claim that men just don’t like red heads. Or curly hair. Or that men only notice women in tight cocktail dresses. After the jump, I debunk some of Patti’s relationship myths, both anecdotally and scientifically.
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