A couple of months ago I went on a foreign vacation and met a great guy. For a few days we connected, laughed, talked, and had great sex. I left him with a hug and “it was wonderful,” and thought that would be it. I wasn’t going to let myself fall into any “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” unrealistic romance. But once I got home, everything seemed dull without him. The life we’d jokingly talked about having together sounded good. We started emailing a little. Without saying anything about it, I’ve started learning his language and saving money to go back. But I’ve found myself afraid to say anything very serious to my friend … I don’t know what he’s thinking we are. The email flirting is fun, but I don’t know how to bring up the subject of anything more serious without sounding like I’m chasing him or prying (I don’t even know whether he’s started seeing someone else). After all, I was the one who made it clear nothing serious was happening when I left. What do you think I should do? Or am I totally crazy for trying to make a vacation romance into a real one? — In Love, Maybe
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Sometimes when you hit rock bottom, there’s only one place to go – back home with Mom and Dad. As layoffs and overwhelming debt are knocking members of our generation on their asses, many are flocking home to the safety net they couldn’t wait to escape at age 18. There isn’t any shame in going home to catch your breath and regroup, but there’s a way to approach the situation so you really do get back on your feet and avoid causing more angst than the My Chemical Romance blaring from your little brother’s room.
The Frisky hit up Rick Kahler, an NAPFA-registered, fee-only financial advisor and author of four books on financial planning and money psychology, for advice on how to move home and get independent without feeling like you’re re-living the turmoil of your Jordan Catalano-crushing youth all over again. Keep reading »
Congrats to Neil Patrick Harris, who announced this weekend that he and his partner are expecting twins. Sadly, NPH also announced that he is planning to take a break from the biz to be a full-time daddy once the babies arrive. We will miss him, but I’m sure those babies will be stupid cute.
After the jump, some more famous gay men who also became proud papas. Keep reading »
“I’d rather see you strip at Stilettos than take help from the government,” my dad once told me. According to him, the most disgraceful thing I could do was be on the dole. As the daughter of successful New York State Republicans, I was nurtured on the GOP gin ‘n’ juice. But apparently, the bottle was spiked because I grew up to be a gay-loving, liberal, struggling artist.
So, a year ago, when I was fired from my job as a copywriter at an ad agency after six years, due to layoffs, I was forced to register for unemployment. I wanted to find another job, yes, but unlike my Amex Gold Card Member Mama, I didn’t mind having to pay the angry Chinese food delivery man in dimes in the meantime. But I also knew that I’d have to go to great lengths not to let my parents know what was going on. Keep reading »
A black Nigerian couple got quite the shock when wife Angela Ihegboro gave birth to a baby … who is a white, blond-haired, blue-eyed girl. The birth left both parents speechless for several minutes, before the father, Ben, broke the silence with, “What the flip?” What the flip, indeed! Scientists have yet to come up with a solid answer, but have narrowed it down to three theories. Genetics experts believe that baby Nmachi’s differences are a result of a gene mutation, a long-term dormant gene, or a mutated version of an albino gene condition. Regardless of what science figures out, the Ihegboros already have their answer. “She’s a miracle baby,” said Angela. Spoken like a proud mama. [NY Post] Keep reading »
I am a college sophomore who has returned home for the summer for the free food and lodging and a spectacular summer job. Life with my parents is pretty tough though, and we are having a hard time with boundaries. I don’t have a car, so I am dependent on my mother to take me everywhere (she will not allow me in anyone else’s car) and she is pretty selective about where she has time to go. Furthermore, I don’t get a lot of space. We do “family activities” every night (which I love, but there are just too many of them). I have an “approved friends” list of people I’m allowed to spend time with. My parents come into my room late at night after I have wished them good night to “check on me” and make sure that I am not on the computer or phone. After a recent trip to the mall, my mother asked me to show her my underwear purchases to make sure that they were appropriate even though I paid for them with my own money. I love my parents, and really want my family to function in a healthy way, but I am a big girl and I need some more space. Every time I ask for it, however, my parents threaten me with not paying for college or cutting off my phone service, or telling me that I will never achieve my goals. This really isn’t working for me, and I need it to stop. I’m willing to step up for family time, but I am a college student who needs more control over her life. — Space Saver
My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and both just graduated from college. Although I love him dearly and very much want to be with him, I can’t stand his overbearing and controlling parents. They don’t view my boyfriend as an adult whatsoever, and he’s too scared to stand up and say anything because his family is very wealthy and he doesn’t want to be cut off. While his parents aren’t very nice to me, they’re even worse to their son. His dad is verbally and emotionally abusive to all of his brothers, as well as his mom. (My boyfriend has also shared stories of physical abuse, even in recent times!) I had plans to visit my boyfriend this summer, but after a bad experience with his family during his graduation, I’m having seconds thoughts. I don’t want to feel like I’m walking on eggshells and controlled by his family for a week or two — especially when a plane ticket would cost me $800. In fact, whenever I have visited in the past, his parents don’t let us go out by ourselves — not even for dinner or to the movies! When I told my boyfriend how I feel about this, he got mad and said I was asking too much. I’m worried that if I stick it out with him, this will always be a problem and he’ll never put his foot down and say “enough is enough” and set some boundaries. What do I do? — Family Ties
I’m 27 years old and for as long as I’ve been dating, my mom has always gotten in the middle of my relationships. I should preface this by saying that we are very close, I am her only child, and I love her dearly, but this has been a continual problem. She either hates who I am dating (and sometimes with reason) or at the very least creates an “us against him” policy. Recently I moved from my hometown to beautiful Hawaii, and shortly afterward, I met a wonderful guy I started dating. The problem is my parents have a vacation home nearby and my mom came to visit four months ago and hasn’t left, and it’s really beginning to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. She actually likes him, so I thought I was in the clear, but it turns out my boyfriend is jealous of the amount of time I spend with my mom. When he and I began dating, I warned him that this has always been an issue, and he swore he would be supportive, but there’s definitely tension between us. My question is: is it fair for him to get upset about how much time I spend with her? And how can I establish healthy boundaries with my mother once and for all? I love spending time with her, but I also sense our relationship is not healthy because of the guilt I feel. — Mommy Issues
Meeting the parents — you meet his, he meets yours — is always a big milestone in a relationship. But what is less discussed but equally as stressful is when both of your parents meet each other. At some point when things have gotten mucho serious they kind of have to meet, right?
My mother is really into etiquette books and she claims parents should meet each other once there’s an engagement. But I know that’s not true — in fact, my parents have met the parents of a couple of my ex-boyfriends!
Family is hugely important to me and it seems weird that my boyfriend and I spend almost every weekend with one of our families, but they’ve never met each other. Still, I can’t complain. In fact, I’m kind of stressing the big “Meet The Fockers” moment: My mom and dad have zilch in common with my ex-boyfriends’ parents. Keep reading »