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Dear Wendy: “I Can’t Stand My Boyfriend’s Parents”

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and both just graduated from college. Although I love him dearly and very much want to be with him, I can’t stand his overbearing and controlling parents. They don’t view my boyfriend as an adult whatsoever, and he’s too scared to stand up and say anything because his family is very wealthy and he doesn’t want to be cut off. While his parents aren’t very nice to me, they’re even worse to their son. His dad is verbally and emotionally abusive to all of his brothers, as well as his mom. (My boyfriend has also shared stories of physical abuse, even in recent times!) I had plans to visit my boyfriend this summer, but after a bad experience with his family during his graduation, I’m having seconds thoughts. I don’t want to feel like I’m walking on eggshells and controlled by his family for a week or two — especially when a plane ticket would cost me $800. In fact, whenever I have visited in the past, his parents don’t let us go out by ourselves — not even for dinner or to the movies! When I told my boyfriend how I feel about this, he got mad and said I was asking too much. I’m worried that if I stick it out with him, this will always be a problem and he’ll never put his foot down and say “enough is enough” and set some boundaries. What do I do? — Family Ties

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Jealous Of My Relationship With My Mother”

I’m 27 years old and for as long as I’ve been dating, my mom has always gotten in the middle of my relationships. I should preface this by saying that we are very close, I am her only child, and I love her dearly, but this has been a continual problem. She either hates who I am dating (and sometimes with reason) or at the very least creates an “us against him” policy. Recently I moved from my hometown to beautiful Hawaii, and shortly afterward, I met a wonderful guy I started dating. The problem is my parents have a vacation home nearby and my mom came to visit four months ago and hasn’t left, and it’s really beginning to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. She actually likes him, so I thought I was in the clear, but it turns out my boyfriend is jealous of the amount of time I spend with my mom. When he and I began dating, I warned him that this has always been an issue, and he swore he would be supportive, but there’s definitely tension between us. My question is: is it fair for him to get upset about how much time I spend with her? And how can I establish healthy boundaries with my mother once and for all? I love spending time with her, but I also sense our relationship is not healthy because of the guilt I feel. — Mommy Issues

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When Should The Parents Meet Each Other?

Meeting the parents — you meet his, he meets yours — is always a big milestone in a relationship. But what is less discussed but equally as stressful is when both of your parents meet each other. At some point when things have gotten mucho serious they kind of have to meet, right?

My mother is really into etiquette books and she claims parents should meet each other once there’s an engagement. But I know that’s not true — in fact, my parents have met the parents of a couple of my ex-boyfriends!

Family is hugely important to me and it seems weird that my boyfriend and I spend almost every weekend with one of our families, but they’ve never met each other. Still, I can’t complain. In fact, I’m kind of stressing the big “Meet The Fockers” moment: My mom and dad have zilch in common with my ex-boyfriends’ parents. Keep reading »

NJ Parents Freak Over Boys’ “Crossdressing” Fashion Show At Elementary School

It’s never too early to reinforce gender roles!

Wilkins Elementary School in Maple Shade Township has canceled its third grade class’ Women’s History Month fashion show after (wait for it … ) a parent complained that the boys and girls were both asked to create an outfit from a period of women’s history, like the ’20s or the ’70s. Teacher Tonya Uibel sent home a packet for parents (which included photos of style icons like Madonna and Twiggy) and said kids should create an outfit to better understand how women’s fashion and women’s roles have changed over time. Keep reading »

How Did You Get Out Past Curfew? The Frisky Shares Our Sneakiest Stories

Being a teenager totally sucked. But it especially sucked when my parents arbitrarily made up rules. Some nights they were whatevs about a curfew, but other nights they’d randomly say “be home by midnight!” or “be home by 11!” Inconsistent parenting like that was very, very frustrating — especially since I was basically good kid who didn’t do too many naughty things. (Granted, I did not do much to endear them to trust me after I got my belly button and tongue pierced.)

But I’ve always been a devious girl, so when I had a curfew, you’d best believe I found ways to get around it …. Keep reading »

Cute Or Creepy? New MA Senator Scott Brown Announces His Daughters Are “Available”

Eeeek, you think your parents are embarrassing? Republican Scott Brown won a Senate seat in Massachusetts last night and used his victory speech to announce his college-aged daughters are single and ready to mingle. Arianna, who is pre-med at Syracuse, and Ayla, who appeared on “American Idol” and is a student at Boston College, stood by their dad’s side while he told millions of people watching on TV they were “both available”—then when corrected by Ayla, announced only “Ayla is definitely available.” The crowd started laughing and cheering and at this point his wife, Gail, shrieked, “Stop!”

What do you think? All-in-good-fun cute or majorly creepy? Keep reading »

Parents Group Is In A Tizzy Over The “Gossip Girl” Threesome Episode

The Parents Television Council has asked CW affiliates not to air the much-anticipated threesome episode of “Gossip Girl” because airing the teen menage a trois would be “reckless and irresponsible,” said the group’s president Tim Winter in a statement Wednesday. The group says on its website that “the show conveys the message that sex is a tool used to manipulate people.” Although the promos for the “3SOME” don’t say who will be involved, some suspect that it will be the show’s top schemers, Blair Waldorf and Chuck Bass, with another major character. The median viewer age is 27 years old, according to a CW spokesperson, a claim Winter said in his statement “doesn’t even pass the ‘laugh test.’” He said “Gossip Girl” is “expressly targeted to impressionable teenagers.” Keep reading »

Bad Celebrity Parents: Jon And Kate Gosselin Signal The End Of The Mel Gibson Daddy Fantasy

Jonand Kate Gosselinbrought this on. They won’t go away, and they’ve dragged their bad parenting blame game so far into the bright center of the media spotlight that it doesn’t even matter I never watched the show. I know who they are and occasionally find myself taking sides, which I shouldn’t. They both seem crazy. Poor kids are so “Truman Show”‘d, there’s probably no hope. But, they did get me thinking about all my old fantasies about having famous parents. The old “I’m really adopted, but one day my real parents will find me, and then everything’s gonna change around here … ” fantasy. You know what I’m talking about… Keep reading »

Lies Parents Tell

Our friends over at Lemondrop hipped us to a new study that says many parents lie to get their children to behave. For instance, parents tell their kids the police will arrest them for crying too much or that if they sit too close to the TV they’ll go blind. When I was younger, my mom didn’t have to make up stories to get me to behave — she just raised her eyebrow. The first raise was a warning, and the second meant I was in big trouble. But she did come up with one big whopper to explain where I came from. She told me she purchased me from the “baby store” and I had a twin sister, but she didn’t have enough available credit on her AmEx to buy both of us. Of course, I didn’t really believe this story at first, but when I met Arianna Harris, who had the same birthday as me, at day camp, I became a little suspicious. Good thing Arianna looked exactly like her parents.

What lies have your parent(s) told you? And what lies do you tell your children? Keep reading »

Mom’s Narcissism Could Be Ruining Your Love Life

I was raised in a household that revolved around my mother. She was a narcissist, someone who, according to Wendy Behary, director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed is “often self-absorbed and preoccupied with a need to achieve the perfect image (recognition, status, or being envied) and have little or no capacity for listening, caring, or understanding the needs of others.” My mom hasn’t been formally diagnosed—few narcissists seek treatment or even recognize that they have a problem—but growing up, the signs were all around me. Read more

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