The world of child beauty pageants is like its very own “Twilight Zone” where normal rules of society need not apply. How else to explain the British mom who dressed her four-year-old up in a Hooters uniform? Hooters Toddler appeared in a British documentary “Blinging Up Baby” about the strange world of children’s glam, like getting pedicures, spray tans and hair extentions while still in preschool. Enter Liane Dix, whose daughter Scarlett competes in “U.S. style” child beauty pageants and appears in the doc wearing a tiny Hooters tee shirt and orange short-shorts. According to the UK’s Channel 5 web site, this is all (surprise) the mother’s handiwork. “She would probably be a tomboy if I let her,” Liane is quoted as saying. ”I suppose that’s what I’m influencing onto them, that they don’t do everything wrong that I did when growing up.” I’m just gonna leave that last quote right there for y’all to think about. [Channel 5: Blinging Up Baby; Huffington Post]
A Florida mother gave birth to her fourth baby this past Friday amidst a hell of a controversy. Jennifer Goodall, who has had three previous C-sections, had been hoping to attempt a vaginal birth with her fourth delivery. However, her providers at Bayfront Health Port Charlotte were not on board with her wishes and went as far as saying that they would perform a C-section on Goodall against her will if need be. Earlier this month, Goodall received a letter from the hospital’s Chief Financial Officer informing her that they were going to seek a court order that would allow them to perform a C-section surgery on her without consent. Goodall also learned that the hospital planned to report her to the Department of Children and Family Services, threatening the custody of her other children.
At 41 weeks pregnant, Goodall and her lawyers fought back, but she was still frightened to enter a hospital that threatened to perform surgery on her against her will. In the end, she delivered at another hospital, one that honored her request to attempt a vaginal birth, despite it ending in a fourth cesarean. Goodall was not looking to go against best practices, and she wasn’t even against the idea of a c-section. All she wanted was a shot at birthing her baby vaginally. Keep reading »
In another step towards killing the taboo surrounding the totally normal act that is breastfeeding, Gwen Stefani shared this sweet photo of herself nursing her baby son Apollo. Casually hanging out next to a Swiss mountain makes motherhood a bit more picturesque for her than the average parent, but I’m still loving that she posted this picture. On top of the adorable factor, the blanket Apollo is swaddled in is contributing to AIDS research. The company that sells it, aden + anais, donates portions of proceeds to the charity (RED). Gwen is the coolest, no? [Huffington Post]
In last week’s Mommie Dearest column, I wrote about Debra Harrell, a South Carolina mother who was arrested for “abandoning” her nine-year-old daughter at a park while she worked at a nearby McDonald’s. (Just yesterday we learned that Harrell has been let go from her job.) I had mentioned in my post that Harrell is Black, prompting a few folks to ask why I needed to note her race. Instead of penning my own response, I thought it would be a good idea to hear from women of color who are mothers. We gathered for a virtual roundtable to discuss Harrell’s situation and explorehow race impacts motherhood in the United States today. Meet:
Our conversation begins after the jump: Keep reading »
“My niece was given a date rape drug that weekend. She’s 20-years-old – thank God nothing happened because she was with some responsible guys that took care of her. She was safe because she was with a group of friends that realized – she said, ‘Oh, my god, I can’t feel my … ” and she started losing consciousness. Thank god the people she was with put her in a room, closed the door, and she didn’t come to for three and a half hours. … There is an epidemic going on out here in regards to the treatment of women. We have to figure out how we can empower people in different ways. … I’m not a conventional parent, which I take a lot of pride in. The first thing I had my niece do was sit down with my daughter and a couple of her friends and tell her about that experience. I don’t just sit with Willow and go, ‘hey, this is what Mommy thinks.’ Let me just bring in a little reality to validate what Mommy’s been talking to you about.”
This is Jada Pinkett Smith discussing about #JusticeForJada, the hashtag in support of a 16-year-old girl named Jada, whose sexual assault went viral on the Internet. While speaking at an event on Sunday night and then following up with US Weekly, Pinkett Smith revealed that her niece was roofied the same weekend as Jada’s assault. So the actress asked her niece to sit down with her 13-year-old daughter Willow and talk about the experience — not to scare her, I think, but to open her eyes to rape culture in a very concrete way.
After the jump, Pinkett Smith explained more how she is raising Willow to be confident and assertive: Keep reading »