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Dater X: How The Heck Have My Parents Been Married For 40 Years?

For most single women out there, New Year’s Eve is a big deal. On December 31st, we’ll get all dolled up—preferably in sequins and heavy eyeliner—and hit the town in our 2011 New Year’s Eve glasses. (Question: How exactly are those going to work?) It’s one of the few nights a year where debaucherous drinking is not only condoned, but encouraged, and where grabbing a random stranger for a makeout session is not only okay, but tradition. The next morning, as we nurse our hangovers, we’ll have the satisfaction of standing up, wiping off the dirt of the past year, and jumping feet first into a new one—a fresh 365 days in which every possibility is open.

Yes, kiss or not, New Year’s Eve should be a great night. But for me, January 2nd will be a much bigger day. See, it’s my parents’ anniversary. As much as I think about it, I still can’t seem to wrap my head around the idea that, in less than a week, my parents will have been husband and wife for 40 freaking years. Keep reading »

Have You Had To Move Back In With Your Folks?

Despite reports to the contrary, the recession seems to be alive and well–especially if you ask those of us in our 20s and 30s who are still looking for jobs, and who might have had to move back home. I know all too well what that’s like. When I was 26, I returned from a graduate program abroad and spent two months living at my parents’ suburban two-story house. It was the home I grew up in, and coming back to it in my mid-20s felt like a grand failure. I spent every day on Craigslist, searching through terrible job after terrible job. I took a series of low-paying positions, and would sometimes work two or three shifts a day, borrowing my parents’ car to get there. I saved some money and was able to put a deposit on a two-bedroom apartment with a friend and regrouped.

Eventually, I got a better job (well, better-paying, at least) and life stabilized. But I’ll never be able to thank my parents enough for allowing me to come home. Have you ever had to move back in with your folks? Keep reading »

Money 101: How To Help Your Parents Through The Recession

It seems like the floundering economy has taken its toll on everyone in some way or another. Maybe you ended up in the unemployment line, or maybe your pantry’s stocked with nothing but store-brand food. And while the financial environment may have led you to cringe whenever you look at your checking account statement, our generation is lucky in that we have plenty of time to recover before we’re ready to start thinking seriously about retirement.

But what about your parents? If they haven’t retired already, they’re probably getting close, and they have much less time to recover if the economy took their finances down with it. Knowing how to help your parents can be tricky, but they may be at a point where they really need you. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Can A Vacation Fling Turn Into The Real Thing?”

A couple of months ago I went on a foreign vacation and met a great guy. For a few days we connected, laughed, talked, and had great sex. I left him with a hug and “it was wonderful,” and thought that would be it. I wasn’t going to let myself fall into any “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” unrealistic romance. But once I got home, everything seemed dull without him. The life we’d jokingly talked about having together sounded good. We started emailing a little. Without saying anything about it, I’ve started learning his language and saving money to go back. But I’ve found myself afraid to say anything very serious to my friend … I don’t know what he’s thinking we are. The email flirting is fun, but I don’t know how to bring up the subject of anything more serious without sounding like I’m chasing him or prying (I don’t even know whether he’s started seeing someone else). After all, I was the one who made it clear nothing serious was happening when I left. What do you think I should do? Or am I totally crazy for trying to make a vacation romance into a real one? — In Love, Maybe

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Money 101: How To Make The Most Of Reverse Empty-Nesting

Sometimes when you hit rock bottom, there’s only one place to go – back home with Mom and Dad. As layoffs and overwhelming debt are knocking members of our generation on their asses, many are flocking home to the safety net they couldn’t wait to escape at age 18. There isn’t any shame in going home to catch your breath and regroup, but there’s a way to approach the situation so you really do get back on your feet and avoid causing more angst than the My Chemical Romance blaring from your little brother’s room.

The Frisky hit up Rick Kahler, an NAPFA-registered, fee-only financial advisor and author of four books on financial planning and money psychology, for advice on how to move home and get independent without feeling like you’re re-living the turmoil of your Jordan Catalano-crushing youth all over again. Keep reading »

Kids Answer The Question: “What Is Love?”

How do kids define love? The Map Is Not the Territory asked real kids: “What is love?” The answers are adorable. A few of our favorites after the jump. Keep reading »

Gay Celebrity Men Who Have Started Families

Congrats to Neil Patrick Harris, who announced this weekend that he and his partner are expecting twins. Sadly, NPH also announced that he is planning to take a break from the biz to be a full-time daddy once the babies arrive. We will miss him, but I’m sure those babies will be stupid cute.

After the jump, some more famous gay men who also became proud papas. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: My Parents Would Freak If They Knew I Was On Unemployment

“I’d rather see you strip at Stilettos than take help from the government,” my dad once told me. According to him, the most disgraceful thing I could do was be on the dole. As the daughter of successful New York State Republicans, I was nurtured on the GOP gin ‘n’ juice. But apparently, the bottle was spiked because I grew up to be a gay-loving, liberal, struggling artist.

So, a year ago, when I was fired from my job as a copywriter at an ad agency after six years, due to layoffs, I was forced to register for unemployment. I wanted to find another job, yes, but unlike my Amex Gold Card Member Mama, I didn’t mind having to pay the angry Chinese food delivery man in dimes in the meantime. But I also knew that I’d have to go to great lengths not to let my parents know what was going on. Keep reading »

Black Parents Confused When They Give Birth To White, Blond Baby

A black Nigerian couple got quite the shock when wife Angela Ihegboro gave birth to a baby … who is a white, blond-haired, blue-eyed girl. The birth left both parents speechless for several minutes, before the father, Ben, broke the silence with, “What the flip?” What the flip, indeed! Scientists have yet to come up with a solid answer, but have narrowed it down to three theories. Genetics experts believe that baby Nmachi’s differences are a result of a gene mutation, a long-term dormant gene, or a mutated version of an albino gene condition. Regardless of what science figures out, the Ihegboros already have their answer. “She’s a miracle baby,” said Angela. Spoken like a proud mama. [NY Post] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Parents Are So Overbearing”

I am a college sophomore who has returned home for the summer for the free food and lodging and a spectacular summer job. Life with my parents is pretty tough though, and we are having a hard time with boundaries. I don’t have a car, so I am dependent on my mother to take me everywhere (she will not allow me in anyone else’s car) and she is pretty selective about where she has time to go. Furthermore, I don’t get a lot of space. We do “family activities” every night (which I love, but there are just too many of them). I have an “approved friends” list of people I’m allowed to spend time with. My parents come into my room late at night after I have wished them good night to “check on me” and make sure that I am not on the computer or phone. After a recent trip to the mall, my mother asked me to show her my underwear purchases to make sure that they were appropriate even though I paid for them with my own money. I love my parents, and really want my family to function in a healthy way, but I am a big girl and I need some more space. Every time I ask for it, however, my parents threaten me with not paying for college or cutting off my phone service, or telling me that I will never achieve my goals. This really isn’t working for me, and I need it to stop. I’m willing to step up for family time, but I am a college student who needs more control over her life. — Space Saver

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